<>3. Love without fear of getting hurt. The scariest thing about love is opening yourself up to it. When you open yourself, there's a chance you might get hurt. If you're afraid of getting hurt, you might unconsciously be preventing someone from getting as close to you as you want. Be willing to take the risk and fully open yourself to love. You will manifest the love you want.
<>Shelly Bullard, MFT is a Marriage and Family Therapist, Love Coach and Spiritual Teacher. She's the author of the eBook: How to Become the Most Attractive Version of Yourself which she offers for FREE (click here to receive your free copy). She's also the instructor of the popular mbg courses: How To Become The Most Attractive Version of Yourself & How to Attract a Partner Who's Ready for Deep, Devoted Love. Shelly believes that when you access the experience of Love within yourself, your relationships become deeply fulfilling and you become the person you’re meant to be. She was named the “Love Guru” as one of the 100 Women to Watch in Wellness by mindbodygreen, and her deepest passion is living and practicing love and relationships as a spiritual path. To learn more about how she can help you create more love in your life, visit her at: shellybullard.com.
<>In many cases, the underlying issue, when it is broken down to its absolute core, is fear of some kind. Fear that people won’t think we are good enough. Fear of being vulnerable to someone. Fear of actually being happy—yeah, lots of people are actually afraid of that. We get so wrapped up in our crap and it becomes such a strong part of our identity, we may not actually know who we are without all the stories we tell ourselves. If you identify yourself as the perpetually single person, an asshole magnet or simply ‘unlucky’ in love, who are you without those labels?
<>Hi Elizabeth, I’ve read your book (loved it!) and the “rules” for those of us who want to manifest an ex, seem a little more demanding and complex… What if your ex wants nothing to do with you, or appears not to want to? What if they are telling everyone they are moving on and happier without you and are going toward greener pastures and they are open to meeting someone new? Secondly, how does one visualize happiness when still hurting, and how does one visualize good things and “let it go” when the memory of the breakup is still recent and fresh. Any tips on how to switch off emotional pain and memories, and just concentrate on the good? I just feel that manifesting an ex back is a great deal more challenging (and yes it is him I really want) because of the history there which simply can’t be erased or forgotten….
<>The New Thought movement (Law of Attraction Origins) grew out of the teachings of Phineas Quimby in the early 19th century. Early in his life, Quimby was diagnosed with tuberculosis. Unfortunately, medicinal treatment wasn't working, so he began carriage riding through his hometown, Lebanon, New Hampshire. He then regained his health and recovered, an event that prompted his study of "mind over body".[10] Although he never used the words 'Law of Attraction', he explained this in a statement that captured the concept in the field of health:
<>Hi, I have been seeing a guy for 5 years. I am in love with him but we dont talk about feelings. He cheated on me a year 1 of our relationship for 6 months. He has his own place as I have kids from another relatioship. when i found out i was heart broken as I did not expect this but I took him back. I feel anxious when im not with him as I feel he is going to cheat . I am using loa to be positive and have gratitude with the good things we do. He does not want to commit as he is thinking babout his life and moving forward and im not part of his plans. I feel the fear and cant let go as when we r together its great, How else can i make this work
<>“I’m from Venezuela- and I discovered your work from a friend also from here who came to your workshop when in the UK. Learning from her, my life is changing; your lists of gratitude have helped and I am beginning to love myself. Since I did the focusing my skin is younger looking and my hair is thicker- plus I seem to be able to run faster and have a lot more energy… Feeling good seems to cover everything! I also have practiced seeing the best in people rather than worrying, fearing or being angry at them… I really look forward to meeting you when I visit the UK next year and taking your work further (and this trip itself was due to my application of your work). Blessings from Venezuela.”
<>I just order your book and looking forward to reattracting my ex and having him commit to me and us get married. I am feeling nervous and have tried everything else and I know what I am vibrating right now is the reason we aren’t together and he keeps getting with other people, so I am committing myself to learn this material and FINALLY working on myself so that I can reattract him and get the love and relationship that I have always wanted with him.
<>Can you attract a man that kept saying to you he wasn’t attracted to you? Even tho he would come over and ask if he could come over every weekend and asked why i didn’t call him. His mother was very over involved and was texting him when we were together, i believe she was in his ear all the time about me because i was older. nothing ever happened, no kissing or anything i never did anything either because he kept saying he had no feelings for. He would text me really early every morning telling me how awesome i was but just kept saying he had no feelings for me and wasn’t attracted to me. Why would someone text you the first minute they get up and send 50 text a day and be vulnerable to you if they had no feelings? He sent love songs then ask if mine were about him. again all this time saying he had feelings for me. My primary thoughts everyday were “he won’t think I’m good enough for him’ ‘I’m not pretty enough’ etc etc. I can see where i went wrong with the thoughts and feelings i kept giving out. My question is if someone says that are not attracted to you but they do things that would indicate otherwise, can you attract them into your life with the LOA? Thanks. Marie.
<>Initially this surprised her. She could dismiss it as luck… or as some kind of trick… or as a momentary lapse of her part. Then when it kept happening, it began to frustrate her. I helped her shift that frustration to amusement by pointing out that she was really good at finding bottle caps and smudges, and we had some laughs about that. She just needed to adjust her mind a little bit more to notice the coins.
<>Additional to reading your very helpful posts I used to do the Soul Call Guided Meditation every now and then like you suggested in this post. It helped me keep my heart open and believing in the magic of everything that can be, it made me downright excited and tingly in my heart about the future. Unfortunately it is not available anymore so I wanted to ask if it is somehow possible to have access to it again? I tried a lot of other meditations but never got even a similar feeling afterwards.
<>Gradually she got better at the game. We went out yesterday and played again. In an hour of walking around some hotels on the Vegas Strip, she found 46 cents: 1 quarter, 3 nickels, and 6 pennies. In that same time, I found only 6 cents. She won the game for the first time and was pretty excited about it. And of course I gave her lots of accolades for it, so as to encourage her to keep improving.
<>The vibrations of our real being are those that act in the law of attraction; rather than the vibrations of our thoughts and desires. The law of attraction is based on a universal field, a quantum field, in which the whole existence is connected in one, behind the time and space. At this most subtle level of existence, the basic level, we are all one being, we are not even connected, but we literally are one.
<>Think of all the awesome things you may have manifested already, things that came to you out of nowhere, in ways you could not have anticipated, and realize that can happen with money as well, if we are willing to make some space for that trust. You have no idea what inspirations will come to you, what solutions will present themselves, what people you will meet and what opportunities will arise.
<>My dog is amazing, he is such a joy and so fun and I love him to bits. He was a troubled wee lad and it wasn’t a Disney story for the first 6 weeks but I kept working with Tracy on focusing processes and appreciation lists and daily universals lists that me and my dog were ideally suited and that he was happy and content, living his ideal life. That was 12 months ago and my dog is so well adjusted, happy and the best company ever. His behaviour turned around in no time at all. I have my ideal dog and my dog is nicknamed by my friends and family as ‘the little king’ he landed on his paws.”
<>I gained a good friend in sixth or seventh grade, and we hung out nearly every day. However, in the beginning of eight grade, she moved away to Michigan. She had given me her number, but I lost it! In my freshman year of high school one day, I just thought to myself, “I wonder how my friend is doing? I really want to talk to her.” I didn’t really think much of it though. It was just a passing thought. Later within the year, my mom came up to me and handed me a number. I asked her who’s number it was, and she told me that my friend’s mother had contacted my school to in order to hunt me down. She called and gave my mom her number so I could call my friend! O_O At the time, I wasn’t even thinking about LOA, but now as I look back, I realized it was! (I was just introduced to “The Secret” in eight grade too).
<>“I began finally doing the techniques you had taught. Although rationally I believed they would work, something was stopping me fully living this way. Then I heard you saying about taking it one step at a time. A real relief came over me and I started with a short 20 minute meditation in the morning and a list of appreciation in the evening. I also got into a habit of repeating some of my appreciative statements throughout the day. I feel lighter, calmer and more relaxed on a consistent basis – and something happened that I wanted to share which is a sign of improved manifestations: I hadn’t been on holiday for about three years (due to time and money) and recently a friend invited me on an all expenses paid trip to Los Angeles! When I was there it turned out that one of my favourite authors was doing an event around the corner from our hotel, too. It was a magical experience. Great motivation for me to keep going with these incredible tools.”
<>Gratitude is another crucial aspect within the Law of Attraction, which can be key in helping to unlock the abundance of love that is waiting to bring glorious color into your world. Being grateful for all of the love that you are already blessed with in life, no matter how little this may be, is a sure way of encouraging a greater abundance of love into your life.
<>For one of a million reasons, we feel like we can’t be ourselves. We long to be. We just want to move through the world as we truly are, without the masks. This is especially true when it comes to relationships. If you asked someone to make a list of what he wanted in a partner, I imagine ‘loving me for who I am’ would near the top of anyone’s list, or at least anyone who wants a real, authentic relationship.
<>I decided that that goal was to make $100,000 that year. I created an image of a $100,000 dollar bill and hung it on the ceiling above my bed. Every morning I’d see the image. I’d visualize what it would be like to have $100,000. Everything I did was to achieve that goal. At the end of the year, I had made $97,000. This would never have been possible without the Law of Attraction, these visualization techniques, and meditation.  
<>Thank you so much for taking the time to comment and share your experience with me. You are certainly on the right track with what you are doing, and you are certainly lining yourself up for an amazing relationship. That is where a lot of people struggle with LOA in general, and relationships in particular–it can be really hard to feel okay with how things are now when we want them to be different. Feeling okay with being single and feeling that fulfillment with life in the absence of that other person can be a challenge, but it is necessary to let in a GOOD relationship.
<>“I first attended your groups (and two of your workshops) about four months ago. My life changed a little bit within just a few days, which was exciting: I sold my house (which had been on the market for over a year) and got an unexpected payment of money. But only recently it’s like a switch ‘flicked’ and I now understand directly what I learnt, in other areas of my life. I love the simplicity and clarity of your teachings – they get straight to the point. What I would say to everyone experiencing doubts or asking questions like ‘when’s it going to happen?’ – is to keep on going, doing the techniques anyway every day, even if you don’t feel like it and even when you’re not seeing any evidence of change – because positive change will happen. On a manifestation front, I’m finding that new opportunities are coming to me (including two well-paid freelance jobs), I’m dating more… And I’ve let go of an addiction that was really getting in the way of my life. But it’s the feeling of enjoying my life that is with me much of the time that I’m thankful for most of all. Daily prayer (Universe List) and giving thanks is the key to keeping me in a high vibration and a consistently good mood.”
<>THANK YOU REAL SUBLIMINAL!!!! You have given me the tools to make REAL changes in my thinking and my life. I’m eternally grateful!!I bought your “Law of Attraction” mp3. I listened to it everyday religiously. Had it playing silently all day in the background of whatever I was doing for about 3 weeks. I didn’t pay it much attention just kepy playing it till one day….. I realized I had given up caffine, (my Coca-Cola everyday), most of my sweets and was eating better. I was even making better financial decisions without even thinking about it. I was in the grocery store when I came to this BIG epiphany when I was NOT attracted to the junk aisle.
<>“I began finally doing the techniques you had taught. Although rationally I believed they would work, something was stopping me fully living this way. Then I heard you saying about taking it one step at a time. A real relief came over me and I started with a short 20 minute meditation in the morning and a list of appreciation in the evening. I also got into a habit of repeating some of my appreciative statements throughout the day. I feel lighter, calmer and more relaxed on a consistent basis – and something happened that I wanted to share which is a sign of improved manifestations: I hadn’t been on holiday for about three years (due to time and money) and recently a friend invited me on an all expenses paid trip to Los Angeles! When I was there it turned out that one of my favourite authors was doing an event around the corner from our hotel, too. It was a magical experience. Great motivation for me to keep going with these incredible tools.”
<>I have had 4 major and three minor surgery to my lower back,for the past 12 years, in the past 4 years i have had fibromyalgia and have been on all sorts of medication, I still am. I have been going to my local healers in Aberdeen Scotland for the past 2 months, where i have been going through a slow transformation for the better. Then natural hypnosis came along and WOW, I have listened everyday as instructed and i have cut down in my medication, I am starting to feel more alive and i am so relaxed i had forgotten what it felt like.
<>I have bought Your books and been an avid fan of your blog! I have always had great success manifesting my desires until recently. My relationship of 4 years has ended- on his part– I have followed Your steps, used EFT, meditation, visualization, and have been working on my vibration. However, the Communication on his end has become increasingly negative (whereas he was not so together) and I am Aware of the desire- the RELATIONsHIP with him- has not manifested. I have been working on releasing resistance & detachment. Any tips or suggestions? Guidance would be appreciated.
<>“I have been meditating regularly for several months now and also doing the written Law of Attraction exercises and several positive things have happened. One positive change that has happened is that I wanted to have a different manager at work. I kept focusing on this and even though I spoke with different people and sent some emails it didn’t initially seem possible. However, I stayed positive and focused on what I wanted and I now have a new manager. I have also been having more and more experiences of being fully in the present instant, in which I feel completely relaxed and fulfilled and I attribute this to my mind having become clearer through my meditation practice. Finally, I was recently on holiday and the trip went smoothly which I felt was a result of my connection. This included all of my travel arrangements going to plan and getting a hire car even when a lady working at my hotel told me that there weren’t any available with any of the hire car companies as they were all booked out.”
<>You are not pre-destined to a life of hardship and struggle; you alone are responsible for how much income you welcome into your life. Feel excited about the money. Feel thankful for what money you already have. Rejoice in the knowledge that the bank of the Universe has unlimited wealth to offer you. Let your entire mind become consumed with thoughts of abundance.
<>Yet I continued my LoA manifestation practice even in spite of all this. I could vividly imagine the way I’d feel once this burden of real estate sales had been removed from my shoulders. I vividly imagined myself relaxing in the warm sun, sipping a margarita poolside in Mexico. I felt how happy I would be to sleep till I awakened naturally, rather than waking every day to an alarm clock. I visualized making new friends, and being surrounded by a friendly, welcoming community.
<>Now i am trying new experiment with attraction…..i have bought a journal nd covered it with white paper……..on it i have drawn beautiful scene that makes my soul nd mind feel relax and calm…….before writing my diary at night i write best things that could happen with me the next day…..while writing i write it slowly nd feel each word as i write……..next day 90% of things happen in actual……..the cover makes things look more realistic..you can even give title to book/journal…….
<>“After something I heard in the group, I realised that if I waited until I felt like Meditation or Appreciation- I probably would be waiting a very long time. I had read all the books but felt huge resistance to doing the exercises. I put on the Universe List something I heard Michael say several weeks in a row: ‘Inspire me to wake up early and full of energy and wanting to do my processes.’ I don’t know how it worked- but it worked. And now my morning ritual is almost as automatic as brushing my teeth or getting dressed. And yes, it seemed to happen overnight. Many months or even years of ‘thinking about’ doing it- and now I’m doing it. I feel like a different person and things are definitely starting to shift.”
<>While it might sound strange at first, you’ll be better at using the Law of Attraction for money and wealth if you connect with the smell of money. When you do this, you align your own vibration with wealth and abundance. As you do this, imagine yourself as having all the wealth you need. Don’t think about why you want money, or how you wish you had more money. Let your brain believe you are fully abundant, right now.
<>I’ve been studying LoA for a few years now and have read countless books on the matter. To me, Napoleon Hill’s book was by far the best because it wasn’t just full of platitudes, it actually gave me some actionable items and did tell me that a certain amount of work was involved. This was important to me because I have a core belief (right or wrong) that you can’t get something for nothing. With that said, even with all the research I have done, and the belief that LoA exists, I have yet to experience any positive outcomes from using any of the techniques. Doing yet more research, I have come to the conclusion that there are two things that I am doing wrong, or more concisely, unable to achieve. The first being that I can not seem to attach a feeling to a desire. Try as I may, there remains some disconnect somewhere. Second, I have a lot of negative self talk and some negative core beliefs (both of which I am working to change… more research). I believe that these two things sabotage any attempt by me to manifest things. As I am practicing LoA, the little voice in my head (my Ego) will tell me that I am being foolish, or that “this doesn’t work”, etc. I tell it to shut up but it never does and introduces doubt every time. This actually brings up a third problem. Unwavering faith. You mentioned faith to get you back on track. Where do you find this? How do you develop it? Do you have any suggestions on any of these issues? Any help is greatly appreciated. Thank you.
<>My fiance and I had a very close knit relationship. As a matter of fact, we didn’t like being apart much at all. Unfortunately, life had us spend the last 8 months away from each other, because of work. It took its toll on the relationship which had already started to suffer because of financial reasons. And one day, almost out of the blue (well I could kind of feel it coming) , two days after telling me how he couldn’t wait to see me, and adored me, he sort of picked a fight, and broke up. From one day to the next, he completely closed the door on me. We went from constantly talking and missing each other, to nothing at all. I have been going through a very difficult time especially because I know that he didn’t break up because he didn’t love me, but he simply was not fulfilling his dreams fast enough because of our financial issues and felt that he had sacrified a lot for my ambition and put his on the backburner. We have had to speak a little because 5 years with someone, you can’t just go NC like that. Logistics had to be sorted out etc…. But he has become very cold all of a sudden, and I heard that it was the only way for him to get over it. He’s also moving to French Polynesia for 2 years. He says that moving forward and far away helps him deal with getting over us… In any case, our relationship was beautiful on the whole, but we simply had a break down in communication when it came to dealing with the pain of separation and money issues. I want him back of course and I will apply your advise from “Manifesting Love”. I know he is my soulmate as I am his. That much I know. However, he is moving so far away. I am going to be in the US and him in Tahiti. Do we even stand a chance? He could meet someone else, or just forget about me….I am lost. It’s only been 6 weeks and I am grieving. I don’t want someone better. I want him because we were something awesome. We just allowed fear to rule our lives….Need some TLC and encouragement :(… Thanks
<>Don’t wait for science to catch up several hundred years from now. Use the power of love, attraction and transformation NOW. Just because you can’t see angels and wise mentors in front of you right now, doesn’t mean you can’t imagine them as true and reap the benefits. You have the same opportunity as anyone else to make this quantum imagination jump.
<>One reason she was bad at this game was that she was tuning out the possible existence of coins everywhere she walked. She just didn’t think there could be that many coins hiding in plain sight. By demonstrating to her that the coins were indeed there and that she was simply failing to notice them, I helped shift her beliefs. She stopped thinking of the game as something outside her control (relying on luck or chance), and she began thinking of what she could control (her open-mindedness and attentiveness).
<>The instructions for creating a personalized manifesting book are basic. Choose affirmative words and colorful pictures clipped from magazines. The words and images chosen will tell stories about what you cherish most about your life. Also, include the things which you wish to attract into your life. Create as many pages as wanted or needed in your manifestation scrapbook.
<>Imagine listening to an orchestra whose musical instruments aren’t in harmony with each other. There would be a lot of sound coming from the instruments, but it probably wouldn’t sound very good. What I want you to understand is that you have to create an internal symphony between the conscious mind and the subconscious mind – between your vision, goals, beliefs and your habits.
<>“I wanted to write a success story because shortly after attending the brilliant workshop in May of last year, I met a very special man who is everything that I had written about before, during and after the workshop. I don’t think that it’s just down to coincidence that my boyfriend and I met within two months of attending the workshop and have been happily together ever since. We’ll probably come along together to another workshop in 2013 and look forward to seeing you both then.”
<>Bring your awareness to what you would like to manifest or call into your life at this time. Visualize it in the most bright, colorful, exciting, and joy-filled way—as if it’s already happened—and notice how happy you are, see who else is present there with you, take in any important sounds, feel the positive emotions running through you, and steep yourself in gratitude for all the gifts this life has bestowed upon you.
<>No, not psychic 🙂 I think a lot of people can relate to this, so you are certainly not alone in that! I think that was a really great decision..focusing on ourselves, recharging and what have you is one of the most effective ways to let love in our lives from an attraction perspective. The better you feel about yourself and life overall, when you are ready to get back in the game, you’ll meet people for sure. Relinquishing that control is key..not always easy but it makes the process so much easier when we don’t try to micromanage the process of infinite creation with our puny little brains 🙂 Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts!
<>Hi Phill, your article is a great inspiration, I came across this Law of attraction for the first time early last month in Oprah Winfre’s website, though I believe in the law but sometimes discouraged , your article is a great booster to me, your explanations are more detailed and I will pick up from there with perseverance , any further help will be appreciated .
<>Thank so much chitownblu! You’re right that getting rid of resistance and attachment are key. Tapping works well for this. Also, remember to focus on what you want. You descussed that you’re aware your desire has not manifested. That’s living from a point of what is, not from what you want. You’re giving energy to creating more of what you don’t want by doing this. It could also be a factor in things not attracting your specific person as your vibration is closer to alignment with not being with him, than being with him.

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