<>You can’t control others, but you can control yourself.  You can control how you choose to perceive and feel. This is the oldest piece of empowerment psychology out there, but it’s so true.  It starts with you on every single level.  The love and relationships that you want to experience start with self.  How’s your relationship with you?  It’s time to transform it, and never stop.
<>“I’ve got something to report since your incredible Finding Love workshop: After writing my requests on the Universe List – which I love – firstly, I bumped into several of my exes, and the encounters showed me I was over them. Then I started to attract seeing loving couples in the media. Following this, I ‘caught eyes’ with someone on the bus who seemed to like me, but rather than panic and rush and give him my number, I relaxed into the thought of perfect timing. Just yesterday someone new started at work and I can feel a real connection with him. The amazing news is that none of this kind of excitement or interest has happened to me in years, and it’s all clearly directly due to the techniques you taught me and I applied. It’s only been about a week since your workshop and this is a great sign of things to come. Best of all I don’t feel ‘needy’, I feel relaxed in my worthiness and confidence… For the first time, I feel like quite a catch!”
<>Hi there. I have tried but haven’t had any real success. Is there a way you coach people on this? Also I am just not able to find the right person in my life. i liked somebody but he never was able to like me. He is not dating anyone at the moment. But however he is closed to the idea of love somehow and settling down. Its not me here. It is his resistance to romantic involvement. We don’t really see each other and he has kept distance because he doesn’t want to be in love or marry at all. I am 29 and he is 36. Can you please suggest a way.
<>“Someone in this week’s group suggested to put on the Universe List things that you don’t really care happen or not; random things like leprechauns or unicorns. The stories I heard were inspiring; I suppose because you have no resistance at all when asking for random things- they seem to show up quickly for people- and it seems to be a great way to ‘test’ the Universe. A girl mentioned pink elephants- so that’s exactly what I put on my Universe List. The next day, I was taking the bus somewhere and I looked and there on the skyscraper was a picture of a large pink elephant.”
<>I love this guy for more than 1 year. We had a short relationship, I really loved him but he didn’t pay much attention to my feelings. I started to doubt if he really loves me or just want to sleep with me. He didn’t call me or even text me regularly except the times he need to have se’x ! I couldn’t believe that he was a jerk! He sometimes treated me well and appreciated my kindness to him. Now after 1 year I can’t forget him or be with other guys. I think he didn’t love me and this thought make me hate him ! What should I do? I can’t focus on my own life.
<>No, not psychic 🙂 I think a lot of people can relate to this, so you are certainly not alone in that! I think that was a really great decision..focusing on ourselves, recharging and what have you is one of the most effective ways to let love in our lives from an attraction perspective. The better you feel about yourself and life overall, when you are ready to get back in the game, you’ll meet people for sure. Relinquishing that control is key..not always easy but it makes the process so much easier when we don’t try to micromanage the process of infinite creation with our puny little brains 🙂 Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts!
<>“I was doing my weekly food shop and had driven to the supermarket and parked in the car park. After doing my shopping I returned to my car and it wouldn’t start, the key turned and all of the electronic functions such as the radio and lights were working but the engine did not turn over. I started to feel overwhelmed thinking about everything that I needed to do and how should I resolve this, who to call for assistance etc.. Then I thought, knowing everything that I know about that Law of Attraction, that I would spend ten minutes doing the Focusing Process on my car working and that then I would decide what to do. So I took out my notebook and wrote in the middle ‘Car working perfectly’. Then I wrote things that matched the feeling of that such as ‘My car starting perfectly earlier’ and ‘A new battery having been fitted recently’. I also texted a friend who is into the Law of Attraction and asked them if they could envision my car going perfectly and they wrote back that they had focused on that. After completing the Focusing Process I turned the key and the car started first time! I knew that Source energy and the angels had most definitely helped me with this.”
<>“I was very focused on a particular person and wanting them to like me. Based on what I learnt at a Law of Attraction Centre workshop I decided to practice loving thoughts about what I liked about people rather than thinking about what they thought about me. I spent 15 minutes making a list of the Positive Aspects of a previous partner and the current person I liked. After this I realised that I had felt negative not because of how they did or didn’t feel about me but because I wasn’t thinking lovingly about them. And then guess what, they got in touch and the funny thing was when they did get in touch it was less important as I was already feeling good!”
<>3. When I wasn’t working in the restaurant in Tel Aviv I would stay with my Israeli boyfri end. He would work and I would stay home with his mother and grandmother, neither of whom could speak English. With no English conversation, TV or books I would go a little stir crazy waiting for my boyfriend to return at 6:30pm. So I decided to try another test. This time I repeated ‘Ofer is home at 5:00pm. Another unheard of situation. Still, this was a test. Let’s see what happens. Low and behold, 5:00pm on the dot he pulls into the driveway!!
<>Hi there. I have tried but haven’t had any real success. Is there a way you coach people on this? Also I am just not able to find the right person in my life. i liked somebody but he never was able to like me. He is not dating anyone at the moment. But however he is closed to the idea of love somehow and settling down. Its not me here. It is his resistance to romantic involvement. We don’t really see each other and he has kept distance because he doesn’t want to be in love or marry at all. I am 29 and he is 36. Can you please suggest a way.
<>It’s difficult to free yourself completely from doubt, fear or feeling as though you don’t deserve something. Your instinct might try to combat those feelings using negative thoughts like, “Don’t be afraid” or even direct conflicts like, “You deserve this.” Unfortunately, such methods are ineffective and simply don’t work because they reinforce negative thoughts and feelings.
<>Love may not necessarily always happen by accident. By using the Law of Attraction and relationships, you can find the love you want, regardless of what people think about factors such as decisions, events, and thinking of individuals. Law of attraction for love works on the basis of what you are thinking about the relationship with a particular person. The Law of Attraction is basically a system that believes that encouraging positive thoughts can lead to positive results. The whole concept of law of relationship and love attracts energy. When the energy is positive, it tends to bring in positive results.
<>The first time I did this a few weeks prior I had a very different routine than the second time. My first attempt included several manifesting tools and resulted in a near-miss of $70,000 on day seven. (Way to overdeliver, Universe!) But when it didn’t come to fruition by day ten, I got irritated and dropped it. That $70k check is still on its way, but it doesn’t count for the ten-day limit on this project.
<>As I’ve mentioned a few times before, I learned some time back that no one was responsible for my happiness but me. When I look at the big scheme of things, I’ve got it great. I may not have much but everything I have I own. I’ve struggled from time to time with money issues too since coming online not sure if I could make my bills but I always did. So I know that it’s not the end of the world if I’m late with a payment, although I rarely am. I’m obsessed with everything being on time. LOL!!!
<>Second, I’ve been working on getting friendly with money for years. I know that when I feel frustrated about money, it has to reflect my frustration. When I’m scared about money, it matches that vibe, too. Whatever I’m feeling is what it has to show me. So I’ve been working on getting friendly with it for a while now. That part didn’t happen in ten days.
<>Shelly Bullard, MFT is a Marriage and Family Therapist, Love Coach and Spiritual Teacher. She's the author of the eBook: How to Become the Most Attractive Version of Yourself which she offers for FREE (click here to receive your free copy). She's also the instructor of the popular mbg courses: How To Become The Most Attractive Version of Yourself & How to Attract a Partner Who's Ready for Deep, Devoted Love. Shelly believes that when you access the experience of Love within yourself, your relationships become deeply fulfilling and you become the person you’re meant to be. She was named the “Love Guru” as one of the 100 Women to Watch in Wellness by mindbodygreen, and her deepest passion is living and practicing love and relationships as a spiritual path. To learn more about how she can help you create more love in your life, visit her at: shellybullard.com.
<>I had used the law of attraction previously, just thinking about my attraction goals a few times a day simply seemed to keep me focused, and motivate me, I didn’t think much to all the “magic”. I then found your subliminal album and soon after using it things really started to take off… I now am a total convert to the law of attraction, I have received 3 things I have been aiming for – a promotion at work (which came out of the blue!), a resolution to some family conflicts, and I have just started dating a new girl!! I can not believe how powerful the law of attraction has been for me, and can’t thank you enough for your album!
<>When you sleep at night, you go into the dream state. At this time, your subconscious mind is more active. But the last thoughts you had will permeate into your subconscious mind for up to 4 hours. So what you allow to dominate your mind in the last few minutes before you sleep will program your subconscious mind and create the vibrations that will determine your future.
<>Thirdly, when you stop resistant thoughts, your vibration rises to a higher level. This is the whole point of meditation, I believe. To be still, therefore stop resistance and allow your vibration to rise. We are all energy and that energy vibrates at different frequencies, depending on how we feel. So, meditation allows you to vibrate at a high frequency. There are also other reason to meditate. You will feel better, you experience a sense of calm, you are happier. Most importantly, however, when your vibration rises, you open yourself up to receive guidance, in the form of inspired thought.
<>If I attempt to manifest money, do I have to do something to get it? I have read stories where they follow steps similar to yours and the money might appear in there mailbox without the having to think of a ‘million dollar idea’ Please respond to this if you see it :) I am only a 13 year old girl, I believe that this will work and I wanted to get your opinion on it :)
<>This phenomenal story is about a young nutritionist Shikha. She was just at the beginning of her career with big dreams in her eyes. Like other ambitious youths, the desire to reach remarkable success was making her stressful. She was wondering how long it will take to live all her dreams. At times, the desperation to be at the peak of success was making her restless.
<>A few months ago (2 years after having this on my profile) I received a message from Kirk Nugent telling me he loved the work I was doing in the entertainment industry. I was excited to receive such a message of laud from someone whom I admired so much. We began communicating and sharing ideas and he eventually asked me to do some promotional work with him in the Caribbean market.
<>“I wanted to write in and thank you and share a testimonial about your work that may help others: I had tried it all- online dating, offline dating, blind dates- you name it. After doing your workshop about love a few years ago I realised that I was trying too hard to ‘make it happen’ out of fear that if I didn’t do anything, nothing would happen. But nothing was happening even with all my work- worse than nothing actually- a lot of pain and disappointment. The more I dated the more doubtful I became that I’d ever meet ‘the one’. So I threw myself into my work, writing every day on the Universe List to ‘Bring me my husband in the perfect time’ and ‘bring me more interests’. I also started doing a daily appreciation list and got involved in some new projects to distract me from my dating obsession.
<>I want to point out at this time that I’ve been very lucky along the way, and one of the greatest strokes of luck in my life was to have known at a young age (around 16 years old) what I wanted to do ‘when I grew up’. For some reason, I’ve been fixated on helping people to change. To transform. To live a better life. It truly is what I was born to do.
<>Yet I continued my LoA manifestation practice even in spite of all this. I could vividly imagine the way I’d feel once this burden of real estate sales had been removed from my shoulders. I vividly imagined myself relaxing in the warm sun, sipping a margarita poolside in Mexico. I felt how happy I would be to sleep till I awakened naturally, rather than waking every day to an alarm clock. I visualized making new friends, and being surrounded by a friendly, welcoming community.
<>2) Open to the mystery of life. You have no idea when or where that special person could walk into your life.  He or she could be someone you already know or met in the past.  They could be someone you’ll be meeting on your next business trip or vacation.  They could also be your next date’s brother or sister!  Your next Facebook friend or Twitter follower.  They could be someone you’ll be meeting at a coffee shop or at the train station while you wait for the next train.  The key here is to surrender all pre-conceived ideas and drop all your expectations of how, and with whom it is to happen and continue to focus on ‘what’ you want by being fully available and present in each and every moment. Don’t worry about the how! Say ‘Yes’ to your soulmate, and open to the mystery of life!
<>I find it very interesting it gives me something to motivate myself because I never heard of the laws of attraction this is the first time I’m hearing about it it has me very intrigued and I’m going to do this and whatever has to Universal on the stick to it I’m going to meditate in the morning and I meditate at night before I go to bed and I’m a focus on exactly that thank you so much I really appreciate it even if I have to come back to this website over and over again to get a better understanding I will do that thank you very much again I really appreciate it yours truly James B Banks
<>Hello, I am hoping you can help me with this…. I’ve read that being excited to manifest your old love, or just a new relationship in general is okay. I feel so excited when the Universe shows me my signs of my desire. I’ve recently realized that whenever I see those signs, it makes me anxious to receive. Is there anything I can do to keep myself from feeling anxious to receive when I see these signs?
<>In 2006, the concept of the Law of Attraction gained a lot of renewed exposure with the release of the film The Secret (2006) which was then developed into a book of the same title in 2007. The movie and book gained widespread media coverage.[1][21][22] Rhonda Byrne's book also has influenced the creation of an untitled fiction film based on The Secret, starring Katie Holmes.[23] This was followed by a sequel, The Power in 2010 that talks about the law of attraction being the law of love.[24]
<>So what does that tell you? Well, when I asked myself the same question years ago before I started doing this work, what I realized was that in order for me to attract and manifest my Soulmate, I must somehow develop and grow myself into the kind of person that I myself want to be with.   In other words, if you haven’t found the right person it’s probably because you are not being the right person! As Marianne Williamson says, “We must become the person we want to attract.”
<>First, lots of people mistakenly focus just on their thoughts, all the while feeling like crap, and then get disappointed when they don’t seem to be making any progress. While thoughts are certainly an important part of the equation, we attract based on what we feel, and if we don’t feel good, all the affirmations and happy thoughts in the world won’t do jack unless we manage to build some momentum on the level of emotion.
<>Think about the qualities you seek in the person you want to attract. These qualities are very personal and vary from individual to individual. Remember, there are no limits to what you can want.  Be specific about what is important to you; think about what you want in detail.  A great way to get some clarity is to make a list of the qualities you find attractive and the values that you admire in other people. Making a list or journaling our expectations is a powerful tool when applying the law of attraction to any facet of your life.
<>Thirdly, when you stop resistant thoughts, your vibration rises to a higher level. This is the whole point of meditation, I believe. To be still, therefore stop resistance and allow your vibration to rise. We are all energy and that energy vibrates at different frequencies, depending on how we feel. So, meditation allows you to vibrate at a high frequency. There are also other reason to meditate. You will feel better, you experience a sense of calm, you are happier. Most importantly, however, when your vibration rises, you open yourself up to receive guidance, in the form of inspired thought.
<>Be sure to start this list by stating whether if your Soulmate is single, straight/gay (yes, you must be that specific) and available for a healthy, loving, committed, long-term relationship (or marriage if that is what you want.) Also, be sure to include that he or she lives close enough to you, and/or is willing to relocate if necessary for the two of you to be together. It is very important that you do not get too attached to this list, but rather release it by saying to yourself, “I welcome this, or something better!”
<>Thank you, I am so glad you liked it. The first thing I would say about your situation is to carefully examine whether you are just trying to ignore negative feelings and think ‘happy thoughts’ or you are actually thinking and focusing in a way that makes you FEEL better. The feeling is where we attract, not in casting aside negative thoughts, only to have that energy remain and grow.
<>You’re here because you’ve probably watched “The Secret” movie and have many unanswered questions. Well you should have, and this article will give you the secret ingredients you need – the best law of attraction visualization and the number one law of attraction meditation for achieving perfect health, attracting the love of your life, surrounding yourself with wealth and money, and making happiness, success, abundance and prosperity a normal part of your life.
<>If you’re serious about growing yourself into becoming the kind of person that you want to attract, then I recommend that you cultivate a network of therapists, counselors, coaches, healing professionals, trusted friends and mentors whom you can count on for any variety of challenge that will arise.  Especially when the big stuff starts coming up, and it will!
<>Your English could easily pass for an English speaker. I also love writing and started to blog, but realized I didn’t have a theme that would produce thoughts to the world. It’s fine, as being on the computer is already quite time consuming. Or in the lingua of the above topic, I guess it’s not my all consuming wish :) In any case, I felt as you did – that all that attraction stuff does lead to hard work, and even then, no guarantees. I don’t care for any system that has built into it a “failure” clause, because you didn’t do this or that. Being positive, having dreams, working hard,all good stuff, but again, life isn’t ours always to control.
<>Deal-breaker items could include: if the person has some form of alcohol or substance addiction or abuse, if they are married or in another relationship, if they are physically or verbally abusive, and even if they smoke.  For some people, smoking is not a big deal, but for me, I just can’t stand kissing someone after they’ve had a smoke, so I decided to include it in my deal-breaker list.  What are your deal- breakers? All you need is three.
<>Hi Elizabeth..AJ here again…I bought your book last night and read it in one setting! Good stuff! I will be reading it again today so I can start the work properly and really soak it all in. I have a question…my guy and I haven’t talked to each other for 2 weeks. But we are both still on the dating site we meet on few months ago. I know I am doing no contact, but with him still being able to see me and I being able to see him…does that kill the mystery of him missing me and will it hinder me from fully letting go? I am just trying to stay open and not block anyone that maybe better…even though I want the chance to see where things can go with him with the proper realignment. I just want to open the gate to draw him in and others, to go with what’s best for me. Thanks in advance!
<>I have understood that “If Its To Be, It’s Up to Me”, I will have to practice gratitude with discipline and perseverance that’s the key to fulfilling all my dreams. I have many challenges but I am not scared to face them and turn them into opportunities. Being positive, having faith and taking inspired action along with Wish and Let Go is the key to achieve my dreams.
<>“One simple and fun way in which I trust the Universe is using random play on my iPod- and I’m not joking. I find that the Universe’s choice of music (or spoken inspirational recordings) is always far more apt than my choice. And so since hearing about Esther and Jerry Hick’s (the Teachings of Abraham) relationship beginnings, and how they were clearly brought together (and when they compared histories, they realised they were in so many states and cities at the same time- showing that the Universe was constantly attempting to bring them together without their effort), I decided to apply this same idea of trusting the Universe for my relationship. And so I did processes. Within days of absolutely giving up on trying (which meant giving up on whenever I went out with friends immediately scanning the room for potential partners, thinking about my soul mate many times during the day and other forms of searching, despite telling myself and all my friends I was perfectly happy being single and letting it all unfold naturally!), I walked into a cafe I had been in so many times and immediately, naturally found myself within a conversation with one of the staff I had seen but never spoken to. We talked, exchanged telephone numbers… and who knows?! And who cares. Because for the first time I won’t be checking my phone every 5 minutes- I honestly don’t care if he calls or not- the fact is, I now understand that my ‘figuring it out’ way doesn’t work – the Universe knows better than I do. This is the first time I’ve exchanged numbers with anyone significant in about 6 months. And all from a couple of days of truly surrendering! And before the day was over, I was surprisingly contacted by someone I used to really like and then met another very eligible man.”
<>We were in the 3rd week of magic practice and he was filled with a load of gratitude. Amid all those grateful days, he got a call from one of his Supplier (he is an entrepreneur) and was informed that he is getting a sponsored free trip to Goa for the annual sales meeting. It was totally unbelievable. It has never happened before and now it has come suddenly.
<>The first method for manifesting money into your life is by knowing that it will happen. You quite literally cannot anticipate it to occur if you don’t know, wholeheartedly, that it will come to pass. You need to know it and you need to own that you know it. Regardless of whatever else is going in your life, knowing that something will eventually happen is an incredibly powerful way for manifesting things.
<>The other day was particularly special. I meditated and I then went to view a property. The property needed some work doing on it and I had some questions about that and next thing I knew I was talking to a builder who ‘just happened’ to be next door who could answer all of my questions. Then a lady came out of a neighbouring property and asked if I would like to look at her house. The neighbour was really friendly and welcoming and said that that she would love it if I moved next door! After viewing the property I went to pick my son up and looked into the sky and felt blown away by the beautiful sunset. I feel I have direction, that my soul is joyful and that doors are open for me.”
<>When you feel moved to take action from a place of passion and excitement, not stress, then go ahead and let those actions flow through you. It will seem to be more work to stop yourself — you’ll feel like you’re chickening out and holding back if you stay still. Follow your impulses. But don’t worry about the immediate results of those actions. There may be some twists and turns along the way.
<>Hi Elizabeth..AJ here again…I bought your book last night and read it in one setting! Good stuff! I will be reading it again today so I can start the work properly and really soak it all in. I have a question…my guy and I haven’t talked to each other for 2 weeks. But we are both still on the dating site we meet on few months ago. I know I am doing no contact, but with him still being able to see me and I being able to see him…does that kill the mystery of him missing me and will it hinder me from fully letting go? I am just trying to stay open and not block anyone that maybe better…even though I want the chance to see where things can go with him with the proper realignment. I just want to open the gate to draw him in and others, to go with what’s best for me. Thanks in advance!
<>“My daughter had been on my mind for the previous years- stresses with exams, problems with boyfriends- I was going out of my mind. Then a friend brought me along to the Monday evenings. I learnt to hand it all over to the Universe- and get on with my life. At first I discovered that I didn’t have much of a life of my own- but the Universe soon sorted that one out- with a new relationship and new hobbies! Now all this took nearly year- and it wasn’t always easy, but it is working for me. Another thing that happened: At a gym I started going to (another inspiration from the Universe) – I got speaking to someone and somehow the subject of Law of Attraction came up- and he mentioned your group! We both talked about how much it had been a turning point for us and shared our stories. This is what made me write to you, to thank you for all that you are doing.”
<>I have understood that “If Its To Be, It’s Up to Me”, I will have to practice gratitude with discipline and perseverance that’s the key to fulfilling all my dreams. I have many challenges but I am not scared to face them and turn them into opportunities. Being positive, having faith and taking inspired action along with Wish and Let Go is the key to achieve my dreams.
<>Ever notice how travel magazines show a beautiful destination, maybe a white sand beach and azure blue sky? And, there is always a table and empty chair. Your mind is attracted to the empty chair. It wants you to be there. Goals are the same. The law of attraction is energised by the gap between here and there. So long as it is bridgeable (see tip 21).
<>Multi-sensory visualization. Take your creative visualization further and begin to spend longer daily sessions imagining every aspect of being with your soulmate. The stronger this mental image, the stronger the pull you will exert on them. Think not only about how they will look but also how they will sound, smell and feel. You might also try picturing significant moments in your life. For example, visualize events like sharing a bed for the first time, getting married or having children.

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