<>Each "failed" relationship has given you clues about what you want in your ideal partner. The problem is, many women and men focus on the negative instead of the positive. For example, by saying that you don't want a man who "puts his work before the relationship," you are focusing on a man who puts work before love and that is the desire you are unconsciously sending out through your energy.
<>I’ve been studying LoA for a few years now and have read countless books on the matter. To me, Napoleon Hill’s book was by far the best because it wasn’t just full of platitudes, it actually gave me some actionable items and did tell me that a certain amount of work was involved. This was important to me because I have a core belief (right or wrong) that you can’t get something for nothing. With that said, even with all the research I have done, and the belief that LoA exists, I have yet to experience any positive outcomes from using any of the techniques. Doing yet more research, I have come to the conclusion that there are two things that I am doing wrong, or more concisely, unable to achieve. The first being that I can not seem to attach a feeling to a desire. Try as I may, there remains some disconnect somewhere. Second, I have a lot of negative self talk and some negative core beliefs (both of which I am working to change… more research). I believe that these two things sabotage any attempt by me to manifest things. As I am practicing LoA, the little voice in my head (my Ego) will tell me that I am being foolish, or that “this doesn’t work”, etc. I tell it to shut up but it never does and introduces doubt every time. This actually brings up a third problem. Unwavering faith. You mentioned faith to get you back on track. Where do you find this? How do you develop it? Do you have any suggestions on any of these issues? Any help is greatly appreciated. Thank you.
<>The analogy is simple: if you’re carrying a passenger in your car, there won’t be room for your Soulmate to sit in it!  So, if you’re still in love with this person, but you know that they are not your soul mate and/or there is no possibility of a true, loving, committed relationship with them, it’s time to let them go.   This does not mean you have to stop loving them. It simply means that you have to find a new space in your heart for them, a special chamber where you will put all the people whom you have loved in the past.
<>The vibrations of our real being are those that act in the law of attraction; rather than the vibrations of our thoughts and desires. The law of attraction is based on a universal field, a quantum field, in which the whole existence is connected in one, behind the time and space. At this most subtle level of existence, the basic level, we are all one being, we are not even connected, but we literally are one.
<>“He was an actor and I had his poster on my wall- and a huge thing for him- as a teenager. After using the Law of Attraction processes, specifically appreciating my relationships, I saw movement on my non-existent love life. Following a series of incredible synchronicities, before I knew it there ‘he’ was, across the table from me in one of those ‘name’ restaurants in London. It was like one of those fairy-tale movies. We ended up dating a few times and had a really good time together… Who would have thought my dream would come true all these years later?!”
<>Israel Regardie published books with the Law of Attraction theme as one of his prevailing Universal Laws. In, The Art of True Healing: A Treatise on the Mechanism of Prayer and the Operation of the Law of Attraction in Nature (1937), he taught a focused meditation technique to help the mind to learn to heal itself on a physical and spiritual level. Regardie claimed that the Law of Attraction was a valid method for attracting good physical health and for improvement in any aspect of one's life.[63]
<>Does this mindset of want and lacking sound familiar to you? If this is the case and you continually find yourself worrying about finances, bills, and debt then you need to address these beliefs or lessons that were embedded in your mind within childhood. Strong and negative emotions surrounding money can come to consume your mind. It can also affect how you choose to live. And this could result in nothing but further money worries and a constant wanting for more.
<>“Your CD has really helped me through the hard times – It’s great to have something there to listen to and get me back in the flow. One little example: Since I started doing my meditations every day I have noticed a huge change in my work situation. People around me seem to smile more…. and don’t know what it is but it’s enough to make me continue on. I, like a lot of people, was inspired by a comment in your group about writing ‘show me the Universe loves me’ on the Universe list… It’s amazing how that works! I also wrote ‘Help me feel more attractive’ on the list and someone even asked if I’d had a makeover!”
<>It is not uncommon for those who have been enlightened by the Law Of Attraction to have accumulated great sums of wealth unknowingly. This is because being ‘wealthy’ should not be something which is focused on cash alone. It is possible to achieve great ‘wealth’ in many areas of a person’s life. After all, money is simply pieces of paper. And all of the paper in the world is not going to guarantee a person life-long happiness.
<>Math says that 1 + 2 = 2. If you talk with one person who loves math and another who hates math, they’ll each have a different perception of math. One person believes math is intriguing and fun, while the other may have a belief that math is terribly frustrating. So, how you perceive and interpret your reality will also have an effect on what you are attracting in your life.
<>As I mentioned earlier, the process of spiritual growth and development is one of releasing and letting go of old ways of being and embracing the new aspects of ourselves that are wanting to emerge.  And welcoming your Soulmate into your life, as an expression of this growth, requires that you now begin by clearing the decks.  This means beginning to remove all of the obstacles that are stopping, hindering, delaying or even distracting you from having the relationship that you truly want to have.  How? By Healing your heart, De-Cluttering your Mind, Releasing the past and Making Room for Love.
<>trust m god has really been grateful to us by giving us u as our angel to come out of our problem…Elizabeth I m a relationship with a guy for past 4yrs I really love him but he doesn’t…..last yr he broke up with m as I was not in the position to take the breakup I did up many mistake I went down to his place ad created a mess in front of his parents then I started talking to his friend ad he came to know abt it….but after all this he is still talking to me he says he like my company but can’t give m commitment,he has also started ignoring m badly and I want his commitment I want him as my future husband but he is not seeing any kind of future with me I really love I want him back I want to be his miss perfect what should I do plss help m plss suggest something so that he give m commitment plss do reply
<>Others have questioned the references to modern scientific theory, and have maintained, for example, that the Law of Attraction misrepresents the electrical activity of brainwaves.[50] Victor Stenger and Leon Lederman are critical of attempts to use quantum mysticism to bridge any unexplained or seemingly implausible effects, believing these to be traits of modern pseudoscience.[51][8][9]
<>Therefore, we are not attracting anything by applying the law of attraction, we are simply eliminating obstacles to actualize what already exists at the finest level. Therefore, the right question is, not how to attract the right person, but how to remove the obstacles so our community could be achieved in the reality I live in; so it could transform from the finest level to the toughest reality.
<>“I began appreciating the best of my past relationships and also began doing the techniques I had learnt from you about attracting new love. Things shifted quickly: a new waiter had started at my favourite cafe and we were enjoying some great conversations – he was just my type, too. More than ever and all over the place, I began noticing more people who were my kind of partner – and they seemed to like me too. And on my way home one evening, as I was mid-affirmation and feeling very romantic I looked down and there were rose petals everywhere, all across the pavement I was walking on. I was outside the Royal Opera House and thought ‘wouldn’t it be nice to go there’. Soon after – and this is my reason for sending the success story – I met my ‘someone special’ at a friend’s birthday gathering and for our first date he bought me tickets to the Royal Opera House!”
<>Meditation, even on its most basic level, allows the mind to quiet which allows your natural frequency to rise as your mind is taken off of anything that may have been bothering you. Relaxation techniques used for meditation calm both your mind and your body, allowing you to feel more well-being, and when you’re set up for manifesting from a place of general pleasure and piece of mind, the results of that manifestation simply can’t turn bad.
<>“I began appreciating the best of my past relationships and also began doing the techniques I had learnt from you about attracting new love. Things shifted quickly: a new waiter had started at my favourite cafe and we were enjoying some great conversations – he was just my type, too. More than ever and all over the place, I began noticing more people who were my kind of partner – and they seemed to like me too. And on my way home one evening, as I was mid-affirmation and feeling very romantic I looked down and there were rose petals everywhere, all across the pavement I was walking on. I was outside the Royal Opera House and thought ‘wouldn’t it be nice to go there’. Soon after – and this is my reason for sending the success story – I met my ‘someone special’ at a friend’s birthday gathering and for our first date he bought me tickets to the Royal Opera House!”
<>I’ll bet a bunch of you reading this are arguing this point with me right now in that beautiful head of yours, but remember what I said earlier about us attracting based on what we feel and believe. So, if you really want to improve your financial situation as quickly and painlessly as possible, you need to start shifting your belief that money trouble is the worst thing that can happen to you, that some horrible fate will befall you if get behind on your payments.
<>“I heard about your coaching though a friend and signed on immediately, to help with my acting career initially. Although I had been a bit of a ‘self-help’ junkie and had given up on all that (I spent a huge amount of money on attending groups and reading books which were ‘all talk’ and got me nowhere), seeing the dramatic positive changes in my friend got my attention. She referred to you as her ‘secret weapon’ and suggested I signed on- so I did. After all, her life had changed in terms of getting a successful new relationship and career, amongst other things. I started the coaching and to cut a long story short- recently, two scripts were delivered to me which ‘ticked all the boxes’ on the type of roles I wanted. I auditioned and got the best part of the two.
<>It could also mean that a particular area of your life might need your attention, such as your career, finances, health, raising children, or that simply, your time is just not ripe for love yet. Whatever the timing might be, what I know for sure is that the time you invest in getting ready for your soulmate is an opportunity to continue to work on yourself, and remove all of the mental and emotional blocks that are keeping you from love. It is the perfect time to get to know yourself fully and deeply and get ready for love.
<>Math says that 1 + 2 = 2. If you talk with one person who loves math and another who hates math, they’ll each have a different perception of math. One person believes math is intriguing and fun, while the other may have a belief that math is terribly frustrating. So, how you perceive and interpret your reality will also have an effect on what you are attracting in your life.
<>             You will discover the tools to unlock the awesome powers of your subconscious mind. You can improve your relationships, your finances, your physical well-being. Once you learn how to use this unbelievably powerful force there is nothing you will not be able to accomplish. Join the race of successful people who have already unlocked the power of their subconscious minds.
<>Within days from now you can attract your true love…set up a business that will change the world…get a better job than what you ever imagined possible…start to reclaim your health…rediscover your confidence and connect with the bliss of your true purpose. I’ve seen it happen so many times to people I know and clients of mine. Accelerated learning is a choice that allows you to build all the beautiful, powerful beliefs which will get you there quickly.
<>I am writing this post in the apartment I manifested. I had the exact apartment in mind as some friends lived here a couple of years before, but at that time I didn’t have the salary to afford it. When I did, I starting thinking about the place again. The woman who lived here worked for me and was telling me she was thinking of moving, but perhaps not for a year or more. I started visualising that place being mine for after she left. Fortunately or unfortunately, depending on how you look at it, she suddenly left to go back to England, leaving me with a hole in my department but the flat that I wanted. Fortunately on both accounts I had a new department member within the week, plus the keys to the apartment, but cheaper than I had expected because the landlady said I didn’t need to pay for utilities as I was living alone! An intention I wrote about 6 months ago mentions a 2 bedroomed apartment by the sea, but with views of the mountains. My terrace is directly over the sea, I can see it from my bed, but from my front door I have clear view of the mountains.
<>Your book says that one must let the person they love miss them. In my case, things are fine between us and we are great friends. I have no reason to avoid him or not talk to him. Then what is it that I can do to make him miss me? Also, is it really important to maintain distance for LOA to work? Can I continue talking to him everyday like I always have and still manifest an ideal relationship with him?
<>“After a long time of avoiding dating because I was finding it more of an endurance test than anything fun – I have had a breakthrough thanks to your coaching. Firstly I am attracting my type physically – and also men who respect me. I am less needy and co-dependent. One of the keys is that I learned how to really respect and value myself – and put that into practice. This is a total new way of being for me – it’s certainly a bright new year for me already – and we’re only a few days in, so thank you!”
<>At 5pm, the doors opened. The crowd surged. As soon as we made it into the auditorium, we sprinted forward. Due to some confusion, we were able to sprint around a group of people. We headed straight for the front rail. We grabbed the last two spots available on that rail! When my hands wrapped around that cool railing, I smiled. It felt just like I’d imagined it would. And, what a sight it was --Seeing U2 from the very front row. It truly was an amazing experience, and a memory I’ll always cherish.
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<>I had a choice – to do the easy option, hide from my fear of the unknown and stay in the situation where I would be avoiding what I really wanted, or make a change and take a risk to achieve what I wanted! I sat down and mapped out exactly what I wanted. I looked at a map of the world and looked at where made my heart happy at the thought of living there. Turns out it was Australia! The other side of the world. The rest of my list included: close friends, a fabulous apartment in the city, a good job, money, excitement and adventure, city life, warmth, sunshine, travel and a wonderful boyfriend.
<>If you are really struggling with relationships, there is something happening deep inside that is creating the outcomes you keep experiencing. You are getting something you want, you are protecting yourself from something you fear. You have some sort of image of yourself that deems you unworthy of love. Again, this may not vibe with your conscious mind, that is in a constant state of wanting happiness and good things. You are not cursed. You are not some horrible person that only deserves douches. You have the power to change this, if you are willing to do the inner work and take responsibility. And by responsibility, I don’t mean blame. Two very different energies there. One empowers us, and the other keeps us feeling terrible.
<>I just order your book and looking forward to reattracting my ex and having him commit to me and us get married. I am feeling nervous and have tried everything else and I know what I am vibrating right now is the reason we aren’t together and he keeps getting with other people, so I am committing myself to learn this material and FINALLY working on myself so that I can reattract him and get the love and relationship that I have always wanted with him.
<>“It’s been a year since I met my soul mate- and it just gets better and better. It all began when I came along to the groups and managed to distract myself so much with the good in my life (through daily appreciation and meditation) that I literally bumped into him in the street. It seems the phrase ‘you find love when you are not looking for it’ may be true. Yes, I wanted to meet someone but it seems that when I dropped my obsession, I met him.”
<>I want to point out at this time that I’ve been very lucky along the way, and one of the greatest strokes of luck in my life was to have known at a young age (around 16 years old) what I wanted to do ‘when I grew up’. For some reason, I’ve been fixated on helping people to change. To transform. To live a better life. It truly is what I was born to do.
<>If you were to meet your soulmate today, and you chose to live together, would there be room in your life for them?  Okay, think you know what I’m getting at?  If you don’t start making actual time and space to be with your soulmate, you’re sending out a clear message to the Universe that you’re not ready to welcome him or her into your life. If what you truly want is to welcome your One into your life, and you are fully committed, then one of the best ways that you can accelerate this process is by consciously making room for them.
<>You stop all other thoughts. When you meditate and you give your attention to that singular thing you stop all other thoughts. In the simple, deliberate act of focusing on one sound, you give pause to all the other stuff in your head. (You may lose focus at times and begin to have thoughts about this and that, and that’s OK. When this happens just gently shift your attention back to the sound).
<>Think about the qualities you seek in the person you want to attract. These qualities are very personal and vary from individual to individual. Remember, there are no limits to what you can want.  Be specific about what is important to you; think about what you want in detail.  A great way to get some clarity is to make a list of the qualities you find attractive and the values that you admire in other people. Making a list or journaling our expectations is a powerful tool when applying the law of attraction to any facet of your life.
<>Think of it as a radio signal. As you scan through the radio, in-between stations fight for a signal. Most people are pretty familiar with this experience. The two stations compete and occasionally you’ll hear one song and then parts of a different song start to edge in. You’ll notice that neither station comes in perfectly crisp and clear. In the same manner, when you experience doubt or fear, those thoughts and feelings interrupt and compete with your desires.
<>That night, I laid on the cold hardwood floor in our living room, my hair matted to the side of my head with tears that had finally run dry from my own dehydration. The only thought that floated in my semi-conscious brain was, “How the hell can I do this?” I’d tried so hard to think of a plan, anything, but nothing came, except that question over and over again. It seemed completely impossible. Yet somehow in that moment survival mode also kicked in, and with it came even more questions. Of course we’d have to move right away, but where? I didn’t have family who could take us in. And we’d need to sell everything we owned, but how? And I’d need a job, but doing what? And how could I afford to work when daycare would take up most of my salary?
<>If you know yourself and are honest with yourself and appreciate yourself as much as you appreciate others and the universe you don’t need to be en guarde for ego violations all the time and point them out. :) People who DO have unhealthy ego problems wont hear you and those who have poor self esteem will put themselves down more. (wonder where they got that low self esteem to start….seems to be a lot of people around with it.)
<>There’s no doubt whatsoever, that when my daughter decides she’s going to be a princess, she doesn’t say she’s going to pretend to be a princess or to do princess things. She says, “I’m going to BE a princess,” and she does precisely that. She believes it with every fiber of her being. She’s a princess. You point to a chair or the table and say, “Is that a princess castle?” The answer is “Absolutely it’s a princess castle!”
<>“I found myself in London at a quarter to one and rather than go with the mind chatter of how tired I was, and how I shouldn’t have had to work until so late etc.- I just went with the experience. Rather than being intimidated or plain angry- I non-resisted. I leaned into it. And it was magical. I walked around and enjoyed the late night hustle and bustle of the city which I rarely saw, I found a great place to get food and met some great people. It was one of the best nights I’d had for weeks! The teaching for me on this night, I actually got from your group- to be ok with wherever I am and whatever’s going on; to assume that where I am is the perfect place for me to be and, as my experience showed, then the world transforms around you.”
<>There’s no doubt whatsoever, that when my daughter decides she’s going to be a princess, she doesn’t say she’s going to pretend to be a princess or to do princess things. She says, “I’m going to BE a princess,” and she does precisely that. She believes it with every fiber of her being. She’s a princess. You point to a chair or the table and say, “Is that a princess castle?” The answer is “Absolutely it’s a princess castle!”
<>In short, it can be said that love is an amazing feeling when two people mutually fall for each other. It is all about respecting and reciprocating each other’s feelings in an accepting manner. Having a clear state of mind about what kind of relationship you would like to establish with the other person, you can make the law of attraction and love work for you.
<>I do believe also that the pain has gone partly due to me selling my business which leads me on to the next key belief. I have wanted to sell that part of the business for years and really wanted rid of it. It was mundane, boring and I was sick of it. Last February after one month of advertising someone came along and we started negotiations. The business was officially sold to them last November. This makes me so happy I can’t explain to you how much!!
<>“I love your work at the Centre- it’s practical, it’s real and it feels so good to have found a loving community! Last year I was doing the Focusing Process about an ex-partner of mine, who I was out of communication with for months. The process really made me finally feel relaxed about it all. Just as I put the pen down, after finishing the last ‘box’, the phone rang- and it was her. We are now great friends and have both found wonderful new partners- all thanks to the Law of Attraction and your workshops (which we have both attended).”
<>Thank so much chitownblu! You’re right that getting rid of resistance and attachment are key. Tapping works well for this. Also, remember to focus on what you want. You descussed that you’re aware your desire has not manifested. That’s living from a point of what is, not from what you want. You’re giving energy to creating more of what you don’t want by doing this. It could also be a factor in things not attracting your specific person as your vibration is closer to alignment with not being with him, than being with him.

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