<>Each "failed" relationship has given you clues about what you want in your ideal partner. The problem is, many women and men focus on the negative instead of the positive. For example, by saying that you don't want a man who "puts his work before the relationship," you are focusing on a man who puts work before love and that is the desire you are unconsciously sending out through your energy.
<>“Thank you for all of your help this year. Your work is extraordinary. I had been single for many years- the occasional date but nothing serious. In July I met a man and we have been enjoying life together ever since. I acknowledge myself for making my inner changes- but credit is seriously due to your workshops and groups; and the space they gave me to discover myself again.”
<>Hermeticism influenced the development of European thought in the Renaissance. Its ideas were transmitted partly through alchemy. In the 18th century, Franz Mesmer studied the works of alchemists such as Paracelsus[36] and van Helmont.[37] Van Helmont was a 17th-century Flemish physician who proclaimed the curative powers of the imagination.[37][38][39] This lead Mesmer to develop his ideas about Animal magnetism which Phineas Quimby, the founder of New Thought, studied.[37][40]
<>But, once you start seeing your external experience is a mirror of what you feel and believe, you will make the amazing realization that changing your internal world will change what you bring into your life. If you don’t believe you have to settle or compromise, you won’t. If you believe you will find the right person, you will. If you know you don’t have to end up alone, you won’t. Sound too simplistic? Is the skeptical part of you being activated and resisting this? Are you thinking of all your experiences that have ‘proved’ your current set of beliefs, beyond a shadow of a doubt, and saying to yourself that I don’t know what the hell I am talking about? But, this is really all there is to it.Life is so much easier than we make it out to be.
<>Paychecks make you happy, while bills made you put on your cranky pants with annoyance and anxiety. You need to rewire this in order to get out of your own way. Each time you feel pissed off when a bill gets sent to you then you actively choose to block the flow of abundance and you’re inviting MORE BILLS and more expenses. Nothing is as expensive as an attitude that blocks the flow of prosperity. Learn to LOVE your money. After all, it’s just energy. 
<>Realize you will likely have smaller manifestations first that show you are lining up more with what you want, like noticing more people you find attractive, when before, you saw no one, meeting people that have desirable qualities that you note as being important in a partner, or seeing more people "like you" in happy relationships, whether they are overweight, divorced or whatever personal characteristic that you think makes finding love harder.
<>I have been applying the visualization techniques of the Law Of Attraction for a couple of years. I have been able to manifest those things I truly believed to the core of my being. And although I still think sometimes maybe this has all been an accident, I have seen the wonder and absolute amazement of the Universe and how it has led me to all the things I have truly, deeply wanted. I look back and see how the matrix of the Universe moved me to what I wanted without me even knowing it. It was like intuition that I didn’t realize was happening, if that makes sense.
<>Pretend that you have more than enough money. When you go shopping, look at the things that you want and tell yourself that you can afford them. Keep a large bill in your wallet… $20… $50… $100… and whenever you go out, spend it with your imagination. Notice all the things you can buy with that bill. You will instantly feel better about money, and as you feel better, you will attract more money to you.
<>The law of attraction has proven itself to me on many occasions. I really do believe, it is hard to say in words exactly as it’s more of a feeling. I will try to explain. I want something to happen, I put the desire out there then in my minds eye actually visualise it happening – totally. Even put images on a vision board, dream pictures in my mind and get excited knowing it’s coming and is on its way to me. This is when the magic happens. I get this urge for action, a complete gut feeling to do something and an inner drive over takes me. Then when I have completed the task in hand, only afterwards, have I realise the law of attraction delivers. I hope this makes sense, I have received things like getting the job I wanted in the past, building the house I used to draw out in my mind, starting a successful business, receiving unexpected money etc.
<>During Thanksgiving of 1992, Carrey wrote himself a check for $10 million for ‘Acting Services Rendered’ and he dated it for Thanksgiving of 1995. He carried that check around with him no matter what he did, and it deteriorated away in his wallet. But just before Thanksgiving of 1995 he received word that he would be paid $10 million for ‘Dumb and Dumber.’
<>Hey Phil, my friend Claire sent this over after seeing me last night for the first time in months. I have been obsessively working on a project / startup to use rock climbing and adventure to help at-risk kids in the slums of Brazil. Check out our video if you are interested (www.indiegogo.com/adventureforgood) but that project is really not the focus. What I found is that although I love what I am doing and believe in it completely, I have been stressed out of my mind and without realizing it, I have been manifesting this stress into all aspects of my life and sometimes into the energy of my campaign. Reading your blog I was reminded of how important it is to manifest not only what you want but also how you want to feel. That energy is so important and certainly dictates how people feel around you. I have been bringing my computer to bed and stressing out over emails until I fall asleep… NOT healthy. This post really helped me reflect on practicing not only the law of attraction but the law of ‘feeling good’. Hope to bump into you around Boulder Phil.
<>“I heard about your centre at a performer’s workshop in New York- one of the participants had said how good your work is so I had to check it out when I moved back to London. My ‘art’ shows have increased in their popularity since I used your teachings; I’m just so much more relaxed as a performer and I’ve got some great press coverage, too. But best of all was probably the other week when I noticed a well-known actor in the audience- someone I had actually put down on my Universe List that I wanted to meet! My intellectual mind tends to want to make everything about Life so much more complex than it needs to be. I find that if things are getting complicated- I’m usually off in the wrong direction, so taking time to meditate or breathe deeply or do some physical exercise tends to get me ‘stepping back’ where I get a clearer vision of what’s going on and what to do. Life then becomes more straightforward and certainly a lot more fun. Thanks for teaching me this- and for all that you do.”
<>“I was feeling a little disillusioned about self-help books because nothing was really happening for me. Hearing what was working in people’s lives at the groups was a great thing… I was after something that would actually transform my life- and your workshops have. I spent a long time ‘in the stalls’ watching and admiring other people. Now I am well and truly ‘on the court’, and starring in my own life. I want to recommend the Universe List- it’s amazing. Every morning I ‘offload’ all my worries to the Universe. Then, I remind myself to focus on loving and fully enjoy my life, appreciating every moment. The relationship with my daughter has improved, physical symptoms which bothered me for years have gone away completely, the relationship with my husband feels fresh and new- and I no longer dread  ‘what might happen’. Some of these changes are miracles. And as someone inspired me on the mail out months ago- don’t give up and don’t think it won’t work for you- it may take time but it will work. Thank you also for the meditation CD (Soundscape) as it really did get me to meditate after years of putting it off- it’s like a beautiful sanctuary that I can always relax into.”
<>I find it very interesting it gives me something to motivate myself because I never heard of the laws of attraction this is the first time I’m hearing about it it has me very intrigued and I’m going to do this and whatever has to Universal on the stick to it I’m going to meditate in the morning and I meditate at night before I go to bed and I’m a focus on exactly that thank you so much I really appreciate it even if I have to come back to this website over and over again to get a better understanding I will do that thank you very much again I really appreciate it yours truly James B Banks
<>Instead, Louise says you can transform your life by staying positive. "You have to start saying things that you feel really good about yourself. 'I love who I am. I love life. Life loves me. It's going to be smooth and easy. Life works for me.' And you just start doing that—it's planting seeds. You're not going to get it the first day, but you plant a seed and you water it and you continue the affirmations, and things start to shift and change in your life."
<>“I started applying the Law of Attraction techniques more consistently about two months ago. On a daily basis I have been meditating, making a written list of things that I appreciate and doing the Focusing Process. During this time several areas of my life have positively transformed including getting a new job and my long term partner proposing to me, with both things remarkably happening within the space of a couple of weeks! I also feel much more appreciation for my life in general and there have been several great more day to day experiences such as going for three different meals out and getting given free courses and drinks (as they apologised for a delay in service which I didn’t even really notice as I was having such a lovely time). My fiancée and I are now wanting to attract a lovely home in the country to move in to together and given the other positive experiences I’ve had with the Law of Attraction I feel confident that we can do this!”
<>I stumbled on your page a couple weeks ago. I’ve been coping with post partum depression for the past few months. Although medication has absolutely helped take the edge off, ever since reading your words I’ve felt a consistent and steady rise in my feelings of happiness. The medication helped stabilize my depression, that’s true, but your words helped me tap into my joy. Joy I haven’t felt in years, possibly since I was a child myself.
<>And, just as an important side note: Your subconscious is way, way more powerful than you possibly give it credit for. Most people don’t realize this fact. Your subconscious knows exactly what you’re going to do. It’s infinitely more aware of what’s happening in the universe than your conscious mind. It simply won’t be bullied. It’s happy for you to tell it what to do, once you master the process of doing so.
<>As you start shifting beliefs around this area of your life, you may notice certain things in your experience. You are meeting more people with whom you have common interests. You find yourself having great conversations with people, the types of conversations you envision having with your partner. You may find yourself going on more dates frequently with people who seem like a better fit for you than people you were going out with previously.
<>The preparation for welcoming your soul mate requires that you make a conscious commitment to start healing the deepest wounds of your heart. Notice that I said “start” healing the deepest wounds of your heart, because for the majority of us, this is a lifelong process and it doesn’t mean you have to be fully healed to manifest your One.  In fact, one of the things that a soul mate will do is HELP you to heal your deepest emotional wounds, and chances are you’ll be helping them heal their deepest emotional wounds as well.  BUT you must be willing to clear out all of the past hurts, anger, resentments, and anything else that makes up the thick wall of protection and distrust that you have built around your heart so that you can start welcoming love in.
<>“I wanted to write in and thank you and share a testimonial about your work that may help others: I had tried it all- online dating, offline dating, blind dates- you name it. After doing your workshop about love a few years ago I realised that I was trying too hard to ‘make it happen’ out of fear that if I didn’t do anything, nothing would happen. But nothing was happening even with all my work- worse than nothing actually- a lot of pain and disappointment. The more I dated the more doubtful I became that I’d ever meet ‘the one’. So I threw myself into my work, writing every day on the Universe List to ‘Bring me my husband in the perfect time’ and ‘bring me more interests’. I also started doing a daily appreciation list and got involved in some new projects to distract me from my dating obsession.
<>“I heard about your centre at a performer’s workshop in New York- one of the participants had said how good your work is so I had to check it out when I moved back to London. My ‘art’ shows have increased in their popularity since I used your teachings; I’m just so much more relaxed as a performer and I’ve got some great press coverage, too. But best of all was probably the other week when I noticed a well-known actor in the audience- someone I had actually put down on my Universe List that I wanted to meet! My intellectual mind tends to want to make everything about Life so much more complex than it needs to be. I find that if things are getting complicated- I’m usually off in the wrong direction, so taking time to meditate or breathe deeply or do some physical exercise tends to get me ‘stepping back’ where I get a clearer vision of what’s going on and what to do. Life then becomes more straightforward and certainly a lot more fun. Thanks for teaching me this- and for all that you do.”
<>Imagine for a moment that it’s a beautiful winter morning and there’s fresh, pristine snow on the ground.  You walk up to a hill with your sled, and slide down and take your first trip down to the bottom of the hill.  This first time, your course was pretty random, right?  Then, you walk back up to the top of the hill once more and you sled down again. Okay, the odds are that you’re going to hit at least some of the grooves you created the first time that you went down.
<>Another thing about feelings—get yourself out of situations that don’t feel like what you want. You don’t have to compromise or settle. You don’t have to experience a bunch of stuff that feels badly to also experience that which feels good. As you shore up your good energy, and stick to your standards and boundaries, these types of situations will naturally decrease, and at some point, move out of your experience completely.
<>If you are really struggling with relationships, there is something happening deep inside that is creating the outcomes you keep experiencing. You are getting something you want, you are protecting yourself from something you fear. You have some sort of image of yourself that deems you unworthy of love. Again, this may not vibe with your conscious mind, that is in a constant state of wanting happiness and good things. You are not cursed. You are not some horrible person that only deserves douches. You have the power to change this, if you are willing to do the inner work and take responsibility. And by responsibility, I don’t mean blame. Two very different energies there. One empowers us, and the other keeps us feeling terrible.
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<>You can’t control others, but you can control yourself.  You can control how you choose to perceive and feel. This is the oldest piece of empowerment psychology out there, but it’s so true.  It starts with you on every single level.  The love and relationships that you want to experience start with self.  How’s your relationship with you?  It’s time to transform it, and never stop.
<>Now, because we attract based on feeling, and not action, you wouldn’t actually have to do any of these things to start attracting more money, but most of us aren’t able to make such a giant leap in the face of financial issues. The limiting beliefs around money are just too strong, and will need to be worked on; you won’t be able to shift perspective immediately. Don’t worry, by making budgets and what have you, you are not sending a message to the good old universe that you don’t think you can get more money—these things will make you feel better, and the better you feel, the more easily money can come to you.
<>If manifesting your dream life only required having positive thoughts, then this conversation would be irrelevant. If it were as simple as staying positive, you would have figured it out long ago. This goes much deeper than the surface level conscious mind thinking you’re well-acquainted with. The Law of Attraction is activated based on what’s occurring in the depths of your unconscious mind.
<>2. Focus on the positive. Let go of all your negative thoughts….such as “it's hard to find anyone,” “why don't they see how good I am,” and “no one will ever love me.” You have a lot of great qualities that make you so worthy of anyone's love and attention. Others do notice you and appreciate you. There is love all around you. Let it in. When you let it in and focus on the positive, you change your vibration and open a door for the Law of Attraction for love to bring you your specific person.

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