“My daughter had been on my mind for the previous years- stresses with exams, problems with boyfriends- I was going out of my mind. Then a friend brought me along to the Monday evenings. I learnt to hand it all over to the Universe- and get on with my life. At first I discovered that I didn’t have much of a life of my own- but the Universe soon sorted that one out- with a new relationship and new hobbies! Now all this took nearly year- and it wasn’t always easy, but it is working for me. Another thing that happened: At a gym I started going to (another inspiration from the Universe) – I got speaking to someone and somehow the subject of Law of Attraction came up- and he mentioned your group! We both talked about how much it had been a turning point for us and shared our stories. This is what made me write to you, to thank you for all that you are doing.”
Hi Elizabeth~ I have read your book a few times and have one thing that I am confused by. I was in a relationship with someone a few months back, but life circumstances got in the way a bit. These life circumstances have changed now and I would like him back in my life. I think that there is much potential here, but do not feel that I know him well enough to know that he is “the one”. Should I focus my energy on manifesting him specifically? Or should I not focus on manifesting him since I am not 100% sure he is the right guy and just focus on manifesting a life partner? And we have not talked in a while, so I assume I should NOT contact him and just focus on myself and on the manifestation? Please advise. Thanks!!!
If you’re problem is habit you might want to check out Charles Duhigg’s latest book called The Power of Habit. In it he describes how we can hack into our habit forming system. It’s called the Habit Loop. I’m reading it now and I’m totally hooked. I have successfully implemented many habits and so far still sticking to them! Give it a go, I’m sure it can help with your writing.
The degree of your self-acceptance will dictate the quality of your relationship. If you try to manifest a relationship when you're full of desperation and you have low self-esteem, you may indeed succeed, but the relationship will almost certainly be sub-par. You might drive your partner away, unconsciously cause drama in your relationship, or--more likely--attract a partner who is not good for you.
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I’ve read your book and followedour blog religiously-thank you so much for sharing your knowledge! I have been intending to manifest a specifuc relationship with my ex. I was even inspired to randomly buy him a plane ticket to see me-however on the am of his flight he contacted me and said he didn’t feel comfortable coming—I was so positive and sure to that he would come. I visulized him coming and our relationship reignitung—–what happened? What did I do wrong?
I find it very interesting it gives me something to motivate myself because I never heard of the laws of attraction this is the first time I’m hearing about it it has me very intrigued and I’m going to do this and whatever has to Universal on the stick to it I’m going to meditate in the morning and I meditate at night before I go to bed and I’m a focus on exactly that thank you so much I really appreciate it even if I have to come back to this website over and over again to get a better understanding I will do that thank you very much again I really appreciate it yours truly James B Banks
This was the most powerful and loving piece of advice that my mother gave me when I was on the brink of going bankrupt in 2009. She told me to just be gentle on myself and take one day at a time. This helped tremendously to keep me focussed on my power in the present moment and not sabotage my vibration with overwhelm by thinking about the uncertainty of my financial future. This is an imperative factor to energy management throughout the manifesting process.
We got to the concert five hours before the doors opened. We found ourselves with thousands of people in front of us. I wanted to be on the front rail. (Front rail is the same as front row seats.) I began visualizing being on the front rail. Then, a great idea hit me. I began to feel the feeling of wrapping my hands around the front row railing. I felt the cool railing in my hands over and over again. As the day progressed, I noticed something: We were actually moving backwards. Things were getting even worse. It didn’t make any sense. How could we be going further back?
When you sleep at night, you go into the dream state. At this time, your subconscious mind is more active. But the last thoughts you had will permeate into your subconscious mind for up to 4 hours. So what you allow to dominate your mind in the last few minutes before you sleep will program your subconscious mind and create the vibrations that will determine your future.
Thank you so much for such long reply! The more I’m working on myself with LOA, somehow the more my feelings are changing. Deep down, I know there will be more chances for me out there and therefore, I will meet the love of my life but my brain tells me that I shouldn’t have done that. Feels like my heart and my brain are in different places. Sometimes it’s quite the challenge. But I learned that I need to care for myself first and foremost!
The analogy is simple: if you’re carrying a passenger in your car, there won’t be room for your Soulmate to sit in it! So, if you’re still in love with this person, but you know that they are not your soul mate and/or there is no possibility of a true, loving, committed relationship with them, it’s time to let them go. This does not mean you have to stop loving them. It simply means that you have to find a new space in your heart for them, a special chamber where you will put all the people whom you have loved in the past.
My book Hustle Believe Receive is how I went from a newly single mom with nothing, relying on state aid to survive, to an executive of a software company in just eighteen months. It’s the story of how I manifested four vision boards in six years, and completely changed not only my life but my children’s. It’s how I went from living in a “poor me” world, to being a take-charge-of-my-future badass. It’s the tale of how I learned to dream HUGE and what it felt like to live out those dreams quicker, and bigger than I’d ever imagined, often without spending a dime of my own money! It’s how I learned to work smarter and not harder. It’s how I Changed my Crew. And it’s the story of how, for the first time in my life I learned to truly be grateful, live a “pinch-me moment” kinda life, and how I found my joy.
The great thing about being after a feeling is we can conjure it up anytime we want, regardless of what is happening now. What feelings are you seeking? How can you feel that way now? What can you focus on in your present reality that makes you feel abundant? Even though I wasn’t thrilled I was literally living off credit cards, I shifted perspective, and developed a sense of appreciation for having them as an option. I focused on the sense of security I felt from having my rent paid for the month, and knowing I could buy food and was not going to starve.
“The more I practice your teachings, the more simple my thinking (and my life) seems to get. Thank you for being ‘there’. Journeying with The Law of Attraction Centre over the past few years has not only being fun along the way – but it’s got me results: I’m in a good relationship, I’m working in a job I enjoy, I feel relaxed a fair deal of the time and I’m starting to like myself a lot more. Practicing your techniques with other people at the groups and on my own has been the secret… I was going to tell a friend about your workshop and she was at the very same one I went to –even though I hadn’t mentioned it- this kind of ‘coincidence’ happens all the time.”
There are also numerous references in the law of attraction community to the fact that the bigger you think, the more likely you are to attract it. Therefore, do not sell yourself short, and dream audacious dreams - as these are the only goals that will provide you with the strength of desire necessary to keep focussed when conflicting thoughts begin to emerge.
“I am writing this from Mexico, my hometown. I used to visit your group back in 2010, every week. I probably was only not there for two weeks out of the whole year, I was that much of a regular. Well, thanks to your teachings, my business expanded so much I couldn’t come along anymore- nothing else would have stopped me… And I ended up moving back home to personally oversee this expansion. You remarked to me about my weight loss and how much younger I looked and others in the group did too- and so did my friends and family. Remember when you used to talk about going to the gym? Well I started going and I also took this kind of discipline into my practices- and what a difference! I ended up with more confidence. And I ended up marrying that ‘special woman’ I told you about meeting and we now have two children. I remember saying in the group that one day my story would be one of your ‘success stories’ – and here it is. I will always be grateful to your no-nonsense, transformational approach and how it changed my life. Happy New Year to you and everyone at the group.”
Hey Phil, my friend Claire sent this over after seeing me last night for the first time in months. I have been obsessively working on a project / startup to use rock climbing and adventure to help at-risk kids in the slums of Brazil. Check out our video if you are interested (www.indiegogo.com/adventureforgood) but that project is really not the focus. What I found is that although I love what I am doing and believe in it completely, I have been stressed out of my mind and without realizing it, I have been manifesting this stress into all aspects of my life and sometimes into the energy of my campaign. Reading your blog I was reminded of how important it is to manifest not only what you want but also how you want to feel. That energy is so important and certainly dictates how people feel around you. I have been bringing my computer to bed and stressing out over emails until I fall asleep… NOT healthy. This post really helped me reflect on practicing not only the law of attraction but the law of ‘feeling good’. Hope to bump into you around Boulder Phil.
The point is, you can go through any personal development program in history. Any of the great books “The Secret” and “Think and Grow Rich”. An Anthony Robbins program. The real masters all understand the same secret. It’s not just the tools and techniques that make a difference. It’s showing people how to open a channel to abundance that really counts.
So what does that tell you? Well, when I asked myself the same question years ago before I started doing this work, what I realized was that in order for me to attract and manifest my Soulmate, I must somehow develop and grow myself into the kind of person that I myself want to be with. In other words, if you haven’t found the right person it’s probably because you are not being the right person! As Marianne Williamson says, “We must become the person we want to attract.”
Fill your mind with thoughts of already having the money you need in your wallet or bank account. Imagine driving your new car, or living in your new home, or taking your dream vacation. About ten years ago I had the urge to travel to India. I began burning Indian incense, listening to Indian music, eating Indian food. I employed the power of the Law of Attraction. Within two months I was provided an entire trip to India, with a 5-star hotel, tours, everything I had imagined and even more. I met and studied with deeply spiritual people. It was a fantastic journey and a life changing experience. The entire trip was attracted through my ability to feel the money. In this case, I experienced the trip in my mind, and the money was provided to take the journey.
When you understand the answers to these types of questions about manifesting your soulmate, your mind and heart begin to focus on trying to find love that is based on true mutual understanding and excitement. You can do all kinds of creative techniques to bolster the designing of your life partner. For example, Law of Attraction experts recommend daily visualization exercises in which you conjure up a vivid sense of what your life partner would be like. Meanwhile, you can also create a dream board that represents all the traits you’re looking for and your image of how this relationship will improve your life.
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