<>Hi JG – I’m glad you’re enjoying my book on attracting a specific person! Detachment will come with time. Don’t worry so much about whether you’re doing things right. The Law of Attraction isn’t about perfection. Also, as I discuss in the book, focus on doing things that make you happy. It’ll be far more effective than trying to cover the doubts up with affirmations.
<>Things had not been perfect between us prior to that day, I can’t lie. We’d been struggling financially to the point of desperation for what felt like forever. We’d lost our home the year before and were forced into bankruptcy after our twins were born. Our life was in a noticeable negative tailspin. Losing everything we’d worked so hard to acquire had destroyed our pride and left us both feeling useless, helpless and miserable. I’d done everything I could think of to cut our budget and make it so we could pay the bills and still eat, but every month we fell further behind. 
<>Hi again, I just recently posted a question, well I thought of something else that I didn’t mention in my last question. See I am sort of confused a little with Letting Go part/the “being okay without him” part. The LOA states to visualize and feel your desire, like you already have what you want. Basically focusing on you is the major part of attracting a specific person, and of course being okay with not receiving what you want, letting go or detachment. If visualizing myself with my man makes me happy, if thinking about my man & I’s new relationship makes me happy, then that is okay to focus on? I’m confused as to how I’m suppose to do both, visualize and also let go at the same time..
<>Hi Geoff! Thank you for your reply. I do understand the chapter is about getting an ex back. However, what I meant to ask is whether the same rule applies if the person you want to manifest a relationship with is someone you haven’t previously dated. You see I talk to him everyday and he often tends to talk about the girl he is with or unknowingly tells me how I mean a lot to him but only as a friend. And every time that happens I just can’t stop negative thoughts of fear and doubt cropping up in my mind, thus making it difficult for me to let go. So I want to know if I should maintain some distance, perhaps talk less often. The only issue here is that there isn’t really any problem between us. He knows I love him and we kind of sorted it out a couple of months back and have continued to be best friends. I don’t quite have a reason to suddenly cut down on talking to him and I am sure if I do that he would want to know why.
<>“I found myself in London at a quarter to one and rather than go with the mind chatter of how tired I was, and how I shouldn’t have had to work until so late etc.- I just went with the experience. Rather than being intimidated or plain angry- I non-resisted. I leaned into it. And it was magical. I walked around and enjoyed the late night hustle and bustle of the city which I rarely saw, I found a great place to get food and met some great people. It was one of the best nights I’d had for weeks! The teaching for me on this night, I actually got from your group- to be ok with wherever I am and whatever’s going on; to assume that where I am is the perfect place for me to be and, as my experience showed, then the world transforms around you.”
<>When you do find yourself meeting with someone, don’t pin all your hopes on this person being the ‘one.’ You really don’t even know him yet, and you have no idea if this person is really compatible with you, or is the type of person you would want to be with over the long-term. Sure, you can be excited, and look forward to it, but release any expectation around how things will play out. Work on getting yourself into a state of ‘surrender’ where you just accept what happens as it happens, knowing all the while, what you want is coming, even if you have no idea how that looks right now.
<>Thanks for sharing your thoughts and I am so glad you liked the post. I think a lot of people have that fear, so you are certainly not alone in that. One of the things that has helped me most with that is remembering how ‘challenging’ the human experience is, and knowing we all have our ‘stuff’ that we hold inside, bad things that have happened to us, etc.. For the most part, I think lots of people actually want to talk about these things and not feel like they are the only one struggling. Intellectually we know that isn’t true, but how we feel is often very different. When we think about it this way, sharing our own ‘stuff’ feels less scary. And, as you work on your attraction, you will naturally begin to meet up with people who you do feel comfortable with, and will not pull away when things get closer.
<>“Since I did your Finding Love workshop I have sorted out a 15 year pattern of attracting ‘unavailable’ and ‘abusive’ men (as various therapists labelled them). I had studied book after book, courses and support groups, seen therapists, looking to fix my problem. It just wasn’t getting any better. When I found your work I was at a point of desperation- I realised nothing was working and a different approach was needed- and it turned out to be your approach. I know this has been said to you before but you provide something different that I actually haven’t seen before in two decades of personal development work; and it is working in quite amazing ways for me. In the year since attending I am now with a loving and handsome man who I would have thought was ‘out of my league’ before. It’s quite simply a miracle. And what’s interesting is two ex-partners have come back and apologised and/or wanted me back- two things I was desperate to have happen for years, no matter how much I told my friends I was over it- yet in my need it wasn’t happening. This year will be my wedding- something I had given up on ever happening. And yet it is happening. 2015 will be amazing- and all thanks to you.”
<>This fear gets triggered in a variety of ‘romantic’ situations–you may not consciously be aware that it is fear, it may manifest itself in a variety of ways—and people that are good matches for you can’t make their way in.  For example, you may meet some great people who you get along with great, but they just won’t be attracted to you, and it isn’t because there is anything wrong with you. In fact, if you were to ask someone why he wasn’t ‘feeling it’, he probably wouldn’t have a good answer. He wouldn’t’ be able to verbalize it.
<>According to neuroscientists, as you continue to meditate, your brain physically changes, even though you’re not aware of it reshaping itself. They’re also beginning to understand why meditation is effective for managing stress. Using brain imaging techniques, scientists have observed changes in the threat system of the brain. The response kicks-off in the amygdala, the part of the brain responsible for triggering fear. People who suffer from chronic anxiety have a more reactive amygdala, and this leaves them feeling threatened much of the time.
<>“I had been in some emotional pain over a relationship, and wasn’t sure what to do about it. It was a familiar pattern, and one which had caused me to totally avoid relationships for years if I’m honest. What your one-to-one appointments have done for me is to get me to rise above these ways of thinking and feel strong in my life. I am more secure than I have ever been, and your techniques do exactly what you said they would do. No false promises there. I’ve started dating someone again and I’m actually enjoying it- it’s a whole new quality of relationship. I will keep you updated. Thank you.”
<>I recently purchased your book and started applying the loa to my relationship. I have been seeing this guy for about 2 months now but we’ve known each other since we were kids…In the beginning he was really into me and passionate, he always found some way to touch me..but a couple of weeks ago all of his affection has stopped and I found out that he still talks to his ex but for court related issues that will be going on until January. Now he seems almost scared to get close to me as if she has threatened him, but I see him everyday and we still kiss goodnight sometimes. He told me hes not completely over her but he never wants to be with her again and that he doesnt want to be in a relationship with anyone for a very long time, but he also says how attracted he is to me and how much he cares for me.
<>I find it very interesting it gives me something to motivate myself because I never heard of the laws of attraction this is the first time I’m hearing about it it has me very intrigued and I’m going to do this and whatever has to Universal on the stick to it I’m going to meditate in the morning and I meditate at night before I go to bed and I’m a focus on exactly that thank you so much I really appreciate it even if I have to come back to this website over and over again to get a better understanding I will do that thank you very much again I really appreciate it yours truly James B Banks
<>In short, it can be said that love is an amazing feeling when two people mutually fall for each other. It is all about respecting and reciprocating each other’s feelings in an accepting manner. Having a clear state of mind about what kind of relationship you would like to establish with the other person, you can make the law of attraction and love work for you.
<>Well what you are talking about, I experience constantly but it is not THAT LAW OF ATTRACTION we want to experience. No later than yesterday I experienced this stuff. I’ve been very busy lately but for some days already, I set my goal on: being in LA for Christmas (I live in Europe). Yesterday afternoon, I run errands and I discover a store full of Christmas decorations. I walk in: it’s full or American products and the music plays the usual American songs I use to hear in LA stores. I come home. Since I moved recently my TV was connected to cable only 2 days ago. I turn on TV. Watever channel I went on, everything was about LA from The Real housewife’s of Beverly Hills, to the Kardashians,to other european programs. I should have counted how many times I saw the word Hollywood pop in front of my eyes. It was non stop until I went to bed.
<>“I find your audios give myself a rest from my sometimes whirlwind-of-a-mind. The vibration of the music really gets me in a good place. In my non-doing – which means less action and even less ‘working on myself’- I’ve met a man, found a new apartment and begun my new business – your work is the best! I started to really expand my appreciation list into small details, including reliving the best times of the week before, again and again. I don’t let compliments just lay there- I go over them again and again until they feel just how they felt the first time I was told them. As you said, going to a café is a good change of scenery to do the lists (especially as I work from home so it gives me a much needed break). My friend loved your talk Envision in Birmingham and I’m going to try to make it to the London one when you’re at the School of Intuition and Healing…”
<>The law of attraction for wealth teaches us that for us to get what we desire in life, our entire being must be vibrating in harmony with it. Once you have discovered the amazing potential of this law, you will want to use it to attract almost everything possible including money. Although using the law of attraction and money creation principles may seem simple in theory, in practice, it can be a bit challenging. Why?
<>I find it very interesting it gives me something to motivate myself because I never heard of the laws of attraction this is the first time I’m hearing about it it has me very intrigued and I’m going to do this and whatever has to Universal on the stick to it I’m going to meditate in the morning and I meditate at night before I go to bed and I’m a focus on exactly that thank you so much I really appreciate it even if I have to come back to this website over and over again to get a better understanding I will do that thank you very much again I really appreciate it yours truly James B Banks
<>Hi Elizabeth – thank you for the wonderful insight into attracting an ex. I got your book and have started doing everything you suggest. I could feel my vibrations rising and went to sleep with a wonderful open heart feeling. When I woke up the doubts of his intentions started filtering into my brain. I quickly tried to cover them up with ______ and ______ together forever and we are 1 type of mantra. I switch between what will be will be and positive thought. We lived together f or 7 years and he has moved out. I have left his cupboards ready for him to come back but am worried that I am not getting the detachment thing right. Will it come in time if I just carry on practising everything you have suggested? Thank you for your time and care. JG
<>am in a Love relation with a girl who is 8 years elder to me both of us from different culture and place, we love each other from what we are from heart and we were able to help and understand each other deeply, but now she is trying to come out wishing me that I will get someone of my age and she is also trying to find someone as her life partner believing that the society will not accept our relation, what can I do so that I can be with the girl I love and care for my life.
<>Math says that 1 + 2 = 2. If you talk with one person who loves math and another who hates math, they’ll each have a different perception of math. One person believes math is intriguing and fun, while the other may have a belief that math is terribly frustrating. So, how you perceive and interpret your reality will also have an effect on what you are attracting in your life.
<>While it might sound strange at first, you’ll be better at using the Law of Attraction for money and wealth if you connect with the smell of money. When you do this, you align your own vibration with wealth and abundance. As you do this, imagine yourself as having all the wealth you need. Don’t think about why you want money, or how you wish you had more money. Let your brain believe you are fully abundant, right now.
<>said on Oprah show: I only have one thing to say to you. OH MY GOD! I sent out 142 copies in total before 20 replied like the instructions said. Then I went on a short vacation. When I got back my account had over $32,000 dollars in it already and the money was still coming! I'm still floating on air (especially with my new car). I thought the "Guardian System" sounded cheesy, but now I realize it is the formula that makes this letter really work! THANKS.
<>The way you feel is what does the attracting. Your feelings are placing your order to the universe’s catalog of worldly possessions. If you set the intention to have more money, but are feeling lack, you’re putting an order in to feel more lack. Therefore your intention to get more money won't be fulfilled. You'll actually be delivered more of the circumstances that give you the feeling of lack.
<>Don't wait for the relationship to manifest; you must first become the person who already has these qualities. This includes preparing your space for the partner of your dreams: Clean out your closet, empty a draw or replace that worn-out wallpaper. Think of all the ways in which you can prepare yourself and your life to be in perfect alignment with your perfect mate.
<>“I was very focused on a particular person and wanting them to like me. Based on what I learnt at a Law of Attraction Centre workshop I decided to practice loving thoughts about what I liked about people rather than thinking about what they thought about me. I spent 15 minutes making a list of the Positive Aspects of a previous partner and the current person I liked. After this I realised that I had felt negative not because of how they did or didn’t feel about me but because I wasn’t thinking lovingly about them. And then guess what, they got in touch and the funny thing was when they did get in touch it was less important as I was already feeling good!”
<>I was in a ten year relationship with my child’s father, but he was a cheater. Eventually I started seeing other people years down the line, mind you our relationship was up and down. Long story short I became pregnant with another’s man baby, which was hurtful to the both of us. I still felt a sense of this happening wasn’t all my fault I feel like he played a role as well. I used to beg him to get our relationship back on track for about three years so finally I gave up because of continuous cheating. Well finally last year we I thought we were getting somewhere and boom came to find out the cheating never stopped, well I left again to begin a new relationship which didn’t work out either plus here’s another baby on the way. Finally the guy that I was with for ten years we started seeing each other again during my pregnancy, but the catch is he wants me to give up baby for adoption. We were broken up for seven months and really I feel my child isn’t his business. Nonetheless, for some odd reason I still love and want to be with him, but if he can’t accept the children, then I have to depart from him. How do me and the children attract him for a positive family oriented relationship?
<>You r right dat untill u hv frnds as bill gates u cann’t expect to get a jet plain as ur b’day gift. But here the entire universe is ur frnd who has got evrything lyk d ppl u see arround u,the birds who sing in mrng,the money u get as a salary, and the food u eat… he owns this earth and its systems. Universe is a form of energy… evrything on d earth happens because of energy and ur thoughts r energy too…. now accordng to newton’s law evry action has an equal n opposite reaction.
<>“I feel so much more relaxed since doing your workshop, and my sleep has improved (which was one of the main reasons I attended). Allowing everything to be as it is doesn’t seem that it’s going to do much- but that’s exactly how things changed for me. Your workshop gave me the confidence to believe in this approach to life- to truly surrender- and I gave it a go: I started meditating and doing your techniques… And my entire life experience has shifted. My relationship with my parents has totally turned around, I’m discovering new interests and I’ve lost weight. Best of all, I feel a lot more contented with my life- I love what you said about the woman in your workshop dwelling on all the wonderful things she already had in her life, and how that was enough to ‘open the door’ to everything she wanted. And then I met her at your group and it was amazing to manifest hearing her explain her story too! Now I can just relax- and it feels so good! Thank you for your insights and constant support.”
<>"I have been a single mother for seven years, and during that time I have had a few disastrous relationships. I have always wanted a very close and special relationship but couldn't find it. I had my heart broken a couple of times, but instead of giving up, I stated exactly what I wanted my man to be like. I said to my sister, "I just want to meet someone who is..." and I wrote down who my perfect partner and relationship was. I then let it go, with absolute faith that one day I would meet him. Two weeks later, I did. We have already planned to move in together and have a baby soon after my next manifestation. I am thankful every day that I discovered The Law Of Attraction, as it has truly changed my world."
<>If you are familiar with the Law of Attraction, then you will probably know that the possibilities are endless when it comes to what you can achieve and receive from the Universe. I have put together a list of successful celebrities that use and love the Law of Attraction, and how they have used it to achieve success in life. Hopefully, this can show you how you too can achieve great things through the Law of Attraction.
<>In short, it can be said that love is an amazing feeling when two people mutually fall for each other. It is all about respecting and reciprocating each other’s feelings in an accepting manner. Having a clear state of mind about what kind of relationship you would like to establish with the other person, you can make the law of attraction and love work for you.
<>2. I decided to try it again. I chose not to push the boundary too much, and decided to shoot for 300 shekels. Again, this amount of tips was over three times the norm and unheard. I did it again! Well, I got 290 shekels (I was 10 shekels off but I didn’t go home and repeat the mantra all night, I was happy with that!). Needless to say the other eight or so waitresses all started trying my new trick!
<>2. Focus on the positive. Let go of all your negative thoughts….such as “it's hard to find anyone,” “why don't they see how good I am,” and “no one will ever love me.” You have a lot of great qualities that make you so worthy of anyone's love and attention. Others do notice you and appreciate you. There is love all around you. Let it in. When you let it in and focus on the positive, you change your vibration and open a door for the Law of Attraction for love to bring you your specific person.

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