<>I thought maybe I’d buy a Toyota, since that was what I could afford - or so it seemed. But I had to stop by the Cadillac dealership for some reason that escapes me now. I ran into the Service Manager, who’d become a friend over the years of me bringing my car there for service. He asked where my car was; I told him it’d been totaled. “So, you’re here to buy a new one?” he asked. No, I can’t afford one. “Nonsense! I’ll introduce you to our sales manager, and you’ll drive a Cadillac out of here today!” I laughed, and agreed to meet the sales manager.
<>According to neuroscientists, as you continue to meditate, your brain physically changes, even though you’re not aware of it reshaping itself. They’re also beginning to understand why meditation is effective for managing stress. Using brain imaging techniques, scientists have observed changes in the threat system of the brain. The response kicks-off in the amygdala, the part of the brain responsible for triggering fear. People who suffer from chronic anxiety have a more reactive amygdala, and this leaves them feeling threatened much of the time.
<>In the past I had a relationship, it was messy and unorganized. All I would do is worry Id lose her. That was my biggest fear. And I thought about it almost everyday. And one day I did. It was hard, but I learned from my mistake. I lost her so I could find someone better. Someone who fits perfectly to my soul. Someone who I feel so at home and comfortable with. And instead of worrying about me losing her, im celebrating with joy, and im excited to grow in life with her and get old.
<>“Continuing my journey to my soul mate, I have seen loving couples (including couples kissing passionately like teenagers in business and shopping centre). Whereas I would have previously felt more lonely seeing this- I thought ‘good for them’ and appreciated them. I learnt at one of your workshops that appreciation means increase- and a benefit of blessing meant that more love has been coming my way. A friend asked if I would like to be set up on a date with ‘someone who was just perfect for me’. This hasn’t happened for four years!!”
<>“I wanted to write in and thank you and share a testimonial about your work that may help others: I had tried it all- online dating, offline dating, blind dates- you name it. After doing your workshop about love a few years ago I realised that I was trying too hard to ‘make it happen’ out of fear that if I didn’t do anything, nothing would happen. But nothing was happening even with all my work- worse than nothing actually- a lot of pain and disappointment. The more I dated the more doubtful I became that I’d ever meet ‘the one’. So I threw myself into my work, writing every day on the Universe List to ‘Bring me my husband in the perfect time’ and ‘bring me more interests’. I also started doing a daily appreciation list and got involved in some new projects to distract me from my dating obsession.
<>The great thing about being after a feeling is we can conjure it up anytime we want, regardless of what is happening now. What feelings are you seeking? How can you feel that way now? What can you focus on in your present reality that makes you feel abundant? Even though I wasn’t thrilled I was literally living off credit cards, I shifted perspective, and developed a sense of appreciation for having them as an option. I focused on the sense of security I felt from having my rent paid for the month, and knowing I could buy food and was not going to starve.
<>It’s important to understand that mindfulness isn’t about changing anything or trying to understand it. This is because the analytical and judgement aspects — our automatic reactions — are unhealthy and actually perpetuate the problem. It reinforces the connection in our brain between the action and the negative feeling. To release that connection, approach it without judgement. Let it be.
<>A wish box is an interesting approach. I had done something similar years ago. I created a box, colored it pink and then put in it all the words and a picture of a person I wanted to meet. I put the box away and didn’t think about it much. About six months or so later, I met a guy that looked so similar to the one I wanted to meet, it was scary! A bell definitely went off.
<>When it comes to interest in law of attraction, I would have to say the two things people are most trying to get is love or money, perhaps both at the same time. Relationships can be a tricky area of manifestation, not because it is inherently harder to attract them than other things, but because of all the ‘stuff’ we have built up over the years that lays heavy in our vibration. We have all sorts of beliefs that tell us we aren’t good enough. Our past failed romantic endeavors are etched into our minds, and we are convinced we can’t experience anything different. We worry we will never meet someone, or that we will have to settle for less than what we want.We stay in relationships that we know aren’t right for fear we won’t find something better.
<>When you understand the law of attraction works by delivering you experiences that you are a match to now energetically, you come to realize the importance of feeling good now, and not putting all your focus on the undesirable bits of "what is." This doesn't mean pretending to be okay with things you don't like, but actually adopting a different perspective, and actually feeling better.
<>“There was someone who I liked. Well, it was more than ‘liked’. When I finally got the courage to speak to her after several months and tell her my feelings, she was very direct with me- looking me straight in the eye and saying “It’s never going to happen. I only see you as a friend”. I was absolutely crushed and also shocked- my guidance was normally very precise. But I also knew how guided she was, too. Despite her certainty, I couldn’t get her off my mind and felt very down about it. It’s awful wanting something so much which you simultaneously think is ‘impossible’ to achieve. These thoughts of longing lasted many months until finally, when it all got too much, I decided to give the processes a go. I began doing the Universe List. I ‘gave up’ trying to impress her, trying to be ‘good enough’ and trying in general. I fully embraced the situation and decided to release the control (which wasn’t working anyway). I said to the Universe, “if I’m meant to be with her I will be and if I’m not- so be it”. And I meant it, this time. Within days, we met up, and suddenly she expressed how she didn’t know what was going on but she saw me in a different light. My friends say it was like the uplifting ‘twist’ at the end of one of those crowd-pleasing Hollywood movies- something that doesn’t happen in real life. But it was happening, to me! Now, a year later, we are blissfully happy. We are experiencing what I have read described in spiritual literature as a ‘twin flame’ relationship. The biggest gift this situation brought me, though, is that when you give it all up to the Universe- things beyond your wildest imaginings can happen. It taught me surrender- which has caused all aspects of my life to flourish like never before. I have to add that The Law of Attraction Centre’s groups, workshops and community have been instrumental in assisting me making my life work.”
<>“There was someone who I liked. Well, it was more than ‘liked’. When I finally got the courage to speak to her after several months and tell her my feelings, she was very direct with me- looking me straight in the eye and saying “It’s never going to happen. I only see you as a friend”. I was absolutely crushed and also shocked- my guidance was normally very precise. But I also knew how guided she was, too. Despite her certainty, I couldn’t get her off my mind and felt very down about it. It’s awful wanting something so much which you simultaneously think is ‘impossible’ to achieve. These thoughts of longing lasted many months until finally, when it all got too much, I decided to give the processes a go. I began doing the Universe List. I ‘gave up’ trying to impress her, trying to be ‘good enough’ and trying in general. I fully embraced the situation and decided to release the control (which wasn’t working anyway). I said to the Universe, “if I’m meant to be with her I will be and if I’m not- so be it”. And I meant it, this time. Within days, we met up, and suddenly she expressed how she didn’t know what was going on but she saw me in a different light. My friends say it was like the uplifting ‘twist’ at the end of one of those crowd-pleasing Hollywood movies- something that doesn’t happen in real life. But it was happening, to me! Now, a year later, we are blissfully happy. We are experiencing what I have read described in spiritual literature as a ‘twin flame’ relationship. The biggest gift this situation brought me, though, is that when you give it all up to the Universe- things beyond your wildest imaginings can happen. It taught me surrender- which has caused all aspects of my life to flourish like never before. I have to add that The Law of Attraction Centre’s groups, workshops and community have been instrumental in assisting me making my life work.”
<>But again, theory, and real world application, are quite different, because of that good old resistance. Just wanting a great relationship isn't enough if you have a lot of blocks around allowing one in. You have to believe you can truly have one. When you think about meeting that perfect person for you, and it doesn't feel good, you have to examine that.
<>The Law of Attraction operates based on your unconscious mind. This means that whatever you’ve got going on inside will determine the things that are brought to you on the outside. The goal is to recognize recurring patterns as quickly as possible, so you can reconcile internal issues and get your ship sailing smoothly again. You see the signs and oftentimes you consciously choose to ignore them. The more you ignore the signs, the stronger they become, though. A big part of cleaning up what you’re attracting externally is to become aware of what you have going on internally.
<>I could not get unstuck and nothing happend. My sister said just keep “feeling good” like it has already happened and DO something… ANYthing, even if it is not to do with that project. I got out and made enquiries about loans to develop it knowing I would not qualify but deciding to believe. (my goal was to make one hundred thousand pounds profit and i visualized it in my account.
<>I realized that I could choose not to worry about my mounting debt that came from using my credit cards—it certainly wasn’t going to kill me. When I started making money again, I paid it off. I realized I could choose to focus on the fact that my needs were being taken care of—even if not in the most ideal way—and not that I currently had no income.
<>“After a long time of avoiding dating because I was finding it more of an endurance test than anything fun – I have had a breakthrough thanks to your coaching. Firstly I am attracting my type physically – and also men who respect me. I am less needy and co-dependent. One of the keys is that I learned how to really respect and value myself – and put that into practice. This is a total new way of being for me – it’s certainly a bright new year for me already – and we’re only a few days in, so thank you!”
<>I hope you found this post enlightening, and it instilled a sense of hope in you, a spark of possibility that the relationship you want, not just any relationship, can happen for you. Please let me know your thoughts in the comments. What part resonated with you the most? Did you have any insights into your own situation reading this? Do you have any tips to share about attracting love? Looking forward to reading your comments and having a chat!
<>P.s. My Boyfriend did not help me with this. I project managed the whole thing myself, with invaluable help of a carpenter friend. I knew nothing about building industry and all the workers said it can’t be done in 60 days and said how from their years of experience it would take 6 months if i was lucky. We argued and argued until we all saw it MY way and then we got on with it :)
<>I really enjoy reading your posts and learning about opening up to deep and fulfilling love. After heart shattering loss over the course of the last two years I am now in the process of putting myself back together again. It’s still pretty messy but I really want to learn to love myself and be the best version of myself, for me and for my soulmate who I know is out there waiting for me to be ready for forever.
<>For example, if you’re looking to create more income or manifest a big payday, you need to plan around that expectation. Imagine when someone tells you that they’re coming to visit and they’ll be staying at your house in the guest bedroom. You plan your life in accordance with that expected outcome. You prepare the bedroom, clean the house, wash the sheets, and so on.
<>I’d been with this man half my life, since we were sixteen years old. We had an eight-year marriage and shared three beautiful children, including twin girls just over a year old. We’d been through it all: buying our first home, then losing it in foreclosure; being overjoyed when I got pregnant with our second child, then devastated when I lost it six months into my pregnancy. I thought we’d seen everything, but this I never saw coming. 
<>You are greater than what is going on around you. Your relationship with yourself is your most important relationship. What’s happened happened. It’s in the past and you can’t change it. It sucks, but it’s happened. You can still change what happens in the future. Focus on getting to a place where you feel better. The happier and more joyful you feel, the more positive results you will see.
<>“Various people told me they had a feeling I was going to meet my life partner – but it had been such a long time alone and I wasn’t so sure. Your workshop and my commitment to the practices such as Appreciation and the incredible Focusing Process got me to start enjoying what I already had and feel a little more optimistic. My life was going by and I was missing out because of my obsession with this one thing being ‘missing’. And so I decided to more involve myself in my career and redecorate my home. I also joined a gym and several social groups – something which was alien to me. As a result, I simply didn’t have time to be lonely. And then, just as they say ‘when you’re not looking for it’, I met my partner through one of the groups! What I really like about The Law of Attraction Centre is that it genuinely does change people’s lives rather than making false promises. It’s reassuring to know that you are teaching what works… I now live in Paris in what is considered to be the ‘best’ part: this is what I used to dream about when I was younger. I look forward to visiting and seeing everyone again at the groups this Summer. My partner is ‘into’ Law of Attraction too, of course, so perhaps I will bring him along.”
<>Another funny incident was when I was playing 2 cent video poker at the casino. I had a cigarette but no lighter, and no one around me had a lighter. When I left the casino, I asked a woman outside for a light. We got to talking about lighters and cigarettes, and I exclaimed with passion, “From now on I’m going to carry a lighter in my car.” Two days later when I went out to get the mail, I found a lighter on my porch.
<>“Success is becoming effortless- and this isn’t just another of those ‘new age’ one-liners. It took effort on my part, and it took some time, but life is easier than it used to be, and certainly more exciting. Thank you for your encouragement and examples of what’s possible – and the vibe of the groups which are amazing. A few weeks ago I read in the newspaper about one particular celebrity I hadn’t really heard of before and had a fleeting thought of how I would like her as a client… A week later I was sitting in a beautiful home with a new friend I had met ‘at random’, who mentioned that this woman was a client and friend of hers and would I like to be introduced?! Things seem to be flowing like that for me in all areas – dating, too, seems easier. The key is certainly that the less I am overthinking and relaxing (and your groups and techniques have totally helped with this like no other), the better life works. Highly recommended.”
<>It’s important to understand that mindfulness isn’t about changing anything or trying to understand it. This is because the analytical and judgement aspects — our automatic reactions — are unhealthy and actually perpetuate the problem. It reinforces the connection in our brain between the action and the negative feeling. To release that connection, approach it without judgement. Let it be.
<>As with all Law of Attraction work, trying to manifest love requires you look at the underlying assumption that holds you back. In this case, limiting beliefs that might block you from finding love. Try to write them down first. Then identify where they came from. Most importantly, write down a contradictory belief that you can then turn into a daily affirmation. Here is an article to get you started with three tips for creating powerful affirmations.

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