When it comes to what draws people to give this whole law of attraction thing a whirl, I would have to say finding a relationship is right up there near the top, along with getting more of that sweet, sweet cash. And people seem to really struggle in the love department. But manifesting a relationship is not any different than manifesting anything else, in theory.
Again, we can only attract that to which we are currently a match, so this means we can’t wait to feel better about our lives until what we want comes. You have to make peace with your single status. You have to start finding ways to feel happy about your life now as it is. This doesn’t mean pretending to like things you don’t, but diligently working on adopting a perspective that actually makes you feel better. It is about focusing on the things in your life that are good, and building on that energy. It is about making time to do things that make you feel good, that help produce the feelings you think you would get from being in a relationship.
Then in October of 2010 Matt and I joined Yanik – and special guest, Tim Ferriss – on one of Yanik’s crazy Maverick Business Adventure trips. It was a testosterone-laden weekend of driving and shooting in the Arizona desert with members of a real-life A-Team. On Monday morning, as we sat in the Tucson airport on our journey back to reality, Matt asked me a similar question to the one that Tom, my business coach, had asked back in 2006.
“I was struggling in my mind about something as I was on my way to a meeting when I saw someone struggling to walk along the road because her shoe was broken and walking past her, I realised I had some tape on me. My inner voice whispered ‘go help her’ and despite an immediate argument from my ‘lower level mind’ about how I could look weird or how I didn’t have enough time to go back, I returned and handed some tape to her so she could strap her shoe up. She was amazed and appreciative and in turn, I felt so good. I also realised that this had shifted me out of my own problems in a way that other practices hadn’t. This experience also gave me the determination to fully follow my inner guidance from now on- despite any opposition from my mind- as it was another piece of evidence of how this works.
Now, because we attract based on feeling, and not action, you wouldn’t actually have to do any of these things to start attracting more money, but most of us aren’t able to make such a giant leap in the face of financial issues. The limiting beliefs around money are just too strong, and will need to be worked on; you won’t be able to shift perspective immediately. Don’t worry, by making budgets and what have you, you are not sending a message to the good old universe that you don’t think you can get more money—these things will make you feel better, and the better you feel, the more easily money can come to you.
Thank you so much for taking the time to comment and share your experience with me. You are certainly on the right track with what you are doing, and you are certainly lining yourself up for an amazing relationship. That is where a lot of people struggle with LOA in general, and relationships in particular–it can be really hard to feel okay with how things are now when we want them to be different. Feeling okay with being single and feeling that fulfillment with life in the absence of that other person can be a challenge, but it is necessary to let in a GOOD relationship.
We focus on illnesses, low-paying jobs, and less than fulfilling relationships out of habit. Breaking the routine, just like any other bad habit, will take some effort, especially if it is natural to dwell on the negatives for years. Parents often teach this type of behavior by being the role model of criticism or negative language. When this is so, they are likely mirroring behavior they learned from their parents, and so on, back through the generations.
“Having the groups to drop into is the perfect refuel and reminder of the good in life. I recently secured a deal on a house that is worth three times what my current house is worth- yet I’m paying the same price in rent! Little miracles like this happen quite often in my life now; I’ve moved from being down-on-my-luck to very fortunate indeed. My mind is calmer and I am more confident; and like so many of the people who share their experience with The Law of Attraction Centre- I physically look better than before and also more youthful (and get a lot more compliments because of it). Thank you for contributing to my peace of mind and happiness.”
“I love writing ‘Bring me more faith and belief’ on the Universe List. At first, when I heard about this, I thought ‘what’s the point?’ (I suppose this is why I needed more faith!). But then things started to gradually shift. So many synchronicities and signs that yes, life could be on my side. It didn’t happen immediately- it took a few weeks of meditation and appreciation. Sometimes I feel life can get better and better but because you are not appreciating- you don’t see it. But when you look back and start appreciating you realise all the incredible changes that have already happened in your life.”
“I was going out to a friend’s house on a night where I thought it would rain- so I took my umbrella with me. When I left her house after dinner, after a few minutes of walking I realised I had left my umbrella next to the chair I was sitting on in her dining room. It was late- and I felt going back would disturb her, so I continued, realising that I could borrow a colleague’s. When I walked toward my front door, I felt a strange relaxed knowing that my umbrella would be returned to me by the angels. I looked outside the front door and an umbrella was there and I thought ‘It can’t be…’. I looked- but it was my housemate’s umbrella. When I woke up the next morning, at the foot of my bed was the distinctive umbrella that I had ‘left’ at my friend’s house. As I was retelling this story to a friend, a woman at the next table in the restaurant generously asked us if we would like her tray of ‘high tea’ cakes. We thanked her and she smiled and left. A few moments later she returned… She had left her umbrella next to her chair! I love both the power of the Universe and also it’s sense of humour.”
If you’re practicing the technique on something bigger, this exercise may be tricky, but use your imagination. If you’re trying to lose weight, go out and buy an outfit that fits the size you’re aiming for. If you want a new car, go to a dealership and shop around. If you’re aiming for something as big as complete financial freedom, start planning what you’re going to do with all that free time and money.
As with all Law of Attraction work, trying to manifest love requires you look at the underlying assumption that holds you back. In this case, limiting beliefs that might block you from finding love. Try to write them down first. Then identify where they came from. Most importantly, write down a contradictory belief that you can then turn into a daily affirmation. Here is an article to get you started with three tips for creating powerful affirmations.
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