<>Shelly Bullard, MFT is a Marriage and Family Therapist, Love Coach and Spiritual Teacher. She's the author of the eBook: How to Become the Most Attractive Version of Yourself which she offers for FREE (click here to receive your free copy). She's also the instructor of the popular mbg courses: How To Become The Most Attractive Version of Yourself & How to Attract a Partner Who's Ready for Deep, Devoted Love. Shelly believes that when you access the experience of Love within yourself, your relationships become deeply fulfilling and you become the person you’re meant to be. She was named the “Love Guru” as one of the 100 Women to Watch in Wellness by mindbodygreen, and her deepest passion is living and practicing love and relationships as a spiritual path. To learn more about how she can help you create more love in your life, visit her at: shellybullard.com.
<>Learning how to connect with yourself has a lot to do with tuning into your own need. Consequently, then meeting those needs. When you make a habit of this, you’re much more able to attract love with someone who will nurture you. One way to ensure you take better care of yourself while you’re looking for love is to set aside an hour a day where you commit to pursuing a hobby you love! This should be no matter what other, more “productive” things you could be doing.
<>“I was feeling so resentful about a situation and couldn’t see a way out of it. I had been to therapy every week for several years- sometimes twice a week- but I just kept coming back to the same subject which wouldn’t seem to go away. Then, a friend who I was talking to recommended your centre. I committed to the schedule- and slowly but surely, I have released this thought pattern and changed my beliefs. I started to feel solutions make themselves known to me rather than struggling to find them – It was more of a relaxation than a trying; as you said a ‘revealing’ rather than a ‘making things happen’. One more thing is the practices have made me look (and feel) more attractive and younger, which I wasn’t expecting. My skin looks great and friends have even asked what my secret is or what skincare range or cosmetic procedure I have had done. And I haven’t done any of that- it’s all through aligning my thoughts and letting go of past pain through your work.”
<>And this shows you are on the right path, but all too often we twist it. We lament those people that share the same interests as us, or with whom we had those great conversations, didn’t ask for our number. We feel bummed when that date we thought would be so great, turned out to be not the best match. We think we are still not getting what we want, or there is still something ‘wrong’ with us.
<>And then, sometimes I think that the current relationship will eventually end in some way if the person working consciously with LOA makes such dramatic shifts that she and her current partner are just too far away from each other vibrationally. This could definitely happen without your ending it specifically–the other person could end it, it could be mutual and amicable, something could happen that creates a large rift and you both can’t see a way to move past it, or you may decide to end it and it won’t feel as scary as it may currently because you just know it is the right thing to do. I don’t think being unhappy with a relationship as it currently is now is an absolute sign that it is not right..ultimately, it depends on so many individual factors, and as the person doing the LOA work gets deeper and more in touch with what is happening, she will have a sense of what she really wants and how she thinks it will play out. It does take a degree of honesty that can feel a bit uncomfortable, but necessary.
<>“I am writing this from Mexico, my hometown. I used to visit your group back in 2010, every week. I probably was only not there for two weeks out of the whole year, I was that much of a regular. Well, thanks to your teachings, my business expanded so much I couldn’t come along anymore- nothing else would have stopped me… And I ended up moving back home to personally oversee this expansion. You remarked to me about my weight loss and how much younger I looked and others in the group did too- and so did my friends and family. Remember when you used to talk about going to the gym? Well I started going and I also took this kind of discipline into my practices- and what a difference! I ended up with more confidence. And I ended up marrying that ‘special woman’ I told you about meeting and we now have two children. I remember saying in the group that one day my story would be one of your ‘success stories’ – and here it is. I will always be grateful to your no-nonsense, transformational approach and how it changed my life. Happy New Year to you and everyone at the group.”
<>Focus on understanding your part in this overall process, rather than feeling guilty or ashamed. Recognizing how your fears have manifested in your life does not mean that the bad things in your life are your fault. It simply means that the Law of Attraction has responded to the signal you sent out. Just acknowledge that the system works and your new awareness will guide you. No need to shame yourself or even feel responsible.
<>“I wanted to improve my confidence of speaking in public, having been nervous of introducing myself at groups and events. So I wrote ‘Bring me more confidence’ and ‘Allow me to feel more confident’ and ‘Make me a good public speaker’ on the exercise we did. Several days later at work I was chosen to lead a speech to thousands of people, and it was something important in a way that I had no way of backing out of. Although I was instantly shocked and still feeling a little nervous, I had to laugh as it was an answer to my prayers: I get that it was almost as if the Universe just went ahead by ‘booking’ me to do this, realising that by actually doing it (not just thinking about it) I will become the confident speaker I want to be.”
<>I am not criticizing the LOA, I am in deep search of the true principle. I am even exploring it to it’s origins to try and see where it came from and who was REALLY successful with it. And unfortunately it comes down to the fact that the richest people from the LOA are the people who sell the theory. I don’t believe in Rhonda neither in any participants to THE SECRET. The only people whose theories I still believe in are Wallace Wattles and Florence Scovell-Shinn.
<>Maybe you have tons of bills to pay, and you don’t know how you’re going to come up with the money. Therefore, you walk around thinking about how you don’t have enough money and what’s going to happen to you if you don’t get the money. This thinking fuels an uncomfortable feeling state that attracts more debt instead of your intention to attract more money.
<>Your experience is a common one with manifesting, regardless of the desire. We do all this work, inner and outer, we don’t get the results we want, we get super-pissed, say f$ck it, and give up. Then usually some good stuff comes in from the positive momentum that has been built up, now that the massive resistance has diminished. Now, while doing a lot of stuff that makes us feel badly, or taking a lot of action for a long time without results, usually leads us to a point where we surrender, it is not the best approach to take because it isn’t necessary. It’s not something you want to consciously do. You don’t want to force yourself into surrender. You can take action if you feel compelled, but just make sure it feels good, and you don’t get attached to those channels as being the way that person must come to you.
<> He is an Australian American Actor, Producer, Director , Entrepreneur and BODY BUILDER used law of attraction for his success. As per him When he was very young he visualized himself being and having what it was he always wanted. Mentally he never had any doubts about it. He know that the mind is really so incredible. He visualized myself being a famous actor and earning big money. He could feel and taste success. He just knew it would all happen.
<>Hi. I was in a relationship with a guy for awhile but we split in 2008. Since then he has had a girlfriend and I think they still live together. I have dated since then but have been unsuccessful in finding that combustible chemistry that I had with him, with someone else. We would always reconnect on and off throughout the entire time we were broken up until last year. We both sort of faded and haven’t been in touch for about a year and 6 months now. We may not be meant to be together but I miss the initial friendship we had prior to us being in a relationship; we were so close and complimented each other well. I have let go, forgiven and accepted what was and what is but recently felt intense energy wanting him back in my life and it’s never been this intense since the first couple of months following the breakup. I have been single ever since, but have gone on plenty dates as I am never lacking suitors. I am no longer in love with him but I do still love him and miss his presence, chemistry, companionship and energy. I have accomplished many goals that I’ve set but there’s this void that has yet to be satisfied, which I’m afraid can only be fulfilled by him or someone/something similar. I’ve read that letting go will attract, which I have done but he hasn’t completely come back. I never pressure, I play it cool and may even come off passive. When we reconnect, I hide my hurt and heart and don’t mention getting back together because I feel we’re not at the point yet. I was his first girlfriend and he was my first boyfriend as well. I’ve given it space, time and room to breath as I trust in divine intervention as well as universal laws. I’ve thought happy and positive thoughts, I’ve even tried to create visuals in my mind but nada. What could be going on? I miss him a lot.
<>That’s a great story. I would like to share with you how I manifested my dream job. I got a job I very much disliked at a biopharmaceutical company 8 months after getting my masters degree. But because it took me that long to get a job, it was somewhat precious to me. However, after one year, I was even more miserable and burnt out that I ever was and decided that enough is enough. I took the leap of faith and quit without any other job lined up. I took the time and freedom to explore what I really wanted to do and discovered my passion in the human resources field. However, the HR industry in my country is quite immature and I could not find any positions that fitted into my aspirations, goals, capacity and capabilities. I applied to many HR position half-heartedly. I have a long standing desire to move abroad but was unsure on how to make it happen. After 11 months of unsuccessful attempts, I intensely decided that I will be getting a job offer for a dream position from abroad NOW. I created a Manifestation Book and wrote down daily entries of getting a great job and an amazing location. A couple of days later I came across a job advertisement for a HR position in Germany. The position was all that I could ask for in a job. I applied to it. For the next 30+ days, I spent most of my waking hours believing that the job is mine. I did everything it took to train my mind that I am getting the job. Besides the daily journal entry, I sent job offer emails to myself and also recorded myself affirming about getting the job and listened to it before going to sleep. About 10 days after the closing date of the application, I received and email from the company inviting me to the Assessment Centre in Germany!! The interview and assessments went smoothly and a week later they offered me the job! The salary is great, the company is huge and famous and most importantly it is the job I had dreamed of and a dream location. I am starting on December 1st 2014 in Germany and very much looking forward to it. The Universe has given me what I wished for. If you really want something and believe with unshakable faith that you will have it, the whole Universe will conspire to make it happen!
<>Phil, your blog was super awesome! I have immersed myself in LOA finally after years of not knowing the steps, and realizing it takes daily practice and filling your mind with positive enforcement of these principles. In fact, I just realized a dream of mine to become a writer and publish a book, and this has just happened this week! I am not a disciplined writer, but I got inspired by a self publisher and decided to try that, and it has worked beautifully, plus the book seemed to write itself, which was on The Law of Attraction and certain things I went into more depth on than the movie, The secret did. I enjoyed the movie, but did not find anything worked for me after watching it. I am so glad to see so many people with positive comments, and I wish everyone continued manifesting success!
<>“I was feeling unsure about something, and I took a walk to get an answer. In my path a woman was standing in my way, I felt a flash of annoyance come over me until I looked down and noticed a bag she was carrying with an unusual motif saying ANGEL MICHAEL. This got me to pay attention to signs. Later on that day I saw a sign on the side of a lorry which led me to the exact answer I was looking for! And the other day, I put on the Universe List ‘sort out my style’ and I discovered a new haircut idea later that day I’d never tried which looks great on me, and also a new outfit (made up of clothes I already had). The next day I got ‘randomly’ introduced to an image consultant, too. I’ve suddenly got interested in fashion. It was only when I sat to do my appreciation list later that I realised how quickly my Universe List requests had been answered. The thing is, I was ‘trying’ to make these things happen before and it wasn’t working. It seems when you relax and let life unfold rather than forcing things to happen that it all happens.”
<>True love is all about being caring about each others needs and desires. Love is affectionate, virtuous, passionate and sweet. But, no matter how you define love, if your relationship lacks support and care, it’s not love. Love is about being with each other during all phases of life – good or bad. Caring is the first and most common trait of being in “Love”.
<>Nice to see you around here again! Thanks so much for your comment and so glad you liked the post. You make an excellent point about how we can sometimes make ‘money’ the how as there are lots of ways we can experience the things we think can only come through money. That is great you have a routine that makes you feel good…that repetition is often a key to really reconditioning our minds. That makes perfect sense and is exactly what we want to accomplish…feeling the feelings now as if what we want is already here.
<>Here’s another crucial point as we discuss the Law of Attraction Love…your people will deliver, each and every time — that which you are focused on in them. Being that like attracts like, it’s difficult to attract the relationships that you are seeking at home, work and life by standing in the place of judgment, fault finding, and finger pointing.  Give love, get love.
<>When we don’t treat ourselves well, that is a sign of low self-esteem; it sends a message we are not ‘worthy’ of love and care. And guess what will be reflected back into your reality? Taking better care of yourself, and treating yourself with the respect and love you deserve, will help shore up beliefs that say ‘I am good enough.’ ‘I deserve someone who treats me well.’
<>Meditation can be used to manifest brain energy efficiency this allows the law of attraction to work bringing mind, body and soul the source energy into balance and harmony, I have manifested more wisdom, selflessness, unconditional love, inner strength and inner happiness. I now only want only what all can have I have manifested more goodness/energy efficiency, with more left brain logical/positive thought and no right brain anxiety based thought I can see that if all can not have it I do not want it.
<>You can use a specific date if you want. I usually caution people not to use specific dates because it causes a problem for most people. They become fixated on the date and, as the date approaches, they begin to start blocking themselves from receiving what they want. They begin wondering if it’ll show up, wondering what it hasn’t shown up, etc. Their desire really could be on its way to manifesting by the date, but they don’t see it and end up creating a lot of fear and resistance that prevents the desire from manifesting.
<>I was in a ten year relationship with my child’s father, but he was a cheater. Eventually I started seeing other people years down the line, mind you our relationship was up and down. Long story short I became pregnant with another’s man baby, which was hurtful to the both of us. I still felt a sense of this happening wasn’t all my fault I feel like he played a role as well. I used to beg him to get our relationship back on track for about three years so finally I gave up because of continuous cheating. Well finally last year we I thought we were getting somewhere and boom came to find out the cheating never stopped, well I left again to begin a new relationship which didn’t work out either plus here’s another baby on the way. Finally the guy that I was with for ten years we started seeing each other again during my pregnancy, but the catch is he wants me to give up baby for adoption. We were broken up for seven months and really I feel my child isn’t his business. Nonetheless, for some odd reason I still love and want to be with him, but if he can’t accept the children, then I have to depart from him. How do me and the children attract him for a positive family oriented relationship?
<>In many cases, the underlying issue, when it is broken down to its absolute core, is fear of some kind. Fear that people won’t think we are good enough. Fear of being vulnerable to someone. Fear of actually being happy—yeah, lots of people are actually afraid of that. We get so wrapped up in our crap and it becomes such a strong part of our identity, we may not actually know who we are without all the stories we tell ourselves. If you identify yourself as the perpetually single person, an asshole magnet or simply ‘unlucky’ in love, who are you without those labels?
<>Thank so much chitownblu! You’re right that getting rid of resistance and attachment are key. Tapping works well for this. Also, remember to focus on what you want. You descussed that you’re aware your desire has not manifested. That’s living from a point of what is, not from what you want. You’re giving energy to creating more of what you don’t want by doing this. It could also be a factor in things not attracting your specific person as your vibration is closer to alignment with not being with him, than being with him.
<>It’s difficult to free yourself completely from doubt, fear or feeling as though you don’t deserve something. Your instinct might try to combat those feelings using negative thoughts like, “Don’t be afraid” or even direct conflicts like, “You deserve this.” Unfortunately, such methods are ineffective and simply don’t work because they reinforce negative thoughts and feelings.
<>Israel Regardie published books with the Law of Attraction theme as one of his prevailing Universal Laws. In, The Art of True Healing: A Treatise on the Mechanism of Prayer and the Operation of the Law of Attraction in Nature (1937), he taught a focused meditation technique to help the mind to learn to heal itself on a physical and spiritual level. Regardie claimed that the Law of Attraction was a valid method for attracting good physical health and for improvement in any aspect of one's life.[63]
<>Hello there, I am here to share with you my work and research on the law of manifestation, and how you can apply it into your life to manifest whatever you desire in your life, including money, a job, a girlfriend...etc. The research took me more than two years to only scratch the surface of the truth of this "law" and I finally was able to apply it to myself and get what I always wanted :D I manifested a new phone, a computer and an expensive guitar. Basically this law states that you should focus all your senses and thoughts, feelings, emotions, actions, attitude, belief,and ENERGY on what you're wanting to attract or manifest in your life. You may have heard of this as the law of attraction but, the law of manifestation is much advanced and deep for quicker results. On one hand the law of attractions states that you must focus only your thoughts and feelings on the desired Item or state of mind you're wanting to attract on the other hand the law of manifestation applies not just for thoughts and feelings but also, for Imagination, Visiualization, Belief, Attitude, ENERGY and love <3. And with love i say THANK YOU for taking the
<>“Various people told me they had a feeling I was going to meet my life partner – but it had been such a long time alone and I wasn’t so sure. Your workshop and my commitment to the practices such as Appreciation and the incredible Focusing Process got me to start enjoying what I already had and feel a little more optimistic. My life was going by and I was missing out because of my obsession with this one thing being ‘missing’. And so I decided to more involve myself in my career and redecorate my home. I also joined a gym and several social groups – something which was alien to me. As a result, I simply didn’t have time to be lonely. And then, just as they say ‘when you’re not looking for it’, I met my partner through one of the groups! What I really like about The Law of Attraction Centre is that it genuinely does change people’s lives rather than making false promises. It’s reassuring to know that you are teaching what works… I now live in Paris in what is considered to be the ‘best’ part: this is what I used to dream about when I was younger. I look forward to visiting and seeing everyone again at the groups this Summer. My partner is ‘into’ Law of Attraction too, of course, so perhaps I will bring him along.”
<>Another thing about feelings—get yourself out of situations that don’t feel like what you want. You don’t have to compromise or settle. You don’t have to experience a bunch of stuff that feels badly to also experience that which feels good. As you shore up your good energy, and stick to your standards and boundaries, these types of situations will naturally decrease, and at some point, move out of your experience completely.
<>Tris Thorp is one of today’s leading experts in the field of emotional healing. Having spent the last decade traveling the world, being trained by and sharing the stage with Dr. Deepak Chopra in the field of consciousness and mindfulness-based practices, Tris has a real gift for integrating the ancient spiritual teachings with modern-day mindfulness to help people all over the world let go of their past and create an empowered new future. You can learn all about her approach to emotional healing in her latest book, Healing Your Heart: Rewrite Your Story with Awareness and Intention , available now. Tris is Board...Read more
<>“Since your workshop on Finding Love I have ‘found’ my ideal relationship- but it was in a different way to how I thought! And it’s all from writing lists of appreciation about my current partner and my current life. I refused to dwell on what was annoying me about him… I also focused on how it would feel in my ideal relationship. And what happened was this: my existing relationship has transformed. I was about to leave so it’s particularly strange. I transformed my attitude- and he transformed. I haven’t settled; I’m deeper in love than I’ve ever been. A good tip to share is I left all the ‘how’s’ and ‘who’s’ to the Universe thanks to the Universe List and, as ever, the Universe delivers. I highly recommend your work- and that’s no small thing coming from a self-confessed ‘workshop junkie’.”
<>After you’ve cleared out the negative thoughts that can hinder you from attracting money, you should make a decision about the exact amount of money you want to attract. Set a specific income goal. Don’t worry about how it will come at this point. Simply write it down boldly and put it where you will see it just before you sleep and immediately you wake up.
<>I want to point out at this time that I’ve been very lucky along the way, and one of the greatest strokes of luck in my life was to have known at a young age (around 16 years old) what I wanted to do ‘when I grew up’. For some reason, I’ve been fixated on helping people to change. To transform. To live a better life. It truly is what I was born to do.
<>Gabriel…I have been going for energy healing sessions since years now and have been working on myself…..I must admit that I still have apprehensions on manifesting my soulmate desires and often wallow on self pity despite all the inner work I have been doing…..however, reading this article today has completely opened my heart and mind and given me so much hope and positivity…..you are absolutely right in quoting that our soulmates are within us all along…..I would like to express my heartfelt gratitude to you for writing such an articulate, poignant and powerful article for us…..thank you so much for opening our heart to love and creating our own reality……thank you for telling us that IT IS possible and IT exists for each of us…….much love
<>Imagine listening to an orchestra whose musical instruments aren’t in harmony with each other. There would be a lot of sound coming from the instruments, but it probably wouldn’t sound very good. What I want you to understand is that you have to create an internal symphony between the conscious mind and the subconscious mind – between your vision, goals, beliefs and your habits.
<>When you understand the answers to these types of questions about manifesting your soulmate, your mind and heart begin to focus on trying to find love that is based on true mutual understanding and excitement. You can do all kinds of creative techniques to bolster the designing of your life partner. For example, Law of Attraction experts recommend daily visualization exercises in which you conjure up a vivid sense of what your life partner would be like. Meanwhile, you can also create a dream board that represents all the traits you’re looking for and your image of how this relationship will improve your life.

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