<>Shelly Bullard, MFT is a Marriage and Family Therapist, Love Coach and Spiritual Teacher. She's the author of the eBook: How to Become the Most Attractive Version of Yourself which she offers for FREE (click here to receive your free copy). She's also the instructor of the popular mbg courses: How To Become The Most Attractive Version of Yourself & How to Attract a Partner Who's Ready for Deep, Devoted Love. Shelly believes that when you access the experience of Love within yourself, your relationships become deeply fulfilling and you become the person you’re meant to be. She was named the “Love Guru” as one of the 100 Women to Watch in Wellness by mindbodygreen, and her deepest passion is living and practicing love and relationships as a spiritual path. To learn more about how she can help you create more love in your life, visit her at: shellybullard.com.
<>Each "failed" relationship has given you clues about what you want in your ideal partner. The problem is, many women and men focus on the negative instead of the positive. For example, by saying that you don't want a man who "puts his work before the relationship," you are focusing on a man who puts work before love and that is the desire you are unconsciously sending out through your energy.
<>“I was going to the gym for a year and not really seeing any results – until I attended your workshops. Since then, the combination of ‘mental’ and ‘physical’ has changed my body in a way that hardly seemed possible before. I am confident and optimistic – two qualities that no one would have said I was for most of my life… Another thing – whilst writing you this success story, my computer froze and I couldn’t get it to work. I restarted it but still the same- it kept crashing. Rather than panic – because I had the feeling it was ‘serious’ – I meditated and realised it was simply some reflection of a belief I had… maybe I was being stubborn which mirrored itself in the ‘stubborn’ computer. I ‘got’ what exactly it was (a relationship with a family member) and felt an ease as I listed the good things about them and our relationship… And then I suddenly got the idea to run a system check and the computer was fixed – and runs quicker than before. Although this doesn’t sound particularly amazing, I know that if I hadn’t relaxed I would have probably stressed myself out and ended up buying a new computer instead, missing the simple solution and ‘gift’ in this situation… Clear mindedness and peace of mind is one of the gifts The Law of Attraction Centre has given me – and I’m telling everyone I know about you!”
<>2) The Second List: Deal Breakers. It’s now time get clear about what I call the ‘Deal Breakers’.  These are the ‘red lights’ that you want to watch out for when you start meeting people.  This is a smaller list where you identify at least three qualities that if this person were to exhibit, you would not engage in a relationship with them. In other words, the deal would be off.
<>There is nothing, I feel, more significant than achieving such a positive delight as to be rewarded with the discovery of the possibility of Universal Enlightenment. The Subconscious mind yields great, and profound proof of a; infinitely higher Sum of what we perceive as reality. A living, breathing, fully connected, powerful conscience Organism we call Life.
<>one day Esther Hicks writes something about The LOA ..and Claims its the final way to put this law to WORK! but then sometime later she comes again with another IDEA!! to sell…”How to get in the Vortex! ( what the hell ! )and again and again…it never ends with these new age movement people! they always have a book to sell , a Vibrational calibrator sound track! and bla bla bla!
<>2) De-Cluttering your Mind. De-Cluttering your Mind means exactly that.  It means letting go or releasing any fears or beliefs you have about love that are keeping love away from you.  For example, many people believe they have some kind of fatal flaw or secret that may repulse others.  For women, it normally is something physical, and for men, it is normally something in their financial situation or career. These insecurities will lead you to have thoughts such as:
<>Things were certainly bleak, to put it mildly. It was terrifying, yet at the same time there was a new spark of hope deep inside me that wouldn’t go away. Now I was in control of my future, and that was a whole new way of thinking about what was possible for my life. I remembered an Oprah show I’d watched where she’d talked about changing your thoughts because they have the power to predict your future. I mentally traced my life back five, ten years, and realized that everything I worried about, feared and stressed about, had become my reality. That was a huge revelation for me. I saw it plain as day: I’d created all those “misfortunes.” I’d created that life. That was all the proof I needed of the tremendous power of my thoughts, even if it had only worked in a negative way up to that point. I knew I had nothing to lose, and the possibility of possibility brought hope in a way I’d never known before.
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<>In 2006, the concept of the Law of Attraction gained a lot of renewed exposure with the release of the film The Secret (2006) which was then developed into a book of the same title in 2007. The movie and book gained widespread media coverage.[1][21][22] Rhonda Byrne's book also has influenced the creation of an untitled fiction film based on The Secret, starring Katie Holmes.[23] This was followed by a sequel, The Power in 2010 that talks about the law of attraction being the law of love.[24]
<>I have a question?.. how easy is it to manifest something big! Like let’s say winning the lottery!? Im not taking about about a fair amount, im talking about a ridiculous amount 🙂 is it possible to write the amount in my box and just hope that I win? Should I be specific about the time too? I don’t think im too good at manifesting much I need help at believing that im getting it? It’s really all I ever wanted.
<>“I was in a cafe and there was this dull and depressing indie music interrupting my processes. Although I quite liked the melody, just as I was thinking I’d prefer some different music due to the ‘woe is me’ lyrics, the track was suddenly turned off and on came an upbeat dance track with the lyrics “Feels good… It feels so good” playing on repeat. The timing was uncanny! I later discovered it was a remix of Feels so Good by Jamiroquai, for anyone who’s interested.”
<>Another way that you can manifest money into your life by using the Law of Attraction is by actually envisioning it coming to pass. The deeper you’re able to envision it, the more likely you’ll be to see things through. Oftentimes, we can’t envision something incredible happening in our lives because we try not to set ourselves up for disappointment, thus we impose self-limitations that stifle us from achieving our dreams.
<>“I wanted a dog ever since I moved to London 14 years previous. It was a longing that almost caused an ache in me, I felt I couldn’t get a dog because of my long work hours and I never seemed to live anywhere that was suitable to house a canine. I mentioned this in my sessions with Tracy and we started doing focusing processes on just how good it felt to have a dog again rather than all the focus I was putting on ‘why I couldn’t have a dog’. In record time my landlord one day just changed his mind after 2 years of saying no I couldn’t have a dog. I nearly fell off my chair the night he told me that he just ‘changed his mind’.
<>9) Finally, learn to fall in love with yourself fully.  The more you learn to fully love and accept yourself, the more you’ll learn to recognize other peoples’ love, too. Begin by loving yourself and accepting yourself just the way you are, with all your quirks and idiosyncrasies (and we all have them).  Work on accepting your weaknesses, your strengths, your limitations, your guilt and insecurities as part of your make-up.
<>Imagine listening to an orchestra whose musical instruments aren’t in harmony with each other. There would be a lot of sound coming from the instruments, but it probably wouldn’t sound very good. What I want you to understand is that you have to create an internal symphony between the conscious mind and the subconscious mind – between your vision, goals, beliefs and your habits.
<>I totally agree to this because i could remember i used to see things as i have far thought about. I tought that this was nature gift but finally come to realise that it was the power of my mind this was far before i come across this on the net. No one told me about it. I am fully going to use this law to change my life. I belief in this because frim thought i see in dreams then frim dreams i encounter in the reality. love you all.
<>This to-the-point law of attraction e-book will help you apply the secrets of the law of attraction so that you will finally be able to feel that you can powerfully attract the right relationship for you. It will also help you to stop doing certain things that almost everyone does, which is why most people cannot get the law of attraction to work for them.
<>Some people begin to see things happen immediately, while others take a little more time. The key here is patience and persistence. As soon as doubt or fear start to creep back in, return to Step 2 and address it. If you have lost touch with your clear intention, revert to Step 1. If your belief in the Law of Attraction lags, go back to Step 3. If all else fails, repeat Step 4 every day until it becomes a reality!
<>“I am enjoying a wonderful relationship with a man who may quite possibly be ‘the one’ – and that’s after being single for 13 years. Certainly a big factor was due to regular use of your techniques and your romantic love workshop. I got myself into a position of not needing anyone yet at the same time anticipating the excitement of love – which I learnt was key – and this was accomplished through your teachings. I got on with my life and spent time on my interests and my career and with friends, whilst using your ideas to increase my expectation of love. Yes, there were some times of feeling lonely or doubtful, but I kept on going, supported by the success stories and others at your group, until I met him a through a ‘random’ invite and it’s been lovely ever since.”
<>The law of attraction has proven itself to me on many occasions. I really do believe, it is hard to say in words exactly as it’s more of a feeling. I will try to explain. I want something to happen, I put the desire out there then in my minds eye actually visualise it happening – totally. Even put images on a vision board, dream pictures in my mind and get excited knowing it’s coming and is on its way to me. This is when the magic happens. I get this urge for action, a complete gut feeling to do something and an inner drive over takes me. Then when I have completed the task in hand, only afterwards, have I realise the law of attraction delivers. I hope this makes sense, I have received things like getting the job I wanted in the past, building the house I used to draw out in my mind, starting a successful business, receiving unexpected money etc.
<>             You will discover the tools to unlock the awesome powers of your subconscious mind. You can improve your relationships, your finances, your physical well-being. Once you learn how to use this unbelievably powerful force there is nothing you will not be able to accomplish. Join the race of successful people who have already unlocked the power of their subconscious minds.
<>Completely out of nowhere I was inspired to look for my favourite breed of dog on a rescue website – it turns out that bull terriers have several rescue charities that deal with just that breed. I felt completely inspired so I filled out the application as soon as I found the website and just said ‘any dog in need would be ok for me’. I wrote on my universal lists everyday that the most ideal dog would come to me with ease and joy, so I really started to believe that this would be the case.
<>The law of attraction has worked for me really well in the love area. When I first layed eyes on the girl im with now I wished on a shooting star that we’d fall in love and be together forever. Cheesy, I know. I visulized at night before bed her and I together and happy. And it happened. We found each other at the perfect time. We were both attracting each other. Ive never had such a comfortable and loving relationship before. I intend on marrying her, and spending the rest of my life with her. I believe it will happen. I know it will.
<>I come up from my basement and see my tent on the landing on top of the stairs. “I should set you up in the backyard and camp out. Oh. I don’t even have a sleeping bag.” Two days later a women’s sleeping bag comes up in my Amazon Vine queue, and two days later I have a sleeping bag. (As a Vine reviewer. I receive free product in exchange for my review.)
<>“There was someone who I liked. Well, it was more than ‘liked’. When I finally got the courage to speak to her after several months and tell her my feelings, she was very direct with me- looking me straight in the eye and saying “It’s never going to happen. I only see you as a friend”. I was absolutely crushed and also shocked- my guidance was normally very precise. But I also knew how guided she was, too. Despite her certainty, I couldn’t get her off my mind and felt very down about it. It’s awful wanting something so much which you simultaneously think is ‘impossible’ to achieve. These thoughts of longing lasted many months until finally, when it all got too much, I decided to give the processes a go. I began doing the Universe List. I ‘gave up’ trying to impress her, trying to be ‘good enough’ and trying in general. I fully embraced the situation and decided to release the control (which wasn’t working anyway). I said to the Universe, “if I’m meant to be with her I will be and if I’m not- so be it”. And I meant it, this time. Within days, we met up, and suddenly she expressed how she didn’t know what was going on but she saw me in a different light. My friends say it was like the uplifting ‘twist’ at the end of one of those crowd-pleasing Hollywood movies- something that doesn’t happen in real life. But it was happening, to me! Now, a year later, we are blissfully happy. We are experiencing what I have read described in spiritual literature as a ‘twin flame’ relationship. The biggest gift this situation brought me, though, is that when you give it all up to the Universe- things beyond your wildest imaginings can happen. It taught me surrender- which has caused all aspects of my life to flourish like never before. I have to add that The Law of Attraction Centre’s groups, workshops and community have been instrumental in assisting me making my life work.”
<>But! Apart from being commercial stuff it’s underlying intention is to motivate people to do stuff. If you imagine real hard that you are getting a jet plane for your birthday, well it probably wont happen unless you are friends with Bill Gates. But if you really want to have 100 new RSS subscribers it’s not bad to really want it and to think about it because it will drive action. You might not be aware of it but action is what produced your results, thinking about them just pushed you to work harder.
<>We all long for that connection with someone else. It is natural to want it. It is okay to want it. The absence of it in our life creates a very strong emotional reaction. We notice the lack of a relationship constantly. There is a huge vibration of lack. What we are ‘vibrating’ now will determine what we attract into our experience now, so we need to clean things up here a bit.
<>Thank you for that piece of advice-should I remain in a constant state of “as if” with no attentiin on what is? Or should I focus in what I want, relax, and accept what is? Normally I focus in meditation on my intentions, relax, and allow my manifestations to occur—but, normally I am also not as Concerned about what I want to manifest. Should I be doing it differently?
<>Imagine for a moment that it’s a beautiful winter morning and there’s fresh, pristine snow on the ground.  You walk up to a hill with your sled, and slide down and take your first trip down to the bottom of the hill.  This first time, your course was pretty random, right?  Then, you walk back up to the top of the hill once more and you sled down again. Okay, the odds are that you’re going to hit at least some of the grooves you created the first time that you went down.
<>“I feel so much more relaxed since doing your workshop, and my sleep has improved (which was one of the main reasons I attended). Allowing everything to be as it is doesn’t seem that it’s going to do much- but that’s exactly how things changed for me. Your workshop gave me the confidence to believe in this approach to life- to truly surrender- and I gave it a go: I started meditating and doing your techniques… And my entire life experience has shifted. My relationship with my parents has totally turned around, I’m discovering new interests and I’ve lost weight. Best of all, I feel a lot more contented with my life- I love what you said about the woman in your workshop dwelling on all the wonderful things she already had in her life, and how that was enough to ‘open the door’ to everything she wanted. And then I met her at your group and it was amazing to manifest hearing her explain her story too! Now I can just relax- and it feels so good! Thank you for your insights and constant support.”
<>It’s important to understand that mindfulness isn’t about changing anything or trying to understand it. This is because the analytical and judgement aspects — our automatic reactions — are unhealthy and actually perpetuate the problem. It reinforces the connection in our brain between the action and the negative feeling. To release that connection, approach it without judgement. Let it be.
<>Firstly, find yourself a comfortable place where you won’t be disturbed. Start by closing your eyes and relaxing your body entirely. Breathe in and out very slowly, and make the breaths as deep as possible (on your belly). It is very likely that all kinds of thoughts will disturb you at this time, but you have to observe them and not let yourself to get emotionally involved with them.
<>Emotional Charge: Emotionalize that goal (why do you want it, how will it change your life, in what ways will it bring you happiness, etc.). The idea is to increase and amplify the desire for it from a place of the heart. This powerfully imprints the vibration of your goal into your subconscious mind as you take inspired action towards what you want to achieve.
<>You are greater than what is going on around you. Your relationship with yourself is your most important relationship. What’s happened happened. It’s in the past and you can’t change it. It sucks, but it’s happened. You can still change what happens in the future. Focus on getting to a place where you feel better. The happier and more joyful you feel, the more positive results you will see.
<>Gradually she got better at the game. We went out yesterday and played again. In an hour of walking around some hotels on the Vegas Strip, she found 46 cents: 1 quarter, 3 nickels, and 6 pennies. In that same time, I found only 6 cents. She won the game for the first time and was pretty excited about it. And of course I gave her lots of accolades for it, so as to encourage her to keep improving.
<>If you are really struggling with relationships, there is something happening deep inside that is creating the outcomes you keep experiencing. You are getting something you want, you are protecting yourself from something you fear. You have some sort of image of yourself that deems you unworthy of love. Again, this may not vibe with your conscious mind, that is in a constant state of wanting happiness and good things. You are not cursed. You are not some horrible person that only deserves douches. You have the power to change this, if you are willing to do the inner work and take responsibility. And by responsibility, I don’t mean blame. Two very different energies there. One empowers us, and the other keeps us feeling terrible.
<>Hi, I have been seeing a guy for 5 years. I am in love with him but we dont talk about feelings. He cheated on me a year 1 of our relationship for 6 months. He has his own place as I have kids from another relatioship. when i found out i was heart broken as I did not expect this but I took him back. I feel anxious when im not with him as I feel he is going to cheat . I am using loa to be positive and have gratitude with the good things we do. He does not want to commit as he is thinking babout his life and moving forward and im not part of his plans. I feel the fear and cant let go as when we r together its great, How else can i make this work

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