<>“I was looking for a way to forgive an ex-partner of mine, and had been trying for over a year. I heard your suggestion of just handing it all over to the Universe and to Life – and asking to see the situation from another perspective, but it seemed far too simplistic to work. However I was exhausted with the way I had been seeing it, as I felt like such a victim and had a lot of resentment. Slightly sceptical of exactly how I would see it from another perspective (I had read many self-help books and seen two counsellors previously and nothing was helping), I finally agreed to give it a go. I just busied myself with “my part”; as you said – which was to meditate and to appreciate my life.
<>The thing is that there is no way to know for sure if another guy is gay or bi in most situations, so it's harder to casually meet a guy on the street or at some social function without possibly getting into an awkward situation when you try to feel him out. This means that the options that are left to us can be...less wholesome situations. Combine that with the naturally high sex drive of a male, then multiply that by two and...well, you know how it is.
<>So what does that tell you? Well, when I asked myself the same question years ago before I started doing this work, what I realized was that in order for me to attract and manifest my Soulmate, I must somehow develop and grow myself into the kind of person that I myself want to be with.   In other words, if you haven’t found the right person it’s probably because you are not being the right person! As Marianne Williamson says, “We must become the person we want to attract.”
<>If you are really struggling with relationships, there is something happening deep inside that is creating the outcomes you keep experiencing. You are getting something you want, you are protecting yourself from something you fear. You have some sort of image of yourself that deems you unworthy of love. Again, this may not vibe with your conscious mind, that is in a constant state of wanting happiness and good things. You are not cursed. You are not some horrible person that only deserves douches. You have the power to change this, if you are willing to do the inner work and take responsibility. And by responsibility, I don’t mean blame. Two very different energies there. One empowers us, and the other keeps us feeling terrible.
<>But, with that being said, adopting these new beliefs when you have believing their super-crappy polar opposites for so long, will not happen at the snap of a finger. And, as I always say regarding this likely course of events, it’s okay. You want to start with where you are now, and work your way up. But, don’t be discouraged by this and think you can’t get anything good until you totally overcome your issues, and obtain some’ perfect’ vibration. I don’t think anyone has one. I imagine achieving that would result in not wanting anything at all.
<>The other day was particularly special. I meditated and I then went to view a property. The property needed some work doing on it and I had some questions about that and next thing I knew I was talking to a builder who ‘just happened’ to be next door who could answer all of my questions. Then a lady came out of a neighbouring property and asked if I would like to look at her house. The neighbour was really friendly and welcoming and said that that she would love it if I moved next door! After viewing the property I went to pick my son up and looked into the sky and felt blown away by the beautiful sunset. I feel I have direction, that my soul is joyful and that doors are open for me.”
<>Attracting a good relationship doesn't mean that the relationship is going to be perfect or even permanent. Remember that you will attract someone who matches who you are in a given moment. If you or your partner change, the relationship may no longer be compatible. Sometimes we're meant to learn something from a relationship, and then move on when we're done.
<>This is the primary purpose in uniting and amplifying your vibrations as One. You are moving and expressing yourself as Divine energy as you talk and teach and catch waves of vibrations from your soul and understand what your soul is saying and that is the power when you speak from the soul. You embody Divine powers using your talents given from the higher soul vibrations as they move up inside and flow thru your soul and you are more connected to the cosmos and see fruits of what you do as One. The divine gifts within the soul evolve specific vibrations flowing from divine within you as one. You have embodied your souls as one and have connection with the Divine and Cosmos. Your talents and gifts are empowered by God to be used as his instruments as TF as you move inside your soul with same vibration. You meditate with your soul. The Soul gets charged as the One Soul in its connection to God in the supernal triangle. You can do miracles when you open up your soul and allow it to have its freedom for it has no boundaries and limitations and wants truth in order to live free and not be under any control except Divine flow. You see purpose as souls as you live as Divine Instruments for God’s use knowing you are Divine Beings.
<>“I find your audios give myself a rest from my sometimes whirlwind-of-a-mind. The vibration of the music really gets me in a good place. In my non-doing – which means less action and even less ‘working on myself’- I’ve met a man, found a new apartment and begun my new business – your work is the best! I started to really expand my appreciation list into small details, including reliving the best times of the week before, again and again. I don’t let compliments just lay there- I go over them again and again until they feel just how they felt the first time I was told them. As you said, going to a café is a good change of scenery to do the lists (especially as I work from home so it gives me a much needed break). My friend loved your talk Envision in Birmingham and I’m going to try to make it to the London one when you’re at the School of Intuition and Healing…”
<>The best way to meditate for your goals is to first quiet your mind and body. Then project yourself to your desired future. Watch yourself in the future, experiencing the results you want. Make sure to embody all the feelings and emotions as you can. Make all the images as bright as you can. You subconscious mind can’t tell the difference from real or imagined, so it will believe it’s real. That is how to impress your subconscious with what you want. Then it will automatically guide you to that result. Manifestation first begins with your subconscious mind. This is truth. Believe it and see it, first starts with this concept. Then watch your vibration everyday, do not allow lower vibrations to suck you out if your dreams.
<>Physical compatibility in a relationship need not always mean love. There are many versions of love, and romance and lust are two basic ones. True love includes commitment, trust, respect and contentment. If these things lack in a relationship, it is definitely not love. A lot of people justify physical violence with passion. Passion in a relationship is definitely a natural phenomenon, but there’s a thin line between being passionate and violent. If you find your partner being too harsh on you, both physically and emotionally, then it’s not love.
<>A small example was this: I was about to get on a train at a door where just a few people were boarding, when I got an ‘inner nudge’ telling me not to and to walk to the next carriage, which logically didn’t make sense as more people were waiting there. As I approached the door I realised why as there was a woman on her own with two suitcases struggling to get on- so I helped her. The irony was when I got on my carriage was relatively empty whereas I could see the carriage I was going to get on before was crowded. I love how my inner guidance knew what was best for both me and those around me. This has happened on other small things, too. It’s early days but I’m beginning to know what is guidance and what is just ‘mind chatter’.
<>Gabriel…I have been going for energy healing sessions since years now and have been working on myself…..I must admit that I still have apprehensions on manifesting my soulmate desires and often wallow on self pity despite all the inner work I have been doing…..however, reading this article today has completely opened my heart and mind and given me so much hope and positivity…..you are absolutely right in quoting that our soulmates are within us all along…..I would like to express my heartfelt gratitude to you for writing such an articulate, poignant and powerful article for us…..thank you so much for opening our heart to love and creating our own reality……thank you for telling us that IT IS possible and IT exists for each of us…….much love
<>Hi Gabs, i have a long story but i’l cut it. After i said a prayer, talking to the Universe to send me a lady that i will get married to, i met a lady on facebook. She is a Gemini and i’m a Saggitarus. She became so deep in love with me and i culd sense it. But when she understood she was 2years older than me, her love began to undulate. She kept saying that i’m young and once she has a baby or two, she will look like my aunt cos of her size. Prior to our relationship, she has been in several relationshps with men, now she has a perspective bout men not been faithful. I assured her i was different and even if she has a child before that wont matter to me. But she seems to be falling apart. What do i need to do, to convince her of my love and my faithfulness and ensuring her loyalty? I love her and distance is not a barrier in my relationshp with her. Ur article is superb, it has updated my horizon. U can email me ur answers. emamaks2000@yahoo.co.nz. Thanks.
<>There is a trick to The Law of Attraction and it's not as magical as one might imagine: we attract the things that we focus on. When we focus on not having enough, that thought form supports the "lack of" we routinely experience. We are forever reminded to use affirmations and to keep our thoughts positive, but "feeling sorry for myself" continues to be the mantra of many people. Furthermore, we can be bombarded with repetitive negative phrases in our thinking, such as:
<>Just wanted to make a comment about all of this. It really will work for everyone but it has to be something that is in your gut you know you will get with no doubts. I have received everything I want or don’t want because I new it in my gut. it was all unintentional before any of this kind of talk of the law of attraction came about. I think back on my life and all my intentions have manifested just the way I imagined they would. I only wished I had focused on all positive and threw out the negative. So the things you don’t want you have to change the way you feel about it and the way you think about it. I am looking into hypnosis to remove the things that are negative. Install the things I want into my subconscious. This is idea I have heard about and understand how it can help people who have a problem understanding and changing their thought process. You have to really, really want it and believe you will have it and feel good about and feel good about life and appreciate all that you have. Get excited!!!! I love the quotes in “The Secret”” take the first steps you don’t have to see the whole staircase just take the first step” mlking
<>When you want to become a money magnet, you must understand that money has a relationship with gratitude. Because the thought of money either makes you feel positive or negative most of the time. If it makes you feel positive then that’s great. But if it makes you feel negative because your focus is on the lack then this is where Gratitude works like magic.
<>The degree of your self-acceptance will dictate the quality of your relationship. If you try to manifest a relationship when you're full of desperation and you have low self-esteem, you may indeed succeed, but the relationship will almost certainly be sub-par. You might drive your partner away, unconsciously cause drama in your relationship, or--more likely--attract a partner who is not good for you.
<>Hi Geoff! Thank you for your reply. I do understand the chapter is about getting an ex back. However, what I meant to ask is whether the same rule applies if the person you want to manifest a relationship with is someone you haven’t previously dated. You see I talk to him everyday and he often tends to talk about the girl he is with or unknowingly tells me how I mean a lot to him but only as a friend. And every time that happens I just can’t stop negative thoughts of fear and doubt cropping up in my mind, thus making it difficult for me to let go. So I want to know if I should maintain some distance, perhaps talk less often. The only issue here is that there isn’t really any problem between us. He knows I love him and we kind of sorted it out a couple of months back and have continued to be best friends. I don’t quite have a reason to suddenly cut down on talking to him and I am sure if I do that he would want to know why.
<>Things were certainly bleak, to put it mildly. It was terrifying, yet at the same time there was a new spark of hope deep inside me that wouldn’t go away. Now I was in control of my future, and that was a whole new way of thinking about what was possible for my life. I remembered an Oprah show I’d watched where she’d talked about changing your thoughts because they have the power to predict your future. I mentally traced my life back five, ten years, and realized that everything I worried about, feared and stressed about, had become my reality. That was a huge revelation for me. I saw it plain as day: I’d created all those “misfortunes.” I’d created that life. That was all the proof I needed of the tremendous power of my thoughts, even if it had only worked in a negative way up to that point. I knew I had nothing to lose, and the possibility of possibility brought hope in a way I’d never known before.
<>I have a funny story to share though and it’s not about my experience, it’s about my Mom’s. She got a letter in the mail late last year from a lawyer asking her information because her best friend of over 50 year’s husband had passed away and he was leaving her some money. Never in a million years would she had ever expected that. He was a tight wad, as we like to call them here in Texas. They didn’t have any children and she had passed away about five years earlier. Anyway he’s always given money to the college where he went and everyone just assumed that’s where it would go. Let me also clarify that the man was filthy rich!
<>In January of the year she set out to go to Venice, someone she had met earlier and heard of her request, offered to give her a ticket to Venice with no strings attached. Then after learning the hotel she wanted was booked for a conference, she believed the universe would deliver and called back two weeks later to find a room available. Turns out, it was the room where the exact picture on her vision board was taken.
<>One way to attract positive thoughts, experiences and situations in your life is to create a manifestation scrapbook. Fill the pages with affirmations and clippings of pictures that depict the things that you wish to materialize in life. Spend about a week creating the various pages in the book and review the book on a daily, weekly or monthly basis depending on personal goals. People do not need to know about your manifestation book in order for interesting and surprising positive events to come into your life.
<>Sorry, for my bad english (Not my mother tongue). I will use LOA for this also, one day… Anyways, I have some confusion. I have very nice girl in my class. She is total calm, peaceful, adorable etc. She is not too great by looks but her nature is very good. So, I want that girl in my life. I saw her daily. In comments, you have said, let the other person go>> On this point, I have doubt. I mean, so I dont think abt her? or think abt her in a positive way (Visualization) like, she is talking with me in good language or taking care of me. Plz be specific. I am truly dedicated and hard working person. Please give instructions how to attract. How many times (Hours) per day Visualization is enough. I really love my self and happy all the day.
<>Beyond a  shadow of a doubt I know this to be true — we’ve all set huge spoken and unspoken intentions for love.  We’ve all asked for it.  Know that sometimes love comes in unexpected ways, ways in which our ego’s would say “hey that was horrible.”  But remember that each and every experience is a stepping stone to where you are going.  Ask and it is given.  Stop judging how it’s coming to you, instead know it is and get focused on the hopeful expectation of what life brings when you get our of your own way.
<>In January of the year she set out to go to Venice, someone she had met earlier and heard of her request, offered to give her a ticket to Venice with no strings attached. Then after learning the hotel she wanted was booked for a conference, she believed the universe would deliver and called back two weeks later to find a room available. Turns out, it was the room where the exact picture on her vision board was taken.
<>Ever notice how travel magazines show a beautiful destination, maybe a white sand beach and azure blue sky? And, there is always a table and empty chair. Your mind is attracted to the empty chair. It wants you to be there. Goals are the same. The law of attraction is energised by the gap between here and there. So long as it is bridgeable (see tip 21).
<>“What I want to say to everyone is- don’t give up at the first hurdle, like I used to do! I had read dozens of ‘self-help’ books and watched countless lectures, and yet it was like, as Michael often says, “joining a gym but never going”. I knew all the techniques inside and out- yet had rarely applied them. Part of me feared that it wouldn’t work for me, anyway. After hearing people at the groups, I began to feel a little more hopeful. I saw for myself the changes in other people, which was inspiring. Perhaps it would work for me, after all? So, like an experiment, I gave it a go. And lots of magical little things are happening in my life. Far too many to be called ‘coincidence’.”
<>When you feel moved to take action from a place of passion and excitement, not stress, then go ahead and let those actions flow through you. It will seem to be more work to stop yourself — you’ll feel like you’re chickening out and holding back if you stay still. Follow your impulses. But don’t worry about the immediate results of those actions. There may be some twists and turns along the way.
<>Stop looking at the horizons in front of you and feeling overwhelmed. Look at the horizon behind you. It’s just as far and infinite. Think about how far you’ve travelled already. And, allow yourself a small tear of pride. Give yourself a pat on the back for the efforts you’ve made, the roads you’ve travelled. The universe thanks you for being part of this amazing story we’re all creating together.
<>I could never have any direct interaction with guys before when I had a lot of resistance about love but after I experienced some contrasts, I could manifest the guy that I could run into yesterday. But it didn’t go exactly as I anticipated. I was so surprised I couldn’t handle it properly I guess. And I kind of beat myself up over it yesterday and then I stumbled upon this posting today.
<>As for manifestations that involve another person, you probably don’t want to put too much focus on that because we can’t create in another person’s reality. No matter what we do with our energy, it can’t ‘translate’ to someone else and make them do anything. Now, this isn’t to say that you can’t ever get back together with this person, as that may possibly be the best representation of the energy and feelings that you are trying to attract into your life–remember that no matter what we want, we are always after a feeling. What also happens sometimes is when we make changes in our own energy, we line up with different ‘versions’ of people, even if they have fundamentally stayed the same, and this can make it easier to get along with them,etc…
<>If you were to meet your soulmate today, and you chose to live together, would there be room in your life for them?  Okay, think you know what I’m getting at?  If you don’t start making actual time and space to be with your soulmate, you’re sending out a clear message to the Universe that you’re not ready to welcome him or her into your life. If what you truly want is to welcome your One into your life, and you are fully committed, then one of the best ways that you can accelerate this process is by consciously making room for them.
<>“I started applying the Law of Attraction techniques more consistently about two months ago. On a daily basis I have been meditating, making a written list of things that I appreciate and doing the Focusing Process. During this time several areas of my life have positively transformed including getting a new job and my long term partner proposing to me, with both things remarkably happening within the space of a couple of weeks! I also feel much more appreciation for my life in general and there have been several great more day to day experiences such as going for three different meals out and getting given free courses and drinks (as they apologised for a delay in service which I didn’t even really notice as I was having such a lovely time). My fiancée and I are now wanting to attract a lovely home in the country to move in to together and given the other positive experiences I’ve had with the Law of Attraction I feel confident that we can do this!”
<>“I have a 10 year old daughter. She is a Law of Attraction manifestor. Whatever, she wants she can get. She has attracted in the past few months alone, an alarm clock that she wanted and a place in a school of her choosing. The way she attracted the school was to have a brochure of the school placed in her room. She also frequently visited the schools website to see what activities they have and see the school uniform. Then over the past few months, she talked as if she is ALREADY THERE. Two weeks ago, we got a call out of the blue, to say that a girl is leaving and that a place has opened up. This, as you can imagine was a shock to us all but my daughter was so excited and just knew it was going to happen. She, also, dreams of flying first class and has an Upper Class shoe bag draped over her bedside – this is going to happen soon. Finally, she has a goal list in her bedroom and they are just all lining up to happen.”
<>“I love writing ‘Bring me more faith and belief’ on the Universe List. At first, when I heard about this, I thought ‘what’s the point?’ (I suppose this is why I needed more faith!). But then things started to gradually shift. So many synchronicities and signs that yes, life could be on my side. It didn’t happen immediately- it took a few weeks of meditation and appreciation. Sometimes I feel life can get better and better but because you are not appreciating- you don’t see it. But when you look back and start appreciating you realise all the incredible changes that have already happened in your life.”
<>Now the question is do you still wish being in LA on next xmas?? Do you really want this to happen?? If you say yes then I would suggest you to keep thinking about this till next xmas, share your thoughts with your friends, make plans when time comes, be crazy about this and don’t compromise on this wish… I am sure you will be able to visit LA on next xmas or may be next to next.(But also note that you too are trying to materialize the once in a year thing like celebrating xmas in LA, getting a jet plane on b’day)
<>“I was looking for a relationship and when I came to your group I realised that was my problem- I was looking too much, and all the time. It was a tiring process and I had done all of the dating sites and just met with disappointment. I could never square the advice I had been given- on the one hand I needed to create vision boards and focus on love or do actions, and on the other hand I needed to let it go because ‘you find love when you’re not looking for it’. The problem was I couldn’t stop looking no matter how much I tried. I realised I needed a hobby to replace my current hobby- looking for love- which wasn’t helping me find love and also wasn’t making me feel happy. So I put it all on the Universe List and joined a local political group of all things. Although I had read in certain spiritual books that politics could be ‘negative’, it felt good to me, and it was my guidance so I followed it. At first shy, I got my confidence up and began to speak to small groups of people. I became passionate about my local community. And then I met my ‘one’ as I now call him, through the organisation. The thing is I didn’t join the group to meet a man- and that seems to me a major point- I just followed my inner nudge to do something that I enjoyed and there he was.”
<>Another thing about feelings—get yourself out of situations that don’t feel like what you want. You don’t have to compromise or settle. You don’t have to experience a bunch of stuff that feels badly to also experience that which feels good. As you shore up your good energy, and stick to your standards and boundaries, these types of situations will naturally decrease, and at some point, move out of your experience completely.
<>“I don’t see it manifesting” is where you’re going wrong. You’re focusing on what you see around you. Stop looking at your reality like it is and start seeing it how you want to be. So long as you focus on your reality, your thoughts are filled with your current reality, and that’s what you are creating – more evidence of not being with him. Simply put, you are not at one with your desire. You have to change your thoughts. You need to be able to relax and let go. You need to make sure you aren’t obsessing over things and trying to control the situation. You need to focus on raising your vibrational energy and doing things that make you feel joyful. This article on resistance might help you get clearer so you can attract a specific person.
<>“I have been happily embracing the LOA exercises for many months- as a daily practise, and ‘living’ an improved quality ’emotional life’ as a direct consequence. What I like about the LOA, Abraham & Tracy’s coaching is that I can continue to feel good and I don’t necessarily have to ‘goal set’. My life works well generally and I am busy with my career, a great social life and have several interesting creative hobbies – even with this bursting circus of a life experience- who wouldn’t want to feel great and enhance more daily joy? So, that’s what I focus on in my daily practise – and Wow! …’stuff’ just keeps turning up for me, that I had creatively had ideas about years ago! – like parties, events, products, experiences, work opportunities, people, places and things. I am not focusing on ‘what I want to come to me’ I’m just grooving on the positive and improved feeling….and great ideas I have had in the past are now turning up with either the means for me to roll it out or the full manifested version of a past desire for me to dive straight into. It’s like a wish list you had almost forgotten about until it arrives and then it’s like oh wow I daydreamed about this ages ago! Brilliant! – Abe is correct – ‘Ask and it’s given’ (I) just have to allow it in.”
<>As for losing faith in the Universe, that phrasing suggests you are applying ‘humanness’ to this force, and looking at it as something that makes decisions, rewards people,etc… It implies you are waiting for it to give you something. It is much more mechanical than that..it is neutral. It can only reflect back to us our predominant beliefs and feelings–it can’t deliver something because we are a good person, or are trying really hard,etc.. Think of it as a computer–input,output.
<>2. Focus on the positive. Let go of all your negative thoughts….such as “it's hard to find anyone,” “why don't they see how good I am,” and “no one will ever love me.” You have a lot of great qualities that make you so worthy of anyone's love and attention. Others do notice you and appreciate you. There is love all around you. Let it in. When you let it in and focus on the positive, you change your vibration and open a door for the Law of Attraction for love to bring you your specific person.

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