<>Our thoughts often show unexpected stubbornness when we try to “discipline” them – they easily wonder off or turn into something we didn’t want. For example, a simple visualization exercise of a car you’re trying to manifest can turn into a nightmare when your kids appear in it out of nowhere and start trashing your beautiful car – this image also came from inside your mind, but it’s not the direction you intended your visualization to take.
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<>No matter what we attract, it is always there to help us, so you want to think about this scenario and what feelings came up around it, and that can clue you in to how it is useful for your journey of attracting a relationship. As for your friend, I am not sure what topic of conversation was involved as far as you feeling like you can’t be yourself around her, but as some general advice, anytime we feel like we can’t be ourselves in a certain situation or around a certain person, it is a problem plain and simple that must be examined. Ultimately, it comes down to determining whether your reluctance to be yourself is more based in your own fears, and your friend would more than likely accept you, or if your friend is someone who is very judgmental or wouldn’t be able to accept you for who are because of strong beliefs she holds about certain things.
<>I used to do a lot of work helping people to stop smoking. There are only 2 reasons people don’t stop smoking. One, because they don’t want to (often this is subconscious) Two, because they don’t believe it’s possible. Or they assume it will be incredibly difficult and painful, and they can’t do it without suffering forever. (Again, this is often subconscious and it is a flawed assumption).
<>3. When I wasn’t working in the restaurant in Tel Aviv I would stay with my Israeli boyfri end. He would work and I would stay home with his mother and grandmother, neither of whom could speak English. With no English conversation, TV or books I would go a little stir crazy waiting for my boyfriend to return at 6:30pm. So I decided to try another test. This time I repeated ‘Ofer is home at 5:00pm. Another unheard of situation. Still, this was a test. Let’s see what happens. Low and behold, 5:00pm on the dot he pulls into the driveway!!
<>In your soul evolution you are here to serve and provide vibrations of your soul to increase vibrations of unconditional love connection that brings peace in each other’s energy exchange to accomplish your destiny and mission in a mutual agreement. You were united together for a divine purpose and not sexual desires or finding love, for you should be past that and have found love for yourself inside and not outside. it is about the soul union and the higher heart of service to the world in love and light. Understand that you are twin flames and have the vibration of Divine Love that needs to be spread out to others and nothing else matters other than setting up the Divine Template of Unconditional Love. Your soul vibrations resonate as One in order to do accomplish your mission for you have opened up higher heart and self to serve. As TF you have unique gifts when you are together as a unit with your soul vibrations allowing Divine power to flow thru you easily. You were chosen because you both are evolved enough to serve the world and change society and this 3D world from the calling of your higher heart.
<>Here’s the thing: you can only attract that to which you are a match, and if you are hiding who you really are, or are trying to construct some ‘perfect’ version of yourself you believe makes you more attractive as a potential mate, you will only attract other people who are putting up these same facades. You will never make any true connections—you’re being inauthentic and everyone you meet is being inauthentic, and eventually it will all come to the surface in some way. One of the reasons people struggle to meet the right person is because everyone is just walking around, faking it.
<>“I love your work at the Centre- it’s practical, it’s real and it feels so good to have found a loving community! Last year I was doing the Focusing Process about an ex-partner of mine, who I was out of communication with for months. The process really made me finally feel relaxed about it all. Just as I put the pen down, after finishing the last ‘box’, the phone rang- and it was her. We are now great friends and have both found wonderful new partners- all thanks to the Law of Attraction and your workshops (which we have both attended).”
<>This isn’t mumbo jumbo or some pseudoscience; this is real and exact. There is a precise way to manifest virtually any amount of money into your life over time using the Law of Attraction as long as you don’t waver from your approach and your expectation of that outcome. As long as you don’t get discouraged and give up on that expected outcome, it will eventually come to pass.
<>And this shows you are on the right path, but all too often we twist it. We lament those people that share the same interests as us, or with whom we had those great conversations, didn’t ask for our number. We feel bummed when that date we thought would be so great, turned out to be not the best match. We think we are still not getting what we want, or there is still something ‘wrong’ with us.
<>Me personally, I used Manifestation Miracle to learn how to master the Law of Attraction and in short it’s simply been amazing. For example, I had a 2000 Volkswagen Jetta. I was always wanting a new car because I was tired of my beat up interior and rusted exterior. I kept on focusing on a Hyundai sonata limited trim and eventually one day my jetta died. I was mad at the time, but in the long run it really paid off. While I was searching for a car, the Elantra model was selling for $18,000 for a 2013 limited model. I was about to buy it . but I kept on seeing Sonata’s so I kept searching. I ended up finding a 2013 Hyundai Sonata Limited trim with only 23,000 miles for $13,500. The car was way better, it was what I wanted, and it was cheaper!
<>In the past I had a relationship, it was messy and unorganized. All I would do is worry Id lose her. That was my biggest fear. And I thought about it almost everyday. And one day I did. It was hard, but I learned from my mistake. I lost her so I could find someone better. Someone who fits perfectly to my soul. Someone who I feel so at home and comfortable with. And instead of worrying about me losing her, im celebrating with joy, and im excited to grow in life with her and get old.
<>If you think that once you have money, you will become stronger, you’re crazy. Absolutely deluded! More likely — if you actually did manifest money from that kind of vibe — you’d grow even weaker. This would be a bad outcome for you, even though it seems like what you want. You’d be a weak-minded, weak-hearted person with more money, and you’d still see the money as more powerful than you, even while it’s in your possession. You’d then become attached to it and afraid of losing it because you’d still mistakenly see it as a power source. It would become a source of security for you, a constantly vulnerable one. The more money you had, the more paranoid you’d become about losing it. This would really mess you up big time. So be very, very glad that you naturally attract less money when you think of money as a power source. If you invite money into your life from that crazy frame of giving away your power, then money will become your Master, and you will be forever its slave. Don’t even go there!
<>“This last year has been the best year of my life in terms of relationships. I have dated several people who are the kind of types that I never used to even meet (or if I did, they were not attracted to me). Part of me is now thinking ‘where is my serious, soul mate relationship?’ which prompted a question I was going to e-mail to Michael but soon turned into a list of appreciation. Because as I think about this year and how totally different it has been to all the other years – which I believe is totally down to ‘doing the processes’- I have absolutely nothing to complain about. Plus, I’m figuring out what I want. I’m in a great place in my life. As I read in one of the other success stories last week- all that matters is the now. And life is very, very good now. I’m focused on this moment. I know it’s obvious and we’ve read it over and over- but all we have is the now. So why not accept it and enjoy it, now?!”
<>2) De-Cluttering your Mind. De-Cluttering your Mind means exactly that.  It means letting go or releasing any fears or beliefs you have about love that are keeping love away from you.  For example, many people believe they have some kind of fatal flaw or secret that may repulse others.  For women, it normally is something physical, and for men, it is normally something in their financial situation or career. These insecurities will lead you to have thoughts such as:
<>Many of us have had the experience where we keep on attracting the same kind of a person into our lives, and not in a good way! It happens because of the powerful law of attraction, but you don't have to keep on repeating the same mistake. What you need to do is to find a way to bless the past relationships, and to get yourself into a better feeling place regarding past loves, otherwise, you will keep on attracting the same type of a person. This is another topic that is discussed in this e-book.
<>Many people have limiting beliefs which keep them from allowing abundance and happiness into their lives. If this describes you, realize that you must first change your limiting beliefs into thoughts that you are deserving, worthy, lovable, desirable, and capable—as well as smart enough, strong enough, attractive enough, rich enough, good enough, and “enough” in every other way that matters to you.
<>“I was very focused on a particular person and wanting them to like me. Based on what I learnt at a Law of Attraction Centre workshop I decided to practice loving thoughts about what I liked about people rather than thinking about what they thought about me. I spent 15 minutes making a list of the Positive Aspects of a previous partner and the current person I liked. After this I realised that I had felt negative not because of how they did or didn’t feel about me but because I wasn’t thinking lovingly about them. And then guess what, they got in touch and the funny thing was when they did get in touch it was less important as I was already feeling good!”
<>Something inside me snapped in that moment. A light went on, deep in my core, followed by a burning desire to never put myself or my children in this kind of position again. I made a promise to myself right then that I would not rely on anyone to provide for my family. I wouldn’t borrow money from family members; I wouldn’t beg for help. I would somehow pay my girlfriend back, and figure out how to handle my business on my own. Before I’d always just thought I was unlucky and entitled to what little help I’d ever received.  All my life I’d told myself this story, and believed it. Nothing good ever happens to me.  I work twice as hard as everyone else for half as much. That was my core belief. And as a result, that was my life.  No one ever told me that my life was the result of my thoughts, my beliefs and my actions. I believed that the only thing I could control was how hard I worked (#TheHustle), but that on its own left me feeling like I was drowning in quicksand, no matter how hard I worked, the results never showed. It took the catastrophe of that night, when my world collapsed in an instant, to spark within me a desire to drastically change my life. 
<>“My life has changed as far as content but it’s not that I’m really paying attention too… It’s the way I feel that I’m most impressed with. The ‘angst’ I had has gone and I’m enjoying my life and feeling a real self-confidence. One funny thing that happened last week: I had been watching a TV programme and the next night the time of the live results show (which I wasn’t watching) a contestant’s name came into my mind and I just knew this person had been voted off- even though it made no logical sense, as she was a favourite to stay in the running. That quality of feeling is always accurate- it’s not from my thinking mind but from somewhere beyond. When I looked online I saw that I was right- my ‘inner voice’ was confirmed again. Your teachings get me in touch with this knowing.”
<>The union of all people is only a mechanism for perfecting the process of soul-consciousness. Therefore, the process of attracting a soulmate, as well as the process of keeping the soul you already live with, but are experiencing a crisis, depends on how much you accept communion as a school of awareness and learning, the transformation of oneself.
<>Thanks for sharing your thoughts and I am so glad you liked the post. I think a lot of people have that fear, so you are certainly not alone in that. One of the things that has helped me most with that is remembering how ‘challenging’ the human experience is, and knowing we all have our ‘stuff’ that we hold inside, bad things that have happened to us, etc.. For the most part, I think lots of people actually want to talk about these things and not feel like they are the only one struggling. Intellectually we know that isn’t true, but how we feel is often very different. When we think about it this way, sharing our own ‘stuff’ feels less scary. And, as you work on your attraction, you will naturally begin to meet up with people who you do feel comfortable with, and will not pull away when things get closer.
<>There is nothing, I feel, more significant than achieving such a positive delight as to be rewarded with the discovery of the possibility of Universal Enlightenment. The Subconscious mind yields great, and profound proof of a; infinitely higher Sum of what we perceive as reality. A living, breathing, fully connected, powerful conscience Organism we call Life.
<>If manifesting your dream life only required having positive thoughts, then this conversation would be irrelevant. If it were as simple as staying positive, you would have figured it out long ago. This goes much deeper than the surface level conscious mind thinking you’re well-acquainted with. The Law of Attraction is activated based on what’s occurring in the depths of your unconscious mind.
<>Now if a little voice tells you that you won’t get what you want to get by imposing the LOA principles to it, it doesn’t mean you have bad thoughts, it might just be you subconscious who knows what is written in your destiny and knows this is not something for you to get. There again: read Florence’s book, there are good examples as how to deal with this. Like lets say you want to meet a girl. With the LOA you’d start shaping her: I want her to be blond, tall thin, nice College graduate etc… And your little voice would tell you: “this is never going to happen”. Well it might be true it will never happen. But if like Florence you’d say: “I want to me the perfect girl, the one which is mine by divine selection”. Well there you might attract her and not have that little conflicting voice show up. Because you are not imposing your will but just calling on what is in store for you.
<>“I’ve got something to report since your incredible Finding Love workshop: After writing my requests on the Universe List – which I love – firstly, I bumped into several of my exes, and the encounters showed me I was over them. Then I started to attract seeing loving couples in the media. Following this, I ‘caught eyes’ with someone on the bus who seemed to like me, but rather than panic and rush and give him my number, I relaxed into the thought of perfect timing. Just yesterday someone new started at work and I can feel a real connection with him. The amazing news is that none of this kind of excitement or interest has happened to me in years, and it’s all clearly directly due to the techniques you taught me and I applied. It’s only been about a week since your workshop and this is a great sign of things to come. Best of all I don’t feel ‘needy’, I feel relaxed in my worthiness and confidence… For the first time, I feel like quite a catch!”
<>I am so glad you found the post helpful. That is great that your faith in the ability to consciously create our reality is growing. As it does, you will see more and more ‘proof’, which will just reinforce that, setting of a wonderful cycle. Just always remember to be patient, and make your core focus feeling good about the work you are doing. Find content that resonates with you, and really focus on learning from those sources. That encounter with that person definitely shows you are moving towards what you want. Being able to truly be ourselves will make the process of attracting a relationship so much easier, you have no idea.
<>“I had been in some emotional pain over a relationship, and wasn’t sure what to do about it. It was a familiar pattern, and one which had caused me to totally avoid relationships for years if I’m honest. What your one-to-one appointments have done for me is to get me to rise above these ways of thinking and feel strong in my life. I am more secure than I have ever been, and your techniques do exactly what you said they would do. No false promises there. I’ve started dating someone again and I’m actually enjoying it- it’s a whole new quality of relationship. I will keep you updated. Thank you.”
<>I thoroughly enjoyed reading these stories that demonstrate successfully using one's imagination to create experiences in keeping with desires. They may not be from our current times, but are universal and timeless. I feel Inspired to apply these examples to my own life. I am also a student of Abraham as taught by Esther Hicks and these examples fit perfectly with those teachings.
<>In the New Thought philosophy, the Law of Attraction is the belief that by focusing on positive or negative thoughts, people can bring positive or negative experiences into their life.[1][2] The belief is based on the idea that people and their thoughts are both made from pure energy, and that through the process of like energy attracting like energy a person can improve their own health, wealth, and personal relationships.
<>Intimacy means knowing each other and sharing most coveted parts of your lives. The self-revealing behavior, when reciprocated well, forms an emotional bond which is hard to break. With continues sharing, this bond tends to strengthen over time and bring the partners much closer. Friendship is the first step to intimacy, so before you decide to get into love, make sure you both share good friendship.
<>Shelly Bullard, MFT is a Marriage and Family Therapist, Love Coach and Spiritual Teacher. She's the author of the eBook: How to Become the Most Attractive Version of Yourself which she offers for FREE (click here to receive your free copy). She's also the instructor of the popular mbg courses: How To Become The Most Attractive Version of Yourself & How to Attract a Partner Who's Ready for Deep, Devoted Love. Shelly believes that when you access the experience of Love within yourself, your relationships become deeply fulfilling and you become the person you’re meant to be. She was named the “Love Guru” as one of the 100 Women to Watch in Wellness by mindbodygreen, and her deepest passion is living and practicing love and relationships as a spiritual path. To learn more about how she can help you create more love in your life, visit her at: shellybullard.com.
<>“I wanted to improve my confidence of speaking in public, having been nervous of introducing myself at groups and events. So I wrote ‘Bring me more confidence’ and ‘Allow me to feel more confident’ and ‘Make me a good public speaker’ on the exercise we did. Several days later at work I was chosen to lead a speech to thousands of people, and it was something important in a way that I had no way of backing out of. Although I was instantly shocked and still feeling a little nervous, I had to laugh as it was an answer to my prayers: I get that it was almost as if the Universe just went ahead by ‘booking’ me to do this, realising that by actually doing it (not just thinking about it) I will become the confident speaker I want to be.”
<>Just like the good old tracks that the sled follows down the mountain. And so we tell the same old story, over and over, about why we have our childhood wounds, and about how bad our previous relationship was, how we got dumped, how we’re not being loved the way we want to be, how unequal this relationship is, how we have these abandonment issues, how they cheated on us, how we’re too old to find love, too fat, too skinny, too white, too black, too gay, too straight, too poor, too rich, too unstable, too unreliable, afraid of commitment, too demanding… Blah, blah, blah. PLEASE STOP! The more you tell the same old story, the more you’re perpetuating it in your experience and the more you’re blocking love from coming into your life. Why?  Because you keep focusing on it.
<>Firstly, find yourself a comfortable place where you won’t be disturbed. Start by closing your eyes and relaxing your body entirely. Breathe in and out very slowly, and make the breaths as deep as possible (on your belly). It is very likely that all kinds of thoughts will disturb you at this time, but you have to observe them and not let yourself to get emotionally involved with them.
<>Affirm your belief in your soulmate. While you’ve already worked hard to combat limiting beliefs and create a clear image of the person you want to be with, you make it easier for the Universe to send that person your way if you constantly stay connected to your belief that they exist. Try daily affirmations (written or spoken) like “I am looking for love, and my soulmate is on their way to me”. Plus, “Nothing will stop me from receiving the love of my soulmate.”

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