<>A wish box is an interesting approach. I had done something similar years ago. I created a box, colored it pink and then put in it all the words and a picture of a person I wanted to meet. I put the box away and didn’t think about it much. About six months or so later, I met a guy that looked so similar to the one I wanted to meet, it was scary! A bell definitely went off.
<>After this one, do a general visualization. See yourself already in possession of the things you want – the dream house and car you desire, your yacht or jet depending on your ambitions, think of your huge bank accounts and your safe in the bank, literally of anything that you can imagine. It’s crucial to feel as you already possess these things. Concentrate on the feeling!
<>“I heard about your centre at a performer’s workshop in New York- one of the participants had said how good your work is so I had to check it out when I moved back to London. My ‘art’ shows have increased in their popularity since I used your teachings; I’m just so much more relaxed as a performer and I’ve got some great press coverage, too. But best of all was probably the other week when I noticed a well-known actor in the audience- someone I had actually put down on my Universe List that I wanted to meet! My intellectual mind tends to want to make everything about Life so much more complex than it needs to be. I find that if things are getting complicated- I’m usually off in the wrong direction, so taking time to meditate or breathe deeply or do some physical exercise tends to get me ‘stepping back’ where I get a clearer vision of what’s going on and what to do. Life then becomes more straightforward and certainly a lot more fun. Thanks for teaching me this- and for all that you do.”
<>The process of attraction happens at the level of what we feel and believe, and when you don’t set standards and boundaries, this shows you don’t feel very good about yourself, and that you have a lot of crappy beliefs that essentially amount to not feeling good enough, and not being deserving of the best life has to offer. These types of beliefs can mess with various aspects of our life, but can be particularly problematic in the love department. And guess what types of people and situations we attract when we feel this way? Shitty, shitty, shitty ones.
<>But the one who really first articulated the Law as general principle was Prentice Mulford. Mulford, a pivotal figure in the development of New Thought thinking, discusses the Law of Attraction at length in, for example, his essay "The Law of Success",[15] published 1886-1887. In this, Mulford was followed by other New Thought authors, such as Henry Wood (starting with his God’s Image in Man,[16] 1892), and Ralph Waldo Trine (starting with his first book, What All the World's A-Seeking,[17] 1896). For these authors, the Law of Attraction is concerned not only about health but every aspect of life.[18][19]
<>2) The Second List: Deal Breakers. It’s now time get clear about what I call the ‘Deal Breakers’.  These are the ‘red lights’ that you want to watch out for when you start meeting people.  This is a smaller list where you identify at least three qualities that if this person were to exhibit, you would not engage in a relationship with them. In other words, the deal would be off.
<>“I found myself in London at a quarter to one and rather than go with the mind chatter of how tired I was, and how I shouldn’t have had to work until so late etc.- I just went with the experience. Rather than being intimidated or plain angry- I non-resisted. I leaned into it. And it was magical. I walked around and enjoyed the late night hustle and bustle of the city which I rarely saw, I found a great place to get food and met some great people. It was one of the best nights I’d had for weeks! The teaching for me on this night, I actually got from your group- to be ok with wherever I am and whatever’s going on; to assume that where I am is the perfect place for me to be and, as my experience showed, then the world transforms around you.”
<>“I want to thank you for your workshop- As my life has genuinely transformed. I had read many of the success stories which constantly provided hope- but I just wasn’t feeling any possibilities in my own life. As I learnt the techniques and was able to get some important questions answered- I was ready to put them into use. Firstly, I was shocked at how negative my inner talk was- this was a fantastic realisation and made me begin cleaning up many of my beliefs. I have realised what I was born to do and Life seems to be sending me all kinds of helpers and opportunities to make it happen for me… I look better (and years younger), I’ve lost weight without even trying. I am no longer invisible to men and there’s someone of interest to me romantically who recently came into my life. My mind is now open for good to come in on all levels and in all ways! I will continue to come along to the groups and workshops to keep up with my practice- plus they’re so much fun Thank you.”
<>“For his birthday my husband wanted to see a wild tiger in the Indian jungle. I had always known that these magnificent animals were elusive in nature, but once we saw the sullen faces of those returning to camp and we heard the stories from a family who had been to this area for their seventh time without a sighting and the couple whose family had not seen a wild tiger for three generations, my heart sank. It was halfway through our fourth day of a five day safari and I thought it was time to turn to the universe for a little help: “Wouldn’t it be nice to have a great sighting of this magnificent creature in the wild jungle of India?” I felt at that point that it was completely out of my control and so I let go and just appreciated my surroundings. As we were sitting in the jeep surrounded by tall grass I turned to my husband and carelessly said “this would be a perfect place for a tiger to come walking out of the grass”. Five minutes later we heard the alarm call of a spotted deer followed by the growl of a tiger which reverberated throughout our bodies. Our guide shot out of his seat with utter excitement and we held our breath. At the exact spot I had uttered those words a tiger came prowling through the tall grass without a care in the world. I turned to my husband and said “happy birthday darling”. I love having universal forces on my side!”
<>Hi JG – I’m glad you’re enjoying my book on attracting a specific person! Detachment will come with time. Don’t worry so much about whether you’re doing things right. The Law of Attraction isn’t about perfection. Also, as I discuss in the book, focus on doing things that make you happy. It’ll be far more effective than trying to cover the doubts up with affirmations.
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<>But the one who really first articulated the Law as general principle was Prentice Mulford. Mulford, a pivotal figure in the development of New Thought thinking, discusses the Law of Attraction at length in, for example, his essay "The Law of Success",[15] published 1886-1887. In this, Mulford was followed by other New Thought authors, such as Henry Wood (starting with his God’s Image in Man,[16] 1892), and Ralph Waldo Trine (starting with his first book, What All the World's A-Seeking,[17] 1896). For these authors, the Law of Attraction is concerned not only about health but every aspect of life.[18][19]
<>Hey Phil, my friend Claire sent this over after seeing me last night for the first time in months. I have been obsessively working on a project / startup to use rock climbing and adventure to help at-risk kids in the slums of Brazil. Check out our video if you are interested (www.indiegogo.com/adventureforgood) but that project is really not the focus. What I found is that although I love what I am doing and believe in it completely, I have been stressed out of my mind and without realizing it, I have been manifesting this stress into all aspects of my life and sometimes into the energy of my campaign. Reading your blog I was reminded of how important it is to manifest not only what you want but also how you want to feel. That energy is so important and certainly dictates how people feel around you. I have been bringing my computer to bed and stressing out over emails until I fall asleep… NOT healthy. This post really helped me reflect on practicing not only the law of attraction but the law of ‘feeling good’. Hope to bump into you around Boulder Phil.
<>Firstly, find yourself a comfortable place where you won’t be disturbed. Start by closing your eyes and relaxing your body entirely. Breathe in and out very slowly, and make the breaths as deep as possible (on your belly). It is very likely that all kinds of thoughts will disturb you at this time, but you have to observe them and not let yourself to get emotionally involved with them.
<>Gladly. For instance, I wanted to bring in women for casual relationships only. (Hook ups), at the time I had been with only a few women and was not really getting anywhere. So then I came upon other versions of “the secret”. So at this point. I started to do affirmations, such as I am a sexy mofo, etc and I won't get into the other details, but I ised to say these into the mirror and visualizing this stuff happening. (Me meeting women and us getting together, kissing etc.)
<>I was led back to ‘The Secret’ from an interview I read. Having read it before it made more sense this time about how to really believe and be grateful. I received a surprise check the following day which helped me to begin a project and have seen another financial boost since. The law of attraction and the positive feelings you convey ‘attract’ opportunities and help make smarter decisions. I finally believe and am making it a habit. I have always been ambitious so I excited at what I may manifest.
<>And this shows you are on the right path, but all too often we twist it. We lament those people that share the same interests as us, or with whom we had those great conversations, didn’t ask for our number. We feel bummed when that date we thought would be so great, turned out to be not the best match. We think we are still not getting what we want, or there is still something ‘wrong’ with us.
<>You don’t have to go out on dates with people you’re not interested in, nor try to do something that goes against your own values. Notice what things or people you are consciously or unconsciously drawn to.  You might be lead into amazing, rewarding, or at the very least a growing experience! Be willing to trust that inner voice and be open to the mystery that comes from there.
<>The process of attraction happens at the level of what we feel and believe, and when you don’t set standards and boundaries, this shows you don’t feel very good about yourself, and that you have a lot of crappy beliefs that essentially amount to not feeling good enough, and not being deserving of the best life has to offer. These types of beliefs can mess with various aspects of our life, but can be particularly problematic in the love department. And guess what types of people and situations we attract when we feel this way? Shitty, shitty, shitty ones.
<>Initially this surprised her. She could dismiss it as luck… or as some kind of trick… or as a momentary lapse of her part. Then when it kept happening, it began to frustrate her. I helped her shift that frustration to amusement by pointing out that she was really good at finding bottle caps and smudges, and we had some laughs about that. She just needed to adjust her mind a little bit more to notice the coins.
<>Another thing about feelings—get yourself out of situations that don’t feel like what you want. You don’t have to compromise or settle. You don’t have to experience a bunch of stuff that feels badly to also experience that which feels good. As you shore up your good energy, and stick to your standards and boundaries, these types of situations will naturally decrease, and at some point, move out of your experience completely.
<>“I was struggling in my mind about something as I was on my way to a meeting when I saw someone struggling to walk along the road because her shoe was broken and walking past her, I realised I had some tape on me. My inner voice whispered ‘go help her’ and despite an immediate argument from my ‘lower level mind’ about how I could look weird or how I didn’t have enough time to go back, I returned and handed some tape to her so she could strap her shoe up. She was amazed and appreciative and in turn, I felt so good. I also realised that this had shifted me out of my own problems in a way that other practices hadn’t. This experience also gave me the determination to fully follow my inner guidance from now on- despite any opposition from my mind- as it was another piece of evidence of how this works.
<>I have bought Your books and been an avid fan of your blog! I have always had great success manifesting my desires until recently. My relationship of 4 years has ended- on his part– I have followed Your steps, used EFT, meditation, visualization, and have been working on my vibration. However, the Communication on his end has become increasingly negative (whereas he was not so together) and I am Aware of the desire- the RELATIONsHIP with him- has not manifested. I have been working on releasing resistance & detachment. Any tips or suggestions? Guidance would be appreciated.
<>Don't wait for the relationship to manifest; you must first become the person who already has these qualities. This includes preparing your space for the partner of your dreams: Clean out your closet, empty a draw or replace that worn-out wallpaper. Think of all the ways in which you can prepare yourself and your life to be in perfect alignment with your perfect mate.
<>The Law of Attraction doesn’t work by just sitting there and wishing for these things to come to you. So I want you to just start by creating a detailed list of every step you’ll need to take to achieve your goals. I guarantee this will make it easier to move into action. To hold you more accountable, feel free to share your action plan with me in the comments and I’ll be sure to follow up with you.
<>Your thoughts have the power to create, so it is possible that you created this situation, but you can also turn it around. Let go of any worries or fears you have in regards to his ex. Be open to being in a relationship with him again and having him there 100%. Focus on being at one with being the relationship. Keep your vibration high by doing things you enjoy. The higher you can keep your vibration, the faster you should see results using the Law of Attraction for love to attract your specific person.
<>Things were certainly bleak, to put it mildly. It was terrifying, yet at the same time there was a new spark of hope deep inside me that wouldn’t go away. Now I was in control of my future, and that was a whole new way of thinking about what was possible for my life. I remembered an Oprah show I’d watched where she’d talked about changing your thoughts because they have the power to predict your future. I mentally traced my life back five, ten years, and realized that everything I worried about, feared and stressed about, had become my reality. That was a huge revelation for me. I saw it plain as day: I’d created all those “misfortunes.” I’d created that life. That was all the proof I needed of the tremendous power of my thoughts, even if it had only worked in a negative way up to that point. I knew I had nothing to lose, and the possibility of possibility brought hope in a way I’d never known before.
<>That was March 2006. It was the first time I had shared my vision with anyone. The words, and this dream, were now out there in the universe. Were they out attracting things for me? I don’t know. But I believe it was a watershed moment. Still, there was a long road – requiring plenty of action – to travel before it would all come together five years, three months, and seventeen days later.
<>Hi. I was in a relationship with a guy for awhile but we split in 2008. Since then he has had a girlfriend and I think they still live together. I have dated since then but have been unsuccessful in finding that combustible chemistry that I had with him, with someone else. We would always reconnect on and off throughout the entire time we were broken up until last year. We both sort of faded and haven’t been in touch for about a year and 6 months now. We may not be meant to be together but I miss the initial friendship we had prior to us being in a relationship; we were so close and complimented each other well. I have let go, forgiven and accepted what was and what is but recently felt intense energy wanting him back in my life and it’s never been this intense since the first couple of months following the breakup. I have been single ever since, but have gone on plenty dates as I am never lacking suitors. I am no longer in love with him but I do still love him and miss his presence, chemistry, companionship and energy. I have accomplished many goals that I’ve set but there’s this void that has yet to be satisfied, which I’m afraid can only be fulfilled by him or someone/something similar. I’ve read that letting go will attract, which I have done but he hasn’t completely come back. I never pressure, I play it cool and may even come off passive. When we reconnect, I hide my hurt and heart and don’t mention getting back together because I feel we’re not at the point yet. I was his first girlfriend and he was my first boyfriend as well. I’ve given it space, time and room to breath as I trust in divine intervention as well as universal laws. I’ve thought happy and positive thoughts, I’ve even tried to create visuals in my mind but nada. What could be going on? I miss him a lot.
<>The book presents familiar material about the Law of Attraction but adds further clarity. Moreover, there is a section about speeding up the manifestation process with heart energy which was new to me and that was refreshing. The author offers helpful meditations and exercises, some of which are also new for me. I enjoyed this book and found it to be very helpful.
<>You are not pre-destined to a life of hardship and struggle; you alone are responsible for how much income you welcome into your life. Feel excited about the money. Feel thankful for what money you already have. Rejoice in the knowledge that the bank of the Universe has unlimited wealth to offer you. Let your entire mind become consumed with thoughts of abundance.
<>You’ve got to put a roadblock on the sled path. Stop telling the OLD story and start telling the NEW story! The NEW story of how you want it to be. The story of what it’s like to be in the most magical, loving relationship with your Soulmate. Starting now. You’re going to start catching yourself when you’re chatting with friends and the OLD story starts to creep out.  Notice it. Then shift to the NEW story.
<>The real estate market seemed to turn worse every month. Half or more of the homes on the market were termed distressed properties - either foreclosures or short sales - where we tried to persuade the bank to take less than what’s owed on it, as a means of preventing them having to foreclose. An extremely difficult and laborious process, with very little cooperation on the part of the banks. Furthermore, the banks were cracking down on mortgage lending - meaning fewer people were able to qualify for mortgages.
<>I’ve noticed that as I’ve shifted my vibe to manifest larger sums of money and to manifest new experiences in other parts of my life, I seem to fall out of resonance with manifesting smaller sums. I’m not as good at manifesting coins as I was in 2006. That’s because my vibe isn’t tuned in to the coin manifesting frequency as much. These days I’m spending more time using the LoA to manifest cool social connections and travel experiences. I’ve tuned my vibe to focus on that part of the perceptual frequency. I also feel more excited and playful about manifesting in these other areas as opposed to adding to my financial score.
<>“Continuing my journey to my soul mate, I have seen loving couples (including couples kissing passionately like teenagers in business and shopping centre). Whereas I would have previously felt more lonely seeing this- I thought ‘good for them’ and appreciated them. I learnt at one of your workshops that appreciation means increase- and a benefit of blessing meant that more love has been coming my way. A friend asked if I would like to be set up on a date with ‘someone who was just perfect for me’. This hasn’t happened for four years!!”
<>We can easily manifest money into our lives, or anything else for that matter, by expecting it to come to pass. Wishing and hoping doesn’t work. The Law of Attraction is founded on an expectation of a specific outcome. It revolves around the potential positive or negative energy that a given thought takes in your mind. When you expect the worst to happen, it often happens. When you expect the opposite, that often occurs as well.
<>I’ve been studying LoA for a few years now and have read countless books on the matter. To me, Napoleon Hill’s book was by far the best because it wasn’t just full of platitudes, it actually gave me some actionable items and did tell me that a certain amount of work was involved. This was important to me because I have a core belief (right or wrong) that you can’t get something for nothing. With that said, even with all the research I have done, and the belief that LoA exists, I have yet to experience any positive outcomes from using any of the techniques. Doing yet more research, I have come to the conclusion that there are two things that I am doing wrong, or more concisely, unable to achieve. The first being that I can not seem to attach a feeling to a desire. Try as I may, there remains some disconnect somewhere. Second, I have a lot of negative self talk and some negative core beliefs (both of which I am working to change… more research). I believe that these two things sabotage any attempt by me to manifest things. As I am practicing LoA, the little voice in my head (my Ego) will tell me that I am being foolish, or that “this doesn’t work”, etc. I tell it to shut up but it never does and introduces doubt every time. This actually brings up a third problem. Unwavering faith. You mentioned faith to get you back on track. Where do you find this? How do you develop it? Do you have any suggestions on any of these issues? Any help is greatly appreciated. Thank you.
<>You should remain in a state of “as if” when using the Law of Attraction for a specific person. When you give attention to what is, you give it power to create more of what is. You should relax and allow your manifestation to occur, as you have always done. It’s a great way to create what you want and, as you release resistance and become more detached, you’ll be able to reach that state more easily.
<>Great book. The techniques are very helpful. Like a lot of LOA books there's a lot of material. I've personally seen my finances grow after reading this book and I currently have much more in the bank than I had before I started the techniques. I honestly haven't done all the techniques like I want to and my finances have still grown. I'm looking forward to incorporating more techniques in my life and seeing my finances grow further.
<>Nice to see you around here again! Thanks so much for your comment and so glad you liked the post. You make an excellent point about how we can sometimes make ‘money’ the how as there are lots of ways we can experience the things we think can only come through money. That is great you have a routine that makes you feel good…that repetition is often a key to really reconditioning our minds. That makes perfect sense and is exactly what we want to accomplish…feeling the feelings now as if what we want is already here.
<>As great as this was, my real triumph was this: My severe body image problems (which was borderline dysmorphia) have also been fully resolved- which means I no longer have the overwhelming feelings of self-criticism- and actually feel happy with the way I look- a first for my whole adult life to date. What you have given me on this subject alone- not even mentioning the acting- is priceless and something other therapists couldn’t do anything with. You guys are amazing.”
<>Instead, Louise says you can transform your life by staying positive. "You have to start saying things that you feel really good about yourself. 'I love who I am. I love life. Life loves me. It's going to be smooth and easy. Life works for me.' And you just start doing that—it's planting seeds. You're not going to get it the first day, but you plant a seed and you water it and you continue the affirmations, and things start to shift and change in your life."
<>Learning how to connect with yourself has a lot to do with tuning into your own need. Consequently, then meeting those needs. When you make a habit of this, you’re much more able to attract love with someone who will nurture you. One way to ensure you take better care of yourself while you’re looking for love is to set aside an hour a day where you commit to pursuing a hobby you love! This should be no matter what other, more “productive” things you could be doing.

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